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Right! https://help.cbp.gov/app/answers/detail/a_id/354/~/moving-to-the-u.s.---duty-free-entry-of-unaccompanied-goods,-firearms,-gift

When you get married, you have to give up certain things. Of course, you gain a lot too, so it's not all negative. But, you give up dating other people. You give up a totally selfish existence. No matter how "cool" the marriage is, there is no way to erase the fact that by being married a person now has a responsibility to another person. A married person has to think about their spouse, consider their spouse, make a life with their spouse. Ignoring them, drinking with old single buddies, sleeping away from home, and never thinking to give a call to one's wife, is not responsible or considerate. It is purely selfish. Of course, many married people still hang out with their old friends, they have guys' nights (or girls' nights) and have fun. But there has to be a limit, because the person is now married. Things change, and that is scary, but that is life. The married person now has a family, and not a stand-in parent who they can sass and ignore like a teenager, but a new family that they have to cherish and care for, like a responsible person.
Add to all of this that the new family moved from a different country to be here, then I think the US person has an added responsibility to spend time with that person on days off, to plan fun days and to live their life together. If you only have one day off together, that should be a long date day, I would think, especially for newlyweds. That should be the day where you sleep in and eat brunch together and go explore something and make memories. Where you unwind from the workweek and remind yourselves why you wanted to be together.
I am not sure why this guy ever thought that life wouldn't change when he got married, that he could disappear overnight and that his wife wouldn't wonder or care, but he was wrong. For your part, I assume you didn't tell him right away that it was not okay, and I understand that, because I imagine you wanted to be a "cool" non-pressuring wife. But now he doesn't understand why it's wrong, and he is probably wondering what changed.
But things changed when he decided to get married. I am sure he still loves you, but it seems to me he is taking you for granted and thinking that he gets everything he wants, all the buddy time he wants, all the wife time he wants. But you are a person, not a thing that appears or disappears when convenient, and that is life. That is what he signed up for when he married you.
Talk to him, try to explain very clearly what is wrong about the situation. Hopefully he understands an is willing to start a life together, with you. Best of luck.

No idea why they're interested in educational records from those ages, but secondary school is high school in the US (kids aged roughly 14-18 in grades 9-12). College/university is referred to as post-secondary education.

Nope not a guy thing. I am raising my 3 year old by my self and have been since he was three months. I cook, clean, budget, wash clothes, all while skyping my fiancee 10 hours a day ever single day since we met.I don't drink not even a little. I don't smoke or hang out with friends. It's not a guy thing it's an immature thing.
He really needs to grow up and realize that his wife comes first and she should be the most important person in his life. It's ok to have friends, but his wife is and should be his best friend. But that's just me!!

Op I am sorry to hear that you are going through this.
What I don't understand is why would anyone go through this whole difficult, stressful long process just to act a fool when their love one gets here. I just don't understand. If you want to be single be single, don't go through this whole process and have your love one give up everything, and start all over just for you to ignore,act mean, or abuse them. Everyone has issues no one person is perfect, but hanging out with friends and drinking and sleeping over a friends when you are marred is completely wrong in my book.
I truly feel for you and I really hope you can talk to him and you two can fix this problem.
The way I am when I Skype my fiancee is the Same person I will be when she gets here and vice versa. There is no secrets and we shown each other all sides of our selves the good and the bad. We have no surprises.
That's another thing that gets me, how can some people not see what they are getting into, I am sure there had to have been some signs he likes to drink and hanging out with friends, unless it got worse when you got there. I just don't get it!!!!

The visa will be ready for pick up on Monday!!!! We are on track!! Everyone here is amazing-pants! Thank you :-D

Suddenly thinking it's a shame Hotter Otter never got into following the NVC threads Oh what fun we could've had!

Suddenly thinking it's a shame Hotter Otter never got into following the NVC threads Oh what fun we could've had!

OK this is a rant so if you don't like them then look away now just had to vent about my experience so far..





There was recently an article in one of the more left leaning UK newspapers written by an illegal immigrant in the US about how badly he has been treated there. He wrote about how his family crossed the Rio Grande when he was a child with him on their backs. In the comments section, one commentator wrote “That’s nothing; you should try legally immigrating to the US”. High five to that person. The US immigration system is so broken that it’s a joke, yet the administration wants to fix the system for illegals and doesn’t give a damn about legal immigrants, the families of US citizens who the government is supposedly there to serve. Now I occupy the middle ground on this, I don’t want to deport everyone and I don’t want to allow everyone in, but surely fixing problems with legal immigration should take precedence especially given the fees charged for the process.





After a wait of nearly a full calendar year just to obtain my Visa (thanks for approving DACA and causing all those delays to legal immigrants Obama), a mistake was made in recording my name as I entered the United States. Not only that but the person who processed my Visa at the airport processed me as a K1 not a CR1. Nice one buddy. That's sarcasm, I'm British (although the guy at POE probably recorded me as Polish given the other mistakes made). This mistake means that I am unable to get a Social Security Number until it is fixed. Now, here’s the problem… nobody is responsible for anything in the US it seems and they will do anything to fob you off on another agency. We have already visited the Social Security Office twice to see if it’s been sorted (granted it’s not their fault but it’s frustrating that they can’t help) and the CBP deferred inspections at Logan Airport who tried to help but were ultimately unsuccessful.





At least the staff at these two places tried to help us. We had an infopass at the local USCIS office today to try and fix the issue once and for all. The member of staff we saw could not have been less helpful, I would have said had he tried but he was clearly actively trying to be as unhelpful as possible. He told us that the Embassy should fix it, despite the fact that the telephone helpline from his own agency, the SS office and the CBP had told us USCIS would fix it. I’ll just fly back to London at the most expensive time of year to fix a problem that he could fix himself shall I? When informed of this he told us that the helpline was useless anyway. He then proceeded to go out the back and do something and told us that he’d sorted the issue. Given that he’d previously said he couldn’t do anything and how unhappy he was to help, my wife and I are highly suspicious that he actually did anything. So now we have to find out if anything has been done with our file (probably via CBP at the airport) before we attempt to get an SSN again.





After waiting so long to get a Visa this extra delay to get everything sorted has been completely exasperating and made even worse when every person you contact sends you in a different direction. The man at the SS Office told us that mistakes at POE were not uncommon and the lady I spoke to at the Airport couldn’t believe how someone with my passport in front of them made such an easy mistake. In addition to this the attitude of the guy at the USCIS office and his assertion that his own agency’s helpline is useless makes one thing clear… train people properly and fix the system for legal immigrants instead of spending years arguing over what to do with illegal immigrants!



Yours truly, a frustrated new American resident

Sadly it's not just you, definitely come around to the NVC August thread for some support during this second horrible backlog

CBP is the one that handles the fixes into the SAVE database system.
It's a batch system - updates take a week or more to be live.
You should stick with CBP human until they are certain the fix is live. Go in person to the CBP office, each time. Sure, it's a hassle, but it is what it is.
Then go to SSA office.
Sorry for yer pain, though.

Certified copies are 100% acceptable, it's notarized copies that are checklist-worthy. I think people might get confused about the differences between the two and use the terms interchangeably when they shouldn't.

Certified copies are 100% acceptable, it's notarized copies that are checklist-worthy. I think people might get confused about the differences between the two and use the terms interchangeably when they shouldn't.

Certified copies are 100% acceptable, it's notarized copies that are checklist-worthy. I think people might get confused about the differences between the two and use the terms interchangeably when they shouldn't.

Certified copies are 100% acceptable, it's notarized copies that are checklist-worthy. I think people might get confused about the differences between the two and use the terms interchangeably when they shouldn't.

Certified copies are 100% acceptable, it's notarized copies that are checklist-worthy. I think people might get confused about the differences between the two and use the terms interchangeably when they shouldn't.

It's not recommended to complete the medical prior to your case arriving in London after interview assignment. You want your documents to already be there because Knightsbridge forwards your results directly. Having a case to match them to minimizes chances of things getting misplaced. Also remember that you have to enter the US within 6 months of your medical date or have another medical performed, as it has to be valid at POE.
(Sorry to step on Bobbie's toes, work is slow today finally )

I believe Jamaica is part of the Hague Convention, so if your husband got divorced here, then you are legally divorced. Did he ever serve you with the divorce papers?
As for the denial of the CR1, you technically can apply for the K1 since you are divorced. However, as already mentioned you HAVE to know why you were denied the CR1 in the first place, these things don't just go away.
For example, we did it the other way around. We were denied the K1 because we couldn't prove the "bona fide" as well as make it clear enough that we would marry within the 90 days, clearly it was denied since I was unable to attend the interview. We married a few months later and did the CR1 process and were able to convince the consul of our relationship through a bunch of annoying questions, (he didn't care much for the docs) I never even withdrew the original I-129F after it was sent back to USCIS.
Everyone's situation is different. Therefore, you need to know why the CR1 was denied and what you can do to overcome that ineligibility, otherwise you cannot get approved. The consulate had to have given you a letter of denial stating under what provision your visa was denied.

It's not recommended to complete the medical prior to your case arriving in London after interview assignment. You want your documents to already be there because Knightsbridge forwards your results directly. Having a case to match them to minimizes chances of things getting misplaced. Also remember that you have to enter the US within 6 months of your medical date or have another medical performed, as it has to be valid at POE.
(Sorry to step on Bobbie's toes, work is slow today finally )

It's not recommended to complete the medical prior to your case arriving in London after interview assignment. You want your documents to already be there because Knightsbridge forwards your results directly. Having a case to match them to minimizes chances of things getting misplaced. Also remember that you have to enter the US within 6 months of your medical date or have another medical performed, as it has to be valid at POE.
(Sorry to step on Bobbie's toes, work is slow today finally )

It's not recommended to complete the medical prior to your case arriving in London after interview assignment. You want your documents to already be there because Knightsbridge forwards your results directly. Having a case to match them to minimizes chances of things getting misplaced. Also remember that you have to enter the US within 6 months of your medical date or have another medical performed, as it has to be valid at POE.
(Sorry to step on Bobbie's toes, work is slow today finally )

Super duper huge congrats!!! :joy:

VISA APPROOOOOVEEEDDD!!!
I will be posting his interview review to our timeline shortly. His interview was at 8am this morning and he was in and out in less than an hour!! MY HUBBY IS COMING HOME ON THE 30TH WITH MEEE!!!! YAYYY!!!!!!
Thank you to everyone in this community who has supported us and been there with us through the frustrations, tears, small triumphs, and finally here at the last steps before we are together permanently (esp my Sept peeps and Brit/American duos - lookin at you guys!). Y'all are the best and for those still waiting on your next step, we wish you the best of luck and we're cheering for you on each of your individual journeys.

Nothing about the IV is dependent on AOS You could have your IV reviewed without ever mailing AOS in.

Nothing about the IV is dependent on AOS You could have your IV reviewed without ever mailing AOS in.