madtownguy

If you file your i751 and it doesn't get finished by the time your green card expires and you plan to leave the country do you need to do advanced parole?  I couldn't find if there is something needed to file for that situation.

If he knew he was taking the test why didn't he cleanse his system? Sounds like a drug problem. If I go to get my blood drawn for normal medical testing I change my eating habits and everything for a couple weeks to make sure my results are as good as possible. I'd slap him upside the head.

Her son is the BIGGEST part of the problem,unless you are a mother you cannot understand the bond between the two.

OP: reading a book as other have mentioned, isn't going to change the fact that she left her son behind

Every culture is different. I highly doubt that is the main part of the problem, it's something she will probably fall back on when lonely and bored. Everyone in my wives family works over seas and leaves their kids for long periods of time. I have a half Thai cousin who's parents got divorced and she goes back in forth for a year at a time with out seeing one parent. The Asian culture it is much more normal for this to happen. My wife didn't have kids and she felt the same when she got here. She goes back to her country 2 times a year and she still misses it a ton. If I moved to another country I would feel the same, it's normal. Obviously it's a good idea to get her son here, but I would make sure the relationship can work first before you go through that mess. Not everyone is meant to uproot their life and move to another country even if the living conditions could be a vast improvement.

I would just relax a little man. You're talking about a huge huge transition. The son could be part of the problem, but their culture it isn't odd to be away from kids like that. I'm assuming you've been married before, could be a bad assumption. But you do know women will hold anything you do wrong against you for the entire span of your relationships. So to analyze if pushing for a different phone made her upset, well you will know someday in a fight. My wife got mad I got her a flip phone before she got to the U.S. so she would have a phone that works the second she landed. I'm sure you will get things figured out, just remember not everyone can uproot and move to another country. It will take years to acclimate, but if things are off and you don't feel right don't get married. The English thing I think is a mistake, I have been in your shoes before with girls I've dated and the allure wore off really quickly for me when you can't talk with each other. Not saying it won't work, but that is a really tough combination you through into the mix of a relationship. Hopefully all will work out for the best, any relationship only requires two things to be successful. Two people trying to make it work.

If you have proof he forged documents that is all you could use, but that's not easy to prove. You should've seen the signs. Wanting to get someones citizenship revoked because they used you is vindictive. Moving on is the best option for you, but if he did break laws and you really think that'll make your life better do what you must. In the end you won't feel any better, you will feel better if you move on and find someone new though.

Part of being a good parent is rising up and not letting it bother you and treating the kids good all the time. I agree with the others just block contact if they bother you. Being a step parent is tough, but you have plenty of time at it you should just focus on the kids and not worry about their Mom.

Dude I'd throw out the divorce card, if she wants it then move on. You got a rotten egg in my opinion. Dowry's don't really happen anymore, if they tried to convince you of that their heart wasn't in the right place. I didn't send my wife a dime before she came to U.S., she only got money to help with visa process like $100 for hotel and photos and stuff. When my wife visits home she literally will spend under $100 in 3 weeks. Don't let her wrap you around your finger dude, there's too many fish in the sea. My wife pulls the live with friend card to get a job and make money, and I pull the just don't come back card because someone else will have your side of the bed in a few days. I don't play those drama games.

You can file divorce from India if you really want. Odds are your partner will file once they get a clue. Sorry it didn't work out.

There's millions of illegals in our country, I doubt they care much about your fiance. When she murders someone let them know... Hopefully a day comes where that changes. I would just move on and forget about her, it'll just ruin your life if you dwell on making hers harder.

His financial income of course has a bearing and it exceeds the amount required. Unless his income sources are not legal there is no issue.

No, they can NOT use any excuse they want to deny, again this is adjusting status with a IO,not dealing with a rogue CO.

Unfortunately they can and it sounds like they did. Any CO can use not enough evidence as an excuse because who is to say when there isn't a standard bar. So if a CO doesn't like you for some reason they can find a way to deny the visa. No matter how good the case it is always possible.

Why you chose to get out early has no bearing on whether you have a bona fide relationship or not. It's about as relevant as the color of your underwear.

It has a bearing if the person interviewing has a problem with a discharge or drawing funds. If he was former military also that could have been all it took. You're forgetting that this one person makes the decision, they can use any excuse they want to deny so to say it has no bearing isn't a realistic assessment.

OP either this guy didn't like you from the beginning or there is something else going on. Sounds like a pretty shitty experience, I think you did what you could so don't get down on yourself. I'll be totally honest and devils advocate if I were giving an interview and found out you make 70k and get some kind of pay from the government for military disability type thing I might be a little upset myself. I don't really know how that system works, just saying that's the take I got from reading what you wrote.

No rights, I had something similar happen. You would have had to legally adopt the child for you to have parental rights.

I think the fraud detector will go off on this one. But who knows..

That's going to be tough, the age gap is one thing, then it is against traditional norms with the woman being the older, and then the biggest problem I think they will see is that you met her when you were 16, and you are still barely an adult in U.S. standards. I would be shocked if it got approved, but anything is possible. I wouldn't worry as much about the muslim thing, unless you do a lot of traveling to other countries.

Hello everyone,

I'm new to the forum and to this whole visa process. I just sent in our K-1 package last month. We received the NOA1 on December 28th. I'm the US Citizen and I'm petitioning for my fiance. He's 9 years younger than me and I was wondering if anyone has ever encounter an issue because of age. He looks older me.., thanks mom for the great genes!

I'm little worried that this might be an issue. I'm 45 he's 36,

That's nothing, you're fine.

I can't believe the responses, My k1 visa is from 2012 and you all assume this is for my wife? Simple questions are best answered with simple answers, you either know a lawyer that has helped someone or you do not.

Dude, save yourself the cash, man up, and go visit her instead.

That's pretty presumptive dude. Considering it should say next to my name I filed a K1 at some point.. My wife has been living here for 3 years.

I realize the odds of getting her sister a tourist visa are low, but it's so cheap to file, so to me it is worth the risk. She is married, there is a chance it would go through. My wife wants her here when giving birth. I tell people all the time if they don't mind losing the money it doesn't hurt to file, I'm in the same situation. For a couple hundred bucks it certainly doesn't hurt to try. I just don't want to be involved in the government paperwork side and will do more on the back end which is why I'd like someone over there to help her get everything set up.

Anyone know of any cheap services to help fill out for tourist visa in the Philippines? I don't really want to go through all the trouble researching when lawyers there should be fairly cheap.

This discussion goes both ways, some people will say disclose them some will say not to. I don't think it will matter much either way myself. They are minor so I would just disclose them, well I honestly wouldn't include any traffic related tickets but the trespassing is probably better to error on the side of caution.

Out of curiosity - from another forum...

A couple have their own business in their home country that they have had for some time. They want to move to the US. They are applying for an L1A visa ( through a US-based attorney) on the basis of setting up a new office in the US, At the moment they don't know exactly what type of business or where they want it to be in the US but once they have decided they will do the necessary premises rental etc for the visa. The plan is to apply for a green card as soon as they can once they have the L1 (which they seem confident of getting and have moved to the US. I don't know any more details such as type of business in the home country etc.

This seems to me like an incredibly easy way of getting a green card if you run your own business for a few years at home then apply for L1. Surely it's not that easy? Or have loads of people just missed a trick?

I just heard of someone doing something like that, but the business was around for years. They import goods into their country from the U.S. I don't think it is that easy but if you have a business where it benefits you to be in both countries then yes I believe it should be pretty simple and you can eventually apply for citizenship.

Yes getting married is a life changing event, although for her she needs a green card which will also be a life changing event. Either way ACA is too damn expensive, you're better off saving your money if you don't have a health problem. The dr's in my area have stopped taking ACA health insurance.

@Dario2012 - I didn't know better, otherwise I would have removed it. Can I do this now?

I do not mind being questioned about the new marriage. I would make sure to have ample evidence. Also, I am ready for the lie detector test if it goes as far as that concerning my previous marriage.

Devils advocate, they will scrutinize the person you are marrying also. They may not see you as the problem but your choice of a significant other and being duped. Not saying it couldn't be avoided. There's a chance you will have no problems at all though.

I think you have a good chance with the kid separated from parents, I would have your fiance push that very hard at the interview make sure she speaks up and doesn't let them railroad her although the interviews are very laid back so I doubt that'll be a problem.

I think you will be fine. Her going back was a good thing. I'm assuming she came here legally and just over stayed. I doubt they will go into who paid for the child and stuff like that. They might make her wait as a government form of time out, but she's already been gone for 6 years so I doubt it. There could be a lot of stuff that could come out, maybe even things you don't know about. She may have used a fake SSN, latina's aren't necessarily the most lay everything on the table people. But if it's a true relationship I think you will be ok. I suggest a lot of interaction with her child like you are the father at the interview. My ex and I fought at ours but the kids sat on my lap, it went smooth and she broke a lot of rules while here illegally. Good luck!

Hello,

I work in HR and I can tell you that employers do check to see if their employees are legal. It's simple as running the SSN. If your friend is using someone else's identity they will both be charged with fraud. He can get himself sent back for falsifying legal document and attesting that they are legal. Working at Wally world is just not that important in my opinion. Once you do that (falsifying docs) the employer is required by law to report it otherwise they face the chance of hefty fine from the government and they aren't going to risk that.

This is not accurate for all business I know that. Normally when the employer files their taxes they will get a letter back stating someone has a wrong SSN number, then they will have the chance to give the worker a chance to correct it. They could change one number and then the next year the same thing will happen. It's a really screwed up system with not so many checks and balances. And it is possible for someone to have a credit card with their name under a SSN that is not. Somehow our wise credit system didn't have a check with the government and if nobody is using the number they assume it is the first person who goes to use it. That is why there are babies being born now who find out or who's parents find out they have already experience identity theft. Such an interesting world we live in. Larger employers like Walmart may have more checks in place, but working for a smaller company I know they will not know if you SSN is good until tax time comes. Also if he's using an expired number that may be good enough, the number he got on his original visa will most likely still work.