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Mand

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  1. I suppose if you want to let what other people do bother you...*shrug* My point is WHY be bothered? Who the frick cares what anyone else does?

    I agree, we've all probably got enough to worry about in our own day to day lives without being bothered what others think.

  2. we had 2nd interview at the same DO. it was rough. very detailed. most questions were asked about sex. and bedroonm.at the end of interview, my wife was asked to bring new medical. we just got our passport stamped couple days ago. still no green card.

    :o:o:o about sex???????????

    If that came up as a question in an immigration interview, I would tell them "none of your business". There's lines that cannot be crossed, even by an interviewing officer...that is just demeaning and rude!!

  3. No as far as I know there s no problem, my husband came from Cuba on a I-129F visa, and after we married he went back to Cuba, not because we intent to live in Cuba but because we were advised that once we got married he had to return and them apply for a I130. And this is what we are doing, Once I found out that this was not the proper way to go called Immigration Office and they said that it was no problem to go ahead an apply for I-129 and the I-130, that s were we are at know.

    A I 129F is not a visa. It is a form that one fills out when petitioning for both K1 and K3s.

    At any rate, I'm not sure how your situation is the same as what the OP wants to do. It sounds as if you were planning to reside in the US.

    She meant the K-1 if you see her timeline...just called it by the petition name ;) All the numbers and letters sometimes get jumbled up along the way!

  4. I think if people have been communicating for awhile, have feelings for each other, meet and decide to become engaged, we should trust their judgement as we don't know what goes on behind closed doors. However, if a family member or friend thinks they are jumping into things too fast, I'm sure they would talk to the person and make sure they are 100% positive about their decision.

    I do understand where you're coming from, saying if people have not been talking for long, only meet briefly and then decide to become engaged, how you could see some issues there. Heck, I know if one of my sisters or friends was seeing someone for a short period of time (face-to-face) and then decided to become engaged, I'd be wondering if she was sure, if he was a good person, would it last? BUT we have to give people credit for their decisions.

  5. The K-1 visa is for couples intending to marry and reside in America, it is not a tourist visa. It takes time, effort and money and I wouldn't go down that road if you have no intention of using it.

    In saying that, if you receive it, there are no penalties once you leave before the 90 days are up...except maybe that an American visa was obtained under false pretences i.e. fraud.

  6. As a couple who met in Ireland, lived together in Ireland, and had all the other face-to-face couple things, I have to disagree with your idea of couples such as myself and Rob getting preferential treatment. Where do you draw the line? The only thing I feel (immigration wise) we had extra was supporting documentation...lease, bills, etc. I never expected to be shuttled to the front of the line because of our situation.

    The reality is, that the internet has opened up a wider world for people. Should people be told their case is not as important because they met online...I think that's a slap in the face to these couples.

  7. No i dont like drama in my relationship. But i think its so hard to let go of something i worked so long and hard to make and i lost all contact with real life since being with him from oct 03 til present i guess im just holding onto hope which doesnt exist as far as me and him.

    I had my sister in front of me, and neither me nor my family could talk any sense into her. Unfortunately she had to figure it out herself the hard way...and believe me, it was a hard lesson that I wouldn't wish on anyone.

    Shannon, I hate to think of anyone going through the same thing, but I think you have a long hard road ahead of you and my heart goes out to you.

  8. well.. my daughter is very important to me and most important. I love her and that is reason i stood by my grounds and my husband left. But it doesnt change the fact i somehow fell victim for my husbands words and the way he told me how and what kind wife an indian man expects. i tried to split myself for his sake , even when i went to meet him blindly in india i left my daughter for one month and the writing was on the wall then when i was there he didnt bother to let me call her only once time..so Yes seeking a therapist now would be best because i know somehow all the emotional abuse made me lose direction of alot of things. and I bended to much for him , i did what i could , i allowed him to control my feelings and my life. still i dont know how to ignore him..Its so hard..

    Do you like drama in a relationship? I have a younger sister who was so warped and twisted by mental abuse from a boyfriend that she will never be the person she was. She kept going back because she began to thrive on the drama of it all...and now she is a far cry from the happy go lucky girl she once was.

    For the love of God and all that is good...Stop all contact with this man. Pls seek help so you can build a healthy home life for your daughter.

  9. Well .. so true.. I am not planning to tell anyone at work this situation. But u know the worst part is.. Im so much worried about my husband and because of the emotional abuse im worried something will happen to him there or he wont be loved there ect.. I guess its the nurse in me as well.. Im nurturing and soft hearted person.. Because he tells me he dont eat now ect ect..

    i know i must seem so stupid and gullable ...

    So he's also playing on your weaknesses? Open your eyes to how manipulative this man really is...he is poison through and through.

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