alicia98981

Life events for changes outside of open enrollment are typically marriage, birth, adoption and death - not sure about divorce. I do know that immigration wasn't listed when I was looking to add my wife. If HR is unsure, you could contact your provider directly to inquire. You'll be paying from the date you add your spouse, so if it's several months before they arrive, consider the cost of adding them in advance. As far as the SSN, I was able to use all zeroes, as previously mentioned, until she obtained her number.

My wife just finished her citizenship classes, passed the interview and is waiting for her oath. This process has been an eye opener for me. In her class she met two Vietnamese ladies who had already become citizens but wanted to learn more about the U.S. Then there were the two Mexican gentleman she met who are here illegally. They were taking the class to learn about the U.S even though they acknowledged the can never apply for natualization.

Well for one, I haven't stated the branch of service or position I work in because it's irrelevant to the discussion. Second, my fiance and I have decided to postpone marriage until I'm more comfortable with it. If I can't listen to the criticism from family and friends without harboring some of the doubt projected, then I, for myself need more time. I'm sure there is a lot of great immigration information coming from some individuals who have been on the forum a lot longer. However, I also believe there is a way that constructive criticism can be given without being rude or nasty to other individuals posting on the forum. Reading a lot of the comments, the good and bad, have made me more comfortable about pausing because I want to be sure and 100% ready for my one and only marriage when it does happen.

Lady you should go back the original comment posted. I asked to be directed to the posts referred not relationship advice. Second I said when, YOU serve, you can come can come and talk to me. Not cousin, not your uncles and aunties, not your nieces and nephews, not your neighbor Bob, your best girl Sally, but YOU. I have been in the service 9 years. That's 9 longer than you have even thought about raising your hand and ever uttering an oath and commitment and you have audacity sit behind a computer screen and tell me about something I have given my time and service to? News Flash: every individual in the military is not currently on a tour of duty. We do have peace time, and we do have to serve our current duty stations. Your lack of reading comprehension failed you in understanding "easy, but with reservations". If your nephews or anyone else of whatever branch in the service find it difficult to do their job, i.e showing up for work on time in the proper uniform, ready to do your job, complete tasks as assigned by your leadership, and ensuring you follow the instructions given by your leadership outside of a deployment, which less than 15% of all military personnel are currently on, then they probably need to be looking at retiring. So what if I have reservations about marrying a foreigner. It doesn't mean we don't love and care for each other, but it also means that I'm not totally stupid and very much aware of fraud and ulterior motives. Ever heard of a prenup? That thing people to get protect themselves if their marriage fails? Well guess what? It doesn't mean I doubt my fiance, but I damn sure wanna make sure I'm not making a mistake either. Been around the military my entire life as an army brat, having two parents, and a host of family members, and some random tells me she knows about how hard a military life is because 3 people she never gave birth to do it. You married your husband, he turned out to be a great guy. Congratulations, despite this foolishness you're displaying, I am genuinely happy you found love and it has been kind to you. But you have the nerve to walk around with your nose in the air like those of us who want the same thing are fools for thinking things through. You may know immigration better, but lets getting something straight. You don't know everything and my relationships and the military are two places of knowledge you lack severely. Don't respond. I have nothing else to say to you, I'm too old to be going back and forth with ignorant people with nothing to contribute but judgement. Save yourself the trouble. You'll only look whiny, nitpicky, and eagered for the last word. If your only reason for joining this forum is to pick apart individuals and their relationships, you are a lost cause. I admired your previous comments on other posts but clearly I misjudged you and your the worth of your comments. Good day to you ma'am, your presence is no longer acknowledged.

Dude chill out. I'm a June filer too and would I love for my petition to be expiated so I can move on with my life? Of course. No one is saying forget the previous filers who have not yet received their NOA2, but let's be honest. Everyone wants their petition to go fast as possible, not just filers who have waited a long time. Furthermore, the fact that in my opinion K1s from the Philippines are still being expiated and he happens to be a fliler with beneficiary from the Philippines, and other Filipino K1s are rolling pretty fast, he has every right to wonder if his will be too. Some of y'all previous filiers need to chill out with all the animosity towards more recent filers who want their petitions speed up just like you do. Just because you've had a long wait does not mean it's any easier for someone who is clearly going to have wait as long as if not longer than you. Madness. Nobody is trying to take your spot in this long line, like for real guy, good grief. . .

I think we have the worst luck. Our K1 was denied.

oh no I dont doubt that. If anything like everyone else says, you have a really good chance, far better than most, to get your visa. Side note, a friend of mine who lived in Poland for a few year's playing pro basketball said he had a really good experience there. Said good things about Poland ?. . .

just a few days. they send them out in batches

Best advice I could give you? Don't use a lawyer and follow the visa journey guides!

Best advice I could give you? Don't use a lawyer and follow the visa journey guides!

In my experience, United and Delta usually have the highest rates, which is why I try to go with a foreign carrier with the same price or lower each time I'm jetting off to Europe or some random country around the world. Foreign carriers just have way better service and I know EXACTLY what chicken meal you're talking about on United! I get to South America maybe once a year and that's it, so I can't recommend any really good ones from there. But man, I would fight tooth and nail not to fly United back to the US lol! If you want fly on American which is one world, I suggest the Qatar, Quatas, or British Airways and definitely the Asiana programs first, then American. A foreign carrier program will give you domestic lounge access American won't.

Ha! *virtual hi five!* Congrats by the way! Welcome to the club! I bet these "What were you doing when you got approved" stories are hilarious!

Whew!!!! ???? CONGRATS! You guys have earned it!

You'll hear something soon, hon, hopefully before the end of the year, it's coming. . .

I'm sending a hand written letter to Ted Cruz, my senator, today to let him know how ticked off I am about the current status of our legal immigration system and specifically how screwed up TSC is. I can're file inquires on your behalfs of course but I will certain mention that he should do a better job and see how pissed off his fellow citizens and future constituents are about our legal system and how nerve racking it is. . .
*Side More* I nominate Josh to become a pinned topic. Thank you once again Josh for the blessing you have been to all of us and the help you have been to reduce our anxiety! Hoping you guys get approvals soon!

I think he means that MENA and Middle Eastern countries. We have more scrutiny and possibly longer waits because Americans swear that everyone from those countries are potential terrorists or have bad intentions. . .

Glory to be to God, we just got approved! Thanks Josh for your program. Yamen I hope you're next!

This is madness. While I'm happy that I have received my own approval, it still bothers me that other people before me are still waiting. I'm still sending a letter to my congressmen about TSC/CSC discrepancies . . .

easy man
we're the fillers of June TSC and till now we haven't got any sign

I think you and I had the same conversation! ? The people who answer the phones must really hate their jobs and the service centers. . . .

You shove as much evidence down their throats as possible and try to prove every point they said that was a red flag wrong!

I've also posted this forum las week...from what I understand Texas processes the east coast heavier populated states such as NY, FL..etc. common sense would say this system needs to be fixed bcause it really is not fair to many people....its like having two long lines and instead of moving people to the shorter line you keep them in the long one and you just stand there watching people who come in later leave before you all happy w their food while u still hungry ? system sucks point blank needs restructuring!

That was quite a compelling write-up. The responses you got are what I expect. There is unfortunately too much immigration fraud that occurs and it is easy to say move on, leave him etc. But your story says something different to me. There are hints of hope in your story and hints that perhaps we are seeing only one side of the issue or at least a slanted view of things. *IF* you want to make this work then I think there may be hope. Here's why I say this:
1) You say you've known him for 8 years - this does not sound like the typical marry for a green card situation, clearly you were happy with each other at one time.
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It sounds to me like there is a distance between the two of you that did not exist when you were courting.
He does not sound to me like he is violent. If he is violent that changes everything. But claiming that some customs would say he has a right to hit you if you do not obey is more a statement of fact, (some customs do condone this horrific behavior) than anything else.
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If I try to read between the lines and try to see this from his side I could say that perhaps his side would be:
- You have some beliefs and fears about Islam and are 'looking' for any indication that his beliefs will be disruptive to you.
(He asked you to cover, you said no he dropped it), (His Arab friends at work said...)
- You are trying to change him, manage him
(he needs to take english classes, he needs a better job, etc.)
- Financially you are 'keeping score'
(he needs to help with the expenses of bringing him here, he sends money to home, I provided a car, etc.)
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*IF* you want to save this I would suggest a couple of things:
Refind some common interests and focus on those not day to day things. Things you can do together that make you happy. Talk to a marriage counseler to help the two of you.
Find out what he's doing on his cellphone, see if you can be involved in that too or find out why what he's doing on the cellphone is more interesting than spending time with you.
Take an interest in ISLAM perhaps even talk with a Moderate or Liberal IMAN. My understanding of Islam is that there is common ground with Christianity in the Old testament. You can't be the only couple in the USA that is of mixed religions. Find a way to embrace the best of both religions rather than it being something that devides you.
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BUT ABOVE ALL ELSE.. Think back to who the two of you were and decide for yourself first if it's worth trying to save. I see in your post that you are not ready to give up and though there are signs of problems you also seem to not paint a picture of an abusive, controlling freeloading man with whom you have no hope of a future.
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May God bless you both and may He help guide you to what is best for both of you.

This is the only accurate post in here - I am sorry for your situation, and for the unbelievable judgment that has gone on in his post - It's amazing what people infer - Did he say he was visiting the US to see his now wife and got someone else pregnant? Ummm.... no - He clearly had a visitor or a work visa and met his wife on one of the trips - and probably dated others prior to that - For all anyone reading this knows - the baby could have been born before he even met his wife - Or it could be a lie by someone who was jilted and is trying to hurt him - The man was upfront with his wife about the situation - he came here asking for help - so if you can't provide it, why bother judging?
Follow the steps above - If you can't reschedule, and manage to patch things up with your wife, you will have to start over with immigration - Hope it works for you

I'm not here to argue with you guy. There are opinions and then there is factual information about visas and likewise. I suggest if you feel so strongly about his marriage and the opinions of other posters, you inbox him and give him your one on one opinion and leave the rest of us out of it.
Good luck to the OP on whatever decision you choose. I hope it's the best for you guys!