Mom lets 5-year-old drive

[almaty 19]

i take fear over an azz pounding whne i was young anyday...

[Trumplestiltskin 5,791]

Some are more 'liberal' with the belt than others. Again - I know plenty of parents who abhor corporal punishment, and instead find other ways to discipline their children; including taking away their privileges. I don't see their kids acting up...

These days I'm more inclined to respect a parent who can actually exercise a measure of restraint, rather than lashing out with their fists in anger.

Fear was far more effective for my dad. He didn't need to do much, just the threat of what he might do was enough to keep me in line.

I wouldn't want my kid to physically afraid of me, that's pretty disturbing to me.

[almaty 19]

Some are more 'liberal' with the belt than others. Again - I know plenty of parents who abhor corporal punishment, and instead find other ways to discipline their children; including taking away their privileges. I don't see their kids acting up...

These days I'm more inclined to respect a parent who can actually exercise a measure of restraint, rather than lashing out with their fists in anger.

Fear was far more effective for my dad. He didn't need to do much, just the threat of what he might do was enough to keep me in line.

I wouldn't want my kid to physically afraid of me, that's pretty disturbing to me.

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fishy, that is the truth..my old man..busted our azz at a drop of a hand...fear was the outcome..and for me, hatered until i got into my 20s and had an understanding of him.....and where he had come from..

[Ban Hammer 14,291]

Some are more 'liberal' with the belt than others. Again - I know plenty of parents who abhor corporal punishment, and instead find other ways to discipline their children; including taking away their privileges. I don't see their kids acting up...

These days I'm more inclined to respect a parent who can actually exercise a measure of restraint, rather than lashing out with their fists in anger.

Fear was far more effective for my dad. He didn't need to do much, just the threat of what he might do was enough to keep me in line.

ditto

[Peikko 1,575]

It also misses the point entirely.

A child who is brought up in a home where the threat of physical punishment is the ONLY reason for not engaging in a particular behavior or wrong doing, is not going to learn right from wrong, but just that violence/anger/ is a reasonable response. If a child is brought up in a home where the threat of physical punishment is used on top of explanation and other guidance, then it is my assertion that the physical punishment is unnecessary and another form of punishment would do the trick.

Edited September 5, 2007 by Purple_Hibiscus

[Marilyn. 340]

Some are more 'liberal' with the belt than others. Again - I know plenty of parents who abhor corporal punishment, and instead find other ways to discipline their children; including taking away their privileges. I don't see their kids acting up...

These days I'm more inclined to respect a parent who can actually exercise a measure of restraint, rather than lashing out with their fists in anger.

Fear was far more effective for my dad. He didn't need to do much, just the threat of what he might do was enough to keep me in line.

I wouldn't want my kid to physically afraid of me, that's pretty disturbing to me.

I know someone who's kids are afraid of him.. as soon as he walks into the house the kids all tense up... they are not really bad kids or anything and just do the normal kid stuff but he gets mad at them for everything and their mom constantly uses dad as a threat.. by saying things like.. "do you want me to call your dad?"

i never see the kids go running up to their dad when he comes home and give him a hug... how sad is that??

yes, kids are supposed to respect and obey their elders but your kids shouldn't be afraid of you... what if they have a serious problem or something , they are not going to want to discuss it with you...

Edited September 5, 2007 by MarilynP

[Trumplestiltskin 5,791]

Some are more 'liberal' with the belt than others. Again - I know plenty of parents who abhor corporal punishment, and instead find other ways to discipline their children; including taking away their privileges. I don't see their kids acting up...

These days I'm more inclined to respect a parent who can actually exercise a measure of restraint, rather than lashing out with their fists in anger.

Fear was far more effective for my dad. He didn't need to do much, just the threat of what he might do was enough to keep me in line.

I wouldn't want my kid to physically afraid of me, that's pretty disturbing to me.

I know someone who's kids are afraid of him.. as soon as he walks into the house the kids all tense up... they are not really bad kids or anything and just do the normal kid stuff but he gets mad at them for everything and their mom constantly uses dad as a threat.. by saying things like.. "do you want me to call your dad?"

i never see the kids go running up to their dad when he comes home and give him a hug... how sad is that??

yes, kids are supposed to respect and obey their elders but your kids shouldn't be afraid of you... what if they have a serious problem or something , they are not going to want to discuss it with you...

I had a similar relationship with my dad, and even today things aren't what I'd call 'normal' between us. Nor am I sure they will ever be. He had his idea of discipline, but they way things worked out for me I'd say psychologically it did more harm than good, most specifically during my teens.