How do you keep the hope?

[Alex+R 0]

I just wonder how college students do it these days. I know there are so many expenses, but could it be possible if my future wife is working full time while I am working part time?

Most college students don't get married to foreigners. Most don't get married.

A financial plan is not 'maybe the person who will be legally unable to work and perhaps unable to drive for a period of time will be the breadwinner.' You have to figure that there will be about four to six months where she'll be unable to work, and it very well could be some time before she lands a job. If the financial stress causes you to have to drop out of school (she can't work, remember, so it's all you), your life will have taken a very, very different turn.

Pretend she will be making no money once she's here for the first six months. What can you do to ensure you will not drop out of school and still have food to eat and a place to sleep?

I am not of the opinion that people have to be set for life before marrying, but there's being set and there's not being in a precarious situation.

(Caladan is right about 99% of the time. Maybe more.)

Marrying a foreigner requires serious sacrifice. You have on the one hand your desire to be with that person and see marriage as a solution (been there). On the other hand, you need to think more practically because those practical details are going to smack you in the face with full force if you're not ready for them. I lived a year with my parents working crappy jobs to save up for that six-month period where he might not have a job, when I really wanted to be doing other things in other places. We were lucky in that he got employed a month after he got here, but that's unusual. If it hadn't happened, I was ready. Maybe you will need to drop out for a semester. You can't have it all.

Another thing. Has your future wife finished school? Is she going to resent moving here only to support you in realizing your own dreams?

If I were you, I would wait til I graduated. Since it's the real thing, it's going to last past graduation. But college is such a fun part of your life and you shouldn't ruin it with financial concerns, IMO.

[Pinocchio Liberal 268]

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[BigCityDave 0]

We both know that we love each other and want to be together. It may just be more of whether or not we want to wait. That is the hard decision. Wait and finish school, which will be difficult and painful, or should get go the difficult route and get married and struggle. Either way it is going to be really difficult.

[trailmix 77]

Ok so when did the rest of you become such fuddy duddys?

If you are going to school and working part-time and your wife has already agreed she will work full time - why wouldn't you go for it.

The fuddy duddy's are making you scared, but I suspect you have already made your decision - you just want someone to agree with you (which is completely understandable).

Just do it.

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[BigCityDave 0]

Ok so when did the rest of you become such fuddy duddys?

If you are going to school and working part-time and your wife has already agreed she will work full time - why wouldn't you go for it.

The fuddy duddy's are making you scared, but I suspect you have already made your decision - you just want someone to agree with you (which is completely understandable).

Just do it.

You are right, in fact my fiance said she would be willing to save up to help me pay for school. I did not even ask her to do that. She is trying to think of ways we can make this work.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Ok so when did the rest of you become such fuddy duddys?

If you are going to school and working part-time and your wife has already agreed she will work full time - why wouldn't you go for it.

The fuddy duddy's are making you scared, but I suspect you have already made your decision - you just want someone to agree with you (which is completely understandable).

Just do it.

You are right, in fact my fiance said she would be willing to save up to help me pay for school. I did not even ask her to do that. She is trying to think of ways we can make this work.

Then what is your dilemma? Where there's a will, there's a way.