Psalm139

Well, first of all I would like to say that I am so proud of you for still loving your wife inspite of, and since she told you beforehand that you might not be the biological father you still chose to love her. Betrayal is not the question here, she still became honest with you ... as what you have said that she told you before hand.
I don't think this will be a big big trouble in the US Embassy, if you will just get a proper advise. I would suggest that you will seek an expert to this kind of case, try to look at the internet if you can find a US immigration lawyer that is free and then you probably can email him or what about this case. It would be better not to listen to anyone but to an expert to this, so that u will not get confused.

Well, first of all I would like to say that I am so proud of you for still loving your wife inspite of, and since she told you beforehand that you might not be the biological father you still chose to love her. Betrayal is not the question here, she still became honest with you ... as what you have said that she told you before hand.
I don't think this will be a big big trouble in the US Embassy, if you will just get a proper advise. I would suggest that you will seek an expert to this kind of case, try to look at the internet if you can find a US immigration lawyer that is free and then you probably can email him or what about this case. It would be better not to listen to anyone but to an expert to this, so that u will not get confused.

Well, first of all I would like to say that I am so proud of you for still loving your wife inspite of, and since she told you beforehand that you might not be the biological father you still chose to love her. Betrayal is not the question here, she still became honest with you ... as what you have said that she told you before hand.
I don't think this will be a big big trouble in the US Embassy, if you will just get a proper advise. I would suggest that you will seek an expert to this kind of case, try to look at the internet if you can find a US immigration lawyer that is free and then you probably can email him or what about this case. It would be better not to listen to anyone but to an expert to this, so that u will not get confused.

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hmmm.... remember, you are not yet married.. you also do not not know whom you are marrying until you are in one roof.....attitude and behavior can be changed just overnight.... you still have a long way to go mike42979, we can just encourage the poor lady not to discourage her.. the issue here is not the age, but the way her husband is treating her..

I agree with you "happy in love". MARK42979 this comment is kinda nasty, having a husband who is far way too old and american is not an issue here, the issue is that the poor woman's husband is treating her so bad. Let us be an encourager not a "discourager". I dont know if the one who wrote this post is the american guy or the Filipina fiance. But whoever wrote this please be kind..... Thank you...

Please stop the judgmental comments. The OP did not ask for an analysis of her relationship so please do not assume you have any right to know more details - they are irrelevant to the discussion at hand and none of your business. She asked for advice about how to deal with an abusive situation, about how to decide between the different options she has available. If you have nothing constructive to offer to this discussion then please do not participate. Any further judgmental comments not related to the topic itself will result in more thread bans.

There are 3 sides to every story....his...hers...and the truth. If things aren't working out its a shame but how can you complain about an age difference when you had to know his age when you met?

You need to talk to an attorney right away. Many will tell you different things but you need to address yours and your childrens needs and safety first and foremost. I am so sorry you are going through this, but I hope many who think coming to america is "Heaven" will read your words and think carefully about what it will really be like here.

The OP didn't come to the forum to be nagged. I understand that she stated that the husband is old. But for God sake, the poor woman is already in a very bad situation to be piled on with your nit picking.

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