riri82

wow, maybe just me ,people just try to respond your post and you seem ..

I will explain the issue to you and it's NOT my intention to make you feel bad or hurt you. I will simply lay out the problem and it may or may NOT apply to you or your SO. This is their train of thought:
It isn't unheard of to be denied due to the age difference. Now, know this is not based out of outright blatant discrimination, but based on the fact that it isn't a cultural norm from men from that region to marry a older female outside of child bearing age. For example: I am 7 years older than my husband- he is 29 and I'm 36. I'm still within child bearing age. But your case is rather difficult given you're over 20 years older.
Why? It is very common for young men from the MENA and Africa region to 'befriend' an older lady for the GC benefit and, once the 'visa journey' is completed (no pun intended) they abandon their spouse. It's called immigration fraud and the idea is to pull a con/ scam marriage on the victim. The common traits of the female victims are: white, divorced with children, outside of child bearing age, limited financial resources (so you don't hire a lawyer to come after them, LOL).
Again, this may not be your case. All you must do is proof beyond any doubt that your relationship is genuine.
Good luck

Although I believe the Kathryn is being PC with this subject and the OP, I dont believe that the issue lies within his poor English. I think the problem that were having, as the users of this site who make it what it is, full of knowledge and understanding, is that the OP has so many threads started with alot of different scenarios. So we, the users, have no clue what it is hes really looking for.
Yesterday was alot about being asked at an interview if hes had sex with his fiance.
Then it was posts about how they married in a church.
Then its about deportation.
And everything in between.
So please Kathryn, dont berate us, the users of this site, for calling a spade a spade. No one knows where in the process he really is, because he flips from fiance and K1 to already being married. When I first got here, I read, and read and read. Ive seen alot ( and I dont agree with this ) where a new user will ask a question and someone will link the guide lines. I do believe that we have a responsibility to the new people to aide them as much as we can, just like we once were, however, its very difficult for us to do it, when we dont know that situation and cant get a direct question without some random one coming up to threads later.
Most questions that we get from new users are in reference to forms, how to help with filling them out, these are the honest questions and they deserve honest answers. But to ask us, who dont know him, what he should say to a CO about having had sex with his finace, when we dont know if its a fiance or a wife, nor does it sound like theres a petition even sent . . . how are we supposed to answer that ? I call troll, alot of us have, and Kathryn, dont look at it like were the bad people who are belittling or not respecting the OP, look at like this guy isnt respecting our site by ( what I view as ) looking for ways to get into the USA and stay without fulfilling the K1 ... and this goes back to the ... if shes his wife, there is no K1 for him, and I would hope hes had sex with her .. like married loving couples do.

I gave thumbs up to everyone with the sex posts ... after reading his posts from yesterday I really thought he would be gone today. Not gonna happen I see.
To answer the OP question however, in case someone else with some common sense is interested too ... the fiance visa - K1 - Is approved for 1x only crossing the border, then to fulfil the visa requirements the persons listed on the petition have 90 days to marry. If there is no marriage within this time frame, the visa is nulled, and the beneficiary must leave the USA as they now have no legal status to stay.
Its always been my personal belief that if I, as the bene, came to any country with the intention of being with a person, if that person didnt want to be with me, or I found I didnt want to be with them, I would be on the first plane back to my country. I dont understand people who dont have this belief system, unless it was always their intention to use the person just to get a visa and get into the country. Which is sad, and pisses me off, because its those people who make the process take forever and puts extra costs on those of us who are in real loving committed relationships.

Why?
I think you should not speak what the other country's government should do with people who don't respect their law.

You seem to just want a way into the US. You are putting more emphasis on that than on your actual relationship.

I hate to sound judgmental, but from the sounds of the post it seems like you are planning to split up once you get to the US and just trying to figure out how long you have to hold out. Don't focus on the negative. If you love her and she loves you, you should be focusing on keeping it that way.

Your English is not good enough to read topics? Perhaps your fiance/wife/whatever she is today should be posting here and asking questions, then.

This is your 4th thread in about two days. I suggest reading the guides, since you don't know the basic process of K1 visas or Adjustment of Status (AOS).
Just yesterday you were talking about how you had an interview at the embassy next week.

and this is exactly the reason it makes it so hard for the rest of us abiding by the rules. just irritates me that people take advantage of the system then wait until they get in the country to screw around with the rules of the visa...i will shut up before i get myself in trouble

wow, maybe just me ,people just try to respond your post and you seem ..

wow, maybe just me ,people just try to respond your post and you seem ..

She was only trying to help even if she missed the point of your question. This site is about helping others, that's what she was trying to do.

wow, maybe just me ,people just try to respond your post and you seem ..

wow, maybe just me ,people just try to respond your post and you seem ..

wow, maybe just me ,people just try to respond your post and you seem ..

wow, maybe just me ,people just try to respond your post and you seem ..

wow, maybe just me ,people just try to respond your post and you seem ..