Lingon

Why stay with someone who clearly doesn't love and respect you anymore? 

And we chose the K1 because it was faster, and because my fiancé didn't like the idea of living without his new wife. We also wanted to enjoy our engagement and not have to jump the gun on the marriage (yes, we might be hopeless romantics still).
Pro's and con's to each path :-) Each situation and couple is different :-)

There is no way of telling which visa will be the fastest way than to look at statistics. I wanted to get married in Sweden with my family and friends around me as we were going to live in the U.S.A, so that's what we did and therefore we applied for CR-1. We ended up in backlogs and RFEs we already sent them several times and after 1,5 years after we got married, I almost gave up on us and we started to discuss if we should just get at divorce and move on with our lives separately. Instead I quit my job and traveled to stay with my husband on the ESTA visa for three months and by the end of my visit the embassy in Stockholm gave me an appointment for the interview. Only good thing that came out of it was that I received LPR instead of CR..... But if I had known it would take that long I would have applied for the K1 instead.
Sorry to hear that you too Scandi regret your choice of visa even if your experience is the opposite from mine. Cross my fingers for your visa journey to speed up now!
Americanboy, you and your Danish girlfriend just have to read through the options and make up your mind about what route is the best for you two whatever advice you receive from here or anywhere else. Good Luck to you, whatever you choose!

The question has already been answered. Your wife cannot enter with her student visa with the intent to adjust status.Since you obtained your GC through marriage you will need to be an LPR for 5 years before you can petition the next wife, unless you can convince them strongly that you didn't enter the marriage to get a GC. Based on your timescale of divorce and re-marry that is unlikely to happen. USCIS has seen this situation many times before.

I'm and American citizen and I know better than that. Before I even chose to marry, I studied the subject. I don't expect the red carpet treatment, I expected a long wait. What I didn't expect was to see was the unbalance between the different service centers and the questionable order in which cases are accepted.

What would make the process fairer is if the files were at least started to be processed in as close to the order they were received as possible.
So person A sends in their file in Jan, Person B sends their file in May..
Person A's file should be opened for adjudication before person B's.
At that point if Person A has a very complicated case and it takes months to process name checks then they may very well get their approval months after person B is approved.
But what we see happening in the current system is that one center is moving so much faster than another that people who file months and months after a poster who's zip code sent them to a different service centre are still waiting for their file to be picked up off a shelf.
And sometimes there are similar discrepancies at the same service centre (goodness knows what happened then - files left in a storage room forgotten for a few months, who knows)
The above happened to me back in 2007/8. We filed in Oct. 2007 There was a huge backlog at VSC. By January CSC was processing people who filed months after us. At this point our check hadn't even been cashed so our file was just sitting somewhere untouched on a shelf. Then even more annoying there were people from VSC who filed in February and afterwards who were being processed and there was a big bunch of us on here who were Oct-Dec filers who didn't get our files even picked up and looked at for nearly ten months.
And over the last 8 years on this board I've seen similar things happen over and over.
The problem is USCIS systems would need a huge expensive overhaul which I don't think anyone is prepared to do for the small numbers of visa filers it affects in relation to the millions of visas which are processed each year.

IMO that's almost as bad as somebody using a USC to obtain a greencard. She's not his child who needs to abide by his wishes in order to be rewarded. She's a human being.

its good to know she can work if she want without his influence at least thank you guys

"I don't know how far the right of husband goes to stop his wife from working or doing what she wants."
Right?
None. Nada. Zero. Zip. Zilch.
She's in America now and she can do whatever the hell she wants as far as her career goes. He cannot force her to stay at home and not have a job. And it's really cruddy of him to change his mind about her career expectations now that she's here.
Love,
A chirping feminist

I agree, I have always worked but for a small period of time when I was waiting for EAD, I would not like to depend only on what my husband's wants to give me.

Some people don't feel fulfilled simply being a housewife. If she wants to work, why not allow that?

Yes, a little understanding from others can soothe the frustration and a little cheering from others can give a person some new energy. Compare to your example with dying relatives I guess I have nothing to complain about, as both me and my husband doing fine, just want to do super fine together in a not too distant future. Hope that will happen to you too very soon

Thank you for this thread. Not that I have anything to say really, but i am so frustrating this taking such a long time. When me and my husband started this process I was naive to think if you did everything right it would be approved within a year for sure. I wanted to marry here among my family and friends as me and my husband will live in the States and I was prepared to wait for a year to organize everything here for the move. If I had known we would have received RFE:s even if we done the application correctly and that it would delay our case with months I would have chose the fiance visa instead, because this wait isn't worth having the wedding in your home country. At best it seems like our case will be done in January/February, taking more than 18 months from start. Seeing other people walking past us all the time really feels unfair when there is no reason to restrain us... I am happy our time line isn't the normal, just want the approval to happen to us too soon. Wish everyone Good Luck on their process.

Thank you for this thread. Not that I have anything to say really, but i am so frustrating this taking such a long time. When me and my husband started this process I was naive to think if you did everything right it would be approved within a year for sure. I wanted to marry here among my family and friends as me and my husband will live in the States and I was prepared to wait for a year to organize everything here for the move. If I had known we would have received RFE:s even if we done the application correctly and that it would delay our case with months I would have chose the fiance visa instead, because this wait isn't worth having the wedding in your home country. At best it seems like our case will be done in January/February, taking more than 18 months from start. Seeing other people walking past us all the time really feels unfair when there is no reason to restrain us... I am happy our time line isn't the normal, just want the approval to happen to us too soon. Wish everyone Good Luck on their process.

i think my question would be if this person is not someone that you want to spend your life with the LOGICAL and REASONABLE thing to do is get a divorce. why are you even thinking about immigration? this is just sad.... to make it seem that immigration is the fix to your marriage problems.
i dont think i can ever think to harm my spouse ( whom i petitioned to come to the USA).
i'm sorry you think this way. your husband is a human not some packaged goods you bought from an online store and want to return.

If you want to divorce him then simply divorce him and withdraw the I-864. End of story.
You aren't immigration and can not deport him neither can you call immigration to have him 'picked up' and returned like a fed ex package.

I've already said twice I am not judging her relationship.
For all I know he's been awful to her which is why she feels like this.
I'm replying to the comments about wanting to send him away and calling immigration.
(And now I see this is before she even tells/told him she wants a divorce)
One cannot do that.
To call immigration on someone you brought over to marry not matter the circumstances is wrong.
If my husband did that to me no matter what I did would break me in half.
Anyway.
You need to tell him you want a divorce, get a divorce lawyer, and withdraw your support.
Best bet is to call uscis and get information from them on what to do.

My comments had nothing to do with your reasoning, I take no opinion in them because they are true to you.
My comments were with your choice for words to do with deportation.
You should divorce him before deportation.
Does he know you want a divorce so soon?

First of all, that is horrible.
coming from a fiances point of view you cannot turf us away and send us away like an unwanted puppy.
also wanting to call immigration on us? I am lost for words.
I won't judge on you because I obviously don't know your reasons for wanting a divorce, but it gets sad when I see people treating those of us
who come over in what was good faith be treated like you can send us back like a gift you didn't like.
If you divorce BEFORE AOS is approved then yes this person will probably be deported.
You have to contact USCIS and withdraw your support/application.
Someone should be along to explain it better.

Him staying out like that and not making a phone call to let you know what's up is totally unacceptable. What an immature brat !
You have to get out, yoga, educational or hobby classes, church, something to make you happy and feel content.

Hope things will turn around for you, you deserve better and someone who actually feels privileged to spend time with you.
Where in LA do you live ? I have a very good friend there, you can inbox me and if you aren't too far you two can go out for a cup of java
and have a chit chat. Knowing the area she could be of help on where to do what.

What he seems to be showing is his true colors and level of emotional maturity. What's is going to be like when you have children ? His priorities seem to be: Beer, friends, video games....lastly you.
Think this decision through carefully...and then do it.
There is no shame in making a mistake, but to keep repeating the same mistake...
Best of luck !

Congratulations to you Married4Life13 and good luck with NVC.
Unfair at 5-6 months Azim? I sure hope you or nobody else who does this with no fraud in mind ever have to wait as long as us, heading 11 months and still no decision. Had 2 RFE for marriage certificate that we already sent them with the petition. Husband called them and they said it is not unusual for them to ask for the same evidence again.., Now their 60 days to respond on our last RFE is up and still no decision or update from them.
Our case was transferred from MSC to CSC in January. Always read here it is the fastest center to give you a decision. Well, I haven't noticed that. Maybe VSC is, having two quick approvals just in this thread. Don't give me wrong, I am happy for you , I just wish our case would move on too.
Maybe your case moved on so quickly because you had such a good name here Married4Life13, ;-).

There is nothing here for her? Wrong! She obviously has a family here that cares for her. Then you continue with "your aunt is not owed anything" ? I mean really? Before being harsh on people and brushing them off the way you do, re-think your purpose on this forum. This forum exists for people to help and support each other not for anyone to vent their frustration after a bad hair day.
We are here to bounce ideas about SOLUTIONS, not to pour water on a drowning man!
Some people ( you know, human beings like all of us) dropped everything they had in their home countries: Business, houses, career, etc, and you have that little respect for this ? What if it was you?

So you never filed to adjust her status?
When did you find out about the child?

Well, you can't send her home... But you can report the fraud... Since she has not yet adjusted status or been issued a green card... You need to IMMEDIATLY pull the 864 affidavit of support...