Deeda

Hi!
What I did was to take my birth certificate to be translated at the Ministry of Foreign Affairs. I think that's the best you can do

I will tell you I am stressed, depressed ,I am the care giver to my brother who is dying of a rare cancer called GIST and liver cancer because of GIST. I haven't seen my husband in 10 months. I have to have 2 surgeries because of my own conditions. Now tell me about stress? let's all be reasonable we all have many things in life happening to us and definitely need our love one beside us :(Look at our timeline you'll see how long we been waiting and I am not being mean but I seen someone wanting to expedite before because of a exam in USA made this can be rescheduled can someone's life be ??? venting sorry

I agree, you have received some very good advice here. The best thing I could suggest is for you to understand that she is a filipina and by nature, filipinas are dramatic. You need to remain calm and give her guidance. Tell her that this will end when the governments all decide that it is her turn. If she focuses on her problems, what she can't have, she will be very upset and create drama. I have found with my filipina fiancee that when she is very emotional and insecure, that is the best time for me to pull out my best reassurance speech. I tell her that nobody loves her the way I do and this journey we are on is part of the process and is necessary. I tell her how much I love her and how important it is that we remain positive. If she is stressed now, just imagine how she will interview.
The government will not react well to something so subjective as stress and depression, we all struggle with that as we wait for our number to come up. Just encourage her to focus on the process and to get involved in church, a gym, a job, a hobby, anything that will help her relax and spend her time wisely.

hhehe I just noticed the picture on the top of VJ website.. the road to a visa really looks like that

omgersh, it still annoys me to no end when people complain about waiting 3 months OR when people post a whole new thread to tell everyone they were approved in... 57 days! 62 days! or maybe 71 days! Yes, that really ticks me off. I think those people have no sense. You know most of the people on this site are waiting still for approvals and in agony, why would you make a show of your 2 month approval? argh.

Folks, I just got approved. I'm so sorry, for I know you deserve to get it before I do. VSC has taken something that should be a celebration and made it very awkward. I'm sorry, my friends. I will NOT abandon you as you wait...we are in this together!

Um, YES! Who was the person married to, Americans or foreigners? Why would you want to marry someone that showed their level of commitment to marriage with 6 divorces?

Not a all... It's absolutely normal... Seriously ?

Ok, to summertom:
As everyone said, 6 months is way too late. So she will have to go through with having the child.
For those of you going all out 'It's murder' and getting all emotion..THANK YOU MR AND MRS OBVIOUS, but what this OP needs is advice, not for your tears and screams. As if that helped anyone.
Options I see:
1. Take longer to do the immigration process. Let her have the baby and then:
- Let her parents take care of it.
- Get the child adopted. You won't have to think of having to support it since your fiance will probably remain anonymous to the child.
2. Include the baby in the k1 process.
- Get it adopted? It'll be harder at this point.
- Keep it. Why? Because the child will be half of your fiance's and yes another man's. However it is not the child's fault and separating child and mother will suck.
Now is the time for my opinion, read if you want.
In my opinion, a man who decides he's going to forgive his fiance for sleeping around, should be man enough to deal with the repercussions of the act. Not just sweep it under the rug.
I'm a woman, but if I was a man and I was in your situation, I would let her have the child and I would take care of it as my own. Just because the father is a douchebag, doesn't mean the child is the same. The child could be one of the best things that's ever happened to you. A birth is a miraculous thing.
If you're not willing to accept the child, maybe you are not truly willing to forgive? That's just a question, not an assumption.
Assumptions suck.

First an abortion at 6 months is not allowed based on the reasons ur discussing. 6 months is 26 weeks but I am assuming ur rounding the time out and if ur fiance is in her 28 weeks she is in her 3rd trimester. An abortion is normally performed in the first 14 weeks usually anything after that is only performed up to 24 weeks and that is only for medical health problems and is very uncommon. And if Colombia is anything like Chile which I am assuming it is from ur posts abortions are illegal so what u r considering is illegal since the baby is almost fully developed. Abortions at the stage you are taking about usually require the woman to actually give birth to the baby which will probably very traumatic to ur fiancé. If ur fiancé doesn't want the baby she should give it up for adoption. Everyone tells u to bring it to the USA an give it up for adoption but it very common in South American countries that the mother cannot take the child out of the country without written consent from the father and since that isn't an option since he hates u then u should look into giving the baby up for adoption in Colombia.

There are many many holes in her story to you, she is most likely scared of losing you and could be giving you a bunch of half-truths. Don't make any quick decisions out of ignorance or emotion. Let the kid live. Allow her time to have the child and if need she could give to the parents and/or grand parents to raise - this is very common in Colombia.
First - The Colombian culture is such that men/kids don't use a condom, so don't buy "that it broke".
Second - It's hard to hear but the culture is such that many many sleep with their "friends", this is probably a guy who used her in the past as a play thing and this is not so uncommon. Let's face it, sex in their culture is more of a biological process rather than our American concept of lovey-dovy forever do we part sort of thing!
On a personal note to you - unless your a true man with complete reasoning and confidence abilities - move on because your in store for some drama and a life that you maybe completely unprepared for.
Good luck to you both, now go make some good choices and decisions.

I am absolutely pro-choice, but 6 months is too late. If she wanted an abortion, she should have done it months and months ago. Time to deal with the consequences.
What kind of adult takes out their hatred for another man on a child?
You have issues. The visa sounds like the least of them.

This is what I found:
"If you have not yet obtained the K-1, then simply do not apply for it at the US embassy. If you have already obtained it, then simply do not use it. A third option is to infom the DOS and USCIS that you no long wish to have a petition in process in which you are the beneficiary. This may be necessary if you decide at a later time to attempt to obtain another non-immigrant visa to the US."
I hope this can help you!!