VJ Horror Stories

[garya505 2]

I'm just guessing here, but I would think that anyone going through the visa process probably gives more scrutiny to the situation than average couples.

Perhaps, but I'm also willing to bet that marriages where it involves one person immigrating to the USA have a much higher rate of fraud (i.e. the marriage was entered into for reasons other than love by one or both parties), than marriages between 2 USCs do.

Usually the USCs don't need a green card.

[Dwarf_Ogress 0]

One shouldn't let a few bad seeds spoil the whole crop!

[garya505 2]

One shouldn't let a few bad seeds spoil the whole crop!

No, but one bad apple CAN spoil the whole barrel!

[Dwarf_Ogress 0]

One shouldn't let a few bad seeds spoil the whole crop!

No, but one bad apple CAN spoil the whole barrel!

Touche! LOL

[Fandango 1,440]

I think it's got a lot to do with common sense, really.....

[Dwarf_Ogress 0]

I think it's got a lot to do with common sense, really.....

Amen to that!

[almaty 19]

if it smells fishy ..then it is probably not a codfish...but trouble brewing

[Kiv 32]

One shouldn't let a few bad seeds spoil the whole crop!

No, but one bad apple CAN spoil the whole barrel!

Touche! LOL

I have read some sad stories here, this is not the first time I see readers being worried about their own relationships because of what they read, it may be very unfair for your SO. Who may have no idea on whose stories you are reading.

I believe that all people is good and honest until they prove the opposite. I think is my right.

I believe that nobody is as good as they say they are and nobody is as bad as somebody else says they are.

We can only read small parts of the stories here, maye if we knew everything would be easier to understand.

My father used to say about couples, "Only god and them would know what happened betwen them and how it afected them".

[Jaseball 0]

I have read some sad stories here, this is not the first time I see readers being worried about their own relationships because of what they read, it may be very unfair for your SO. Who may have no idea on whose stories you are reading.

I believe that all people is good and honest until they prove the opposite. I think is my right.

I believe that nobody is as good as they say they are and nobody is as bad as somebody else says they are.

We can only read small parts of the stories here, maye if we knew everything would be easier to understand.

My father used to say about couples, "Only god and them would know what happened betwen them and how it afected them".

There hasn't been any new revelations for me in reading the bad stories here, except I am seeing real life examples happening to real people as new details unfold, which does give the event more urgency and brings things into sharp focus. I put myself in their positions and imagine what it would be like or how things would feel and that is what freaks me out a little.

Everyone's situation is different. I only have control over myself and real influence with my own relationship. It would be completely unfair to be moody, accuse, or insult my girl over my own insecurities or fears.

I'm going into this with my eyes open. I'm trying hard not to make the same mistakes I made in my past relationships or to give her easy excuses for things that bother me because we are from different countries or cultures. I'm also keeping my eyes open and watching how we develop as time goes by.

[Kiv 32]

I have read some sad stories here, this is not the first time I see readers being worried about their own relationships because of what they read, it may be very unfair for your SO. Who may have no idea on whose stories you are reading.

I believe that all people is good and honest until they prove the opposite. I think is my right.

I believe that nobody is as good as they say they are and nobody is as bad as somebody else says they are.

We can only read small parts of the stories here, maye if we knew everything would be easier to understand.

My father used to say about couples, "Only god and them would know what happened betwen them and how it afected them".

There hasn't been any new revelations for me in reading the bad stories here, except I am seeing real life examples happening to real people as new details unfold, which does give the event more urgency and brings things into sharp focus. I put myself in their positions and imagine what it would be like or how things would feel and that is what freaks me out a little.

Everyone's situation is different. I only have control over myself and real influence with my own relationship. It would be completely unfair to be moody, accuse, or insult my girl over my own insecurities or fears.

I'm going into this with my eyes open. I'm trying hard not to make the same mistakes I made in my past relationships or to give her easy excuses for things that bother me because we are from different countries or cultures. I'm also keeping my eyes open and watching how we develop as time goes by.

Is now 7 years since I knew my husband and I have been very happy, but who knows what tomorrow can bring.

We all make mistakes, we hurt people and get hurt, we learn a lesson each time.

If we can analize somebody's problem properly we may get a lesson for free. Good luck to you !