how to best use the 90 days prior to marriage k-1

[Rob & Jin 0]

Good advice

You admittadly didn't read the post.......So this was completely insincere?

I think Seattle2Cebu has plenty things missing in their thought/logic process. You make it sound as is if your fiance is a complete stranger. Your advice to step back and look at the situation for what is for is a step you do before you even start your K-1 process, in fact its something you do before you propose to this person. This thing with a keylogger? How horrible is that advice? Those types of things are only good to protect your kids, they are not meant for your equal, or at least the person who is suppose to be your equal. It does not matter what part of the world you live, except for arranged marriages, that you should always get to know the person before you propose and if you're still filling iffy afterwards then maybe its not such a great idea to get engaged to be married, that is only common sense.

I replied "Good Advice" because I felt bad for the OP, sigh, I was just being polite, I need to really watch what I'm saying.....I agree with your statement Wahenie19....I actually didn't even see the key logger part of the post until after I had posted and then I was like

I just found it so sad that someone would have to go to those lengths after they have already made such a commitment to the one they love and supposedly loves them back. It's good advice to someone who doubts the person they love so much but if that's where the relationship is...beyond sad....how can you possibly even commit to someone when you know so little about them???

The OP must have gone through something bad to be inspired to write this.

Even though your " Good Advice" back up of the OP is ill advised in IMO--at least "own" your words.....Back peddling with the tide/ bandwagon and explaining yourself away shows weakness.

To the OP I think you are completely out of line. The K-1 is NOT a get to know/trust you visa. You have already stated to USCIS that you intend to marry this person. The K-1 is not granted in order for you to spy and make sure.....It's an abuse of the system and your future wife's right to privacy.

Are you not supposed to be in love and a part of that is trust ? If you dont trust the person you are bringing here my advice is dont do it . The 90 days is not the fall in love period, I would hope you had done that before getting engaged.

Sure theres Visa fraud, In most cases I have read about there were signs of this well before they got here, but were ignored.

Good luck to all

[ramos96 1]

A little bit of both actually, and I have to agree with the OP, I do agree your signature picture does suck, looking at somebody's painted azz does get old considering how much you like to post. I wonder if there is any rule in regards to an offensive photo in a signature, cause yours is pretty close to bordering on that in my opinion. And please before you flame me LisaD, don't make me make a poll post, I am more than happy to show you I am not that the only one that thinks this.

Humbly,

Ramos

[britty 1]

You know instead of arguing about all this, there are homes in Louisiana and Mississippi that need to get re-built. There are people that need counseling and there are fire lines we all could be helping with.

Ramos

so why are you wasting time posting here?

[Fandango 1,440]

A little bit of both actually, and I have to agree with the OP, I do agree your signature picture does suck, looking at somebody's painted azz does get old considering how much you like to post. I wonder if there is any rule in regards to an offensive photo in a signature, cause yours is pretty close to bordering on that in my opinion. And please before you flame me LisaD, don't make me make a poll post, I am more than happy to show you I am not that the only one that thinks this.

Humbly,

Ramos

I'm not flaming you at all...it's a legitimate question.

[ramos96 1]

I'm currently in the middle of my free time aka spare time.

Anything else you want to know?

Ramos

You know instead of arguing about all this, there are homes in Louisiana and Mississippi that need to get re-built. There are people that need counseling and there are fire lines we all could be helping with.

Ramos

so why are you wasting time posting here?

[ramos96 1]

Totally agree, Mox, it is definitely two people that make the decision to go thru all of this. At anytime she could say screw you and go back home also or find some other willing person to continue adjustment if the conditions are right, or not even go thru with it.

what do you think about the upcoming 2.3 patch?

[Drew and Tik 0]

Does everyone on VJ play World of Warcraft? Haha

PS - 70 Blood Elf Paladin, but account on hold

[Fandango 1,440]

it's my black-or-white-come-hell-or-high-water attitude towards the guidelines for eligibility for a visa. And we can debate this six ways from Sunday, but the end result is the same:

// image not quoted to save space //

That much IS black and white. Oh, and yellow and red in case anyone's confused what exactly I'm referencing.

First, the web citation is from a FAQ. It is guidance, nothing more. It is not legally binding. It was written by a bureaucrat, not a lawmaker.

And I just have to ask: why do you care? Why do you feel so strongly about a relationship that 2 consenting adults enter into? Once the beneficiary enters the country, they have 90 days to either marry or leave the country. Why should it be any business of yours what happens in between, or what those 2 consulting adults thought process is?

Why do you care about what I care about? See, we can do this all day. But the reason why I care is already outlined in my several posts in this thread. This community cannot endorse going against the guidelines of the visa.

And I lolled at your 'it was written by a beaurocrat not a lawmaker' line. Justify it anyway you want, chief! But it isn't called a 'FACT sheet' for the hell of it.

Does everyone on VJ play World of Warcraft? Haha

PS - 70 Blood Elf Paladin, but account on hold

Nope, not everyone! heh

[~Laura and Nick~ 5]

Does everyone on VJ play World of Warcraft? Haha

PS - 70 Blood Elf Paladin, but account on hold

I do I do!!!

68 Shadow Priest

I hate patching...my new computer with vista blows and I have to upload it in safe mode.....bummer.

Edited October 25, 2007 by ~Laura and Nick~

[Mags 112]

Just going to chime in here and say please keep this thread respectful and not make it personal. *chimes out*

[rebeccajo 14]

it's my black-or-white-come-hell-or-high-water attitude towards the guidelines for eligibility for a visa. And we can debate this six ways from Sunday, but the end result is the same:

// image not quoted to save space //

That much IS black and white. Oh, and yellow and red in case anyone's confused what exactly I'm referencing.

First, the web citation is from a FAQ. It is guidance, nothing more. It is not legally binding. It was written by a bureaucrat, not a lawmaker.

Excellent catch, moxcamel.

[archie07 0]

As I have said in the past, Seattle needs to visit Cebu and resolve his issues so they both can enter into this marraige with a positive attitude regardless of what the 90 days was intended for. I understand this wasn't the question asked in the thread but I think it may resolve his issues. That to me would be more important than what the 90 day threshold allowed by the USCIS is for.

[Seattle2Cebu 0]

plane ticket bought I agree with you

As I have said in the past, Seattle needs to visit Cebu and resolve his issues so they both can enter into this marraige with a positive attitude regardless of what the 90 days was intended for. I understand this wasn't the question asked in the thread but I think it may resolve his issues. That to me would be more important than what the 90 day threshold allowed by the USCIS is for.

[archie07 0]

Good Deal

[Sinergy 3]

You know instead of arguing about all this, there are homes in Louisiana and Mississippi that need to get re-built. There are people that need counseling and there are fire lines we all could be helping with.

Ramos

but unfortunatly some of us work and dont have the time or money to go rebuild ppl's houses, so we will argue about this instead

and i found your comment irrelavent and arrogant