Am I depressed again, or just bored and lonely?

[Sinergy 3]

hotornot.com is a good site for making the time go by and getting a good laugh

OMG, I can't believe you told him to go there!!

Sounds to me like your bored too, cause I know I'm bored, and I'm doing the same thing.

Not much to do at work other than VJ and hotornot.com, i love making fun of ppl on there.

me and my husband both make fun of ppl on there, and weve seen ppl we KNOW on there hahahaha

[chri'stina 190]

I don't know...hotornot could be dangerous. All those delusional ppl on there, making you wonder about the world and can cause depression about humankind in general.

[dingding 0]

Thanks guys for your replies and support as ever. I think its a combination of alot of things. I spoke to the doctor a couple of months ago, they got me to fill out a questionaire and pretty much said that they didn't think that I was depressed (i actually went to see them about stress at that point, I was going through a hard time at work and had fallen out with a friend, and the stress of it all was making me feel extrememly aggresive and angry particularly at work...if any of you watch Scrubs, see Doctor Cox...thats exactly how I was at work ) but I changed roles and that all cleared up.

As far as the divorce and the ex situation goes. I feel that I have been totally healed on this front for a few months now. I dont think about my ex at all really, and we havent spoken for months, and neither do I really have the desire to.

I used to enjoy reading and writing. But lately I they just dont hold my interest. I almost feel like I need to be around people to be happy. Its like Im happy to sit and watch tv with certain people whose company I enjoy. I guess I have been through a transitional twelve months. Alot has changed again that I wasnt expectin. The divorce, the move back to England, living with parents again. Then I got over all that and things were good. I was much happier than I had been for a long time. Being back and going out with my mates again was great, there was something potentially going on romance wise (see past threads...thats another story, but I guess could be a factor), I moved house etc. It was all new, but I guess now as the months have passed this has all become mundane again. Im 30 and single and didnt expect to be. And you know I really dont like being alone, but really dont want to date or get into a relationship for the sake of it (not that the opportunities have really come up). I really am lonely as heck. I really dont seem to enjoy my own company. All my friends think the world of me, but whilst I in no way do I have low self esteem, I just seem to bore myself

Ive looked into voluntary work with people, but there really isnt anything around or they just want people to do charity collections etc. I really enjoy being there for people, but Im not very good at being there for myself it seems. If I could go back in time and choose my career again, I would choose working in a hospital I think..work long hours, always around people and doing something worthwhile.

Although im not quite sure what one entails, and im only 30, i sometimes wonder if I am going through some kind of midlife crisis

[dingding 0]

Jen

what she said above, along with getting a cat and world of warcraft. you'll never be bored again.

Level 70 Night Elf Hunter...been there done that lol, guess what...got bored

[Sinergy 3]

Thanks guys for your replies and support as ever. I think its a combination of alot of things. I spoke to the doctor a couple of months ago, they got me to fill out a questionaire and pretty much said that they didn't think that I was depressed (i actually went to see them about stress at that point, I was going through a hard time at work and had fallen out with a friend, and the stress of it all was making me feel extrememly aggresive and angry particularly at work...if any of you watch Scrubs, see Doctor Cox...thats exactly how I was at work ) but I changed roles and that all cleared up.

As far as the divorce and the ex situation goes. I feel that I have been totally healed on this front for a few months now. I dont think about my ex at all really, and we havent spoken for months, and neither do I really have the desire to.

I used to enjoy reading and writing. But lately I they just dont hold my interest. I almost feel like I need to be around people to be happy. Its like Im happy to sit and watch tv with certain people whose company I enjoy. I guess I have been through a transitional twelve months. Alot has changed again that I wasnt expectin. The divorce, the move back to England, living with parents again. Then I got over all that and things were good. I was much happier than I had been for a long time. Being back and going out with my mates again was great, there was something potentially going on romance wise (see past threads...thats another story, but I guess could be a factor), I moved house etc. It was all new, but I guess now as the months have passed this has all become mundane again. Im 30 and single and didnt expect to be. And you know I really dont like being alone, but really dont want to date or get into a relationship for the sake of it (not that the opportunities have really come up). I really am lonely as heck. I really dont seem to enjoy my own company. All my friends think the world of me, but whilst I in no way do I have low self esteem, I just seem to bore myself

Ive looked into voluntary work with people, but there really isnt anything around or they just want people to do charity collections etc. I really enjoy being there for people, but Im not very good at being there for myself it seems. If I could go back in time and choose my career again, I would choose working in a hospital I think..work long hours, always around people and doing something worthwhile.

Although im not quite sure what one entails, and im only 30, i sometimes wonder if I am going through some kind of midlife crisis

OMG!!! im 31, theres no way your old enough to go thru a midlife crisis

[chri'stina 190]

I don't know if it would be feasible for you, but are there any subjects that you would enjoy taking college classes in for the sake of being involved in something? Like auditing classes, which is cheaper than actually taking the class. I don't know how it works over there though. It could be a class building a skill you already have, or a class about something you always wanted to know about but never got the chance to.

That sounds fun to me, but maybe I am weird. Even now I wish I could take classes about certain subjects, even though I already graduated college. But it would be classes that I just wanted to take for my own enjoyment.

[JenT 0]

Have you always needed to be around people to be happy? Some people are just wired differently.

[dingding 0]

Have you always needed to be around people to be happy? Some people are just wired differently.

Im not sure to be honest Jen, I think Ive always been around people really. Either that or because this is the longest Ive been single Im really just starting to notice it.

[Sheriff Uling 3]

I'm getting depressed too. My wife's menstrual cycle will be starting soon...

[JenT 0]

Have you always needed to be around people to be happy? Some people are just wired differently.

Im not sure to be honest Jen, I think Ive always been around people really. Either that or because this is the longest Ive been single Im really just starting to notice it.

Well, there... now that's something to consider. And very natural. Nothing wrong with being a people person.

[JoeMama 0]

I'm getting depressed too. My wife's menstrual cycle will be starting soon...

"Peter" will soon smile afterwards! Not all is lost!

[dingding 0]

I don't know if it would be feasible for you, but are there any subjects that you would enjoy taking college classes in for the sake of being involved in something? Like auditing classes, which is cheaper than actually taking the class. I don't know how it works over there though. It could be a class building a skill you already have, or a class about something you always wanted to know about but never got the chance to.

That sounds fun to me, but maybe I am weird. Even now I wish I could take classes about certain subjects, even though I already graduated college. But it would be classes that I just wanted to take for my own enjoyment.

That is something im looking into actually. If I can find a reasonably priced one locally that is something I may do.

[JenT 0]

I'm getting depressed too. My wife's menstrual cycle will be starting soon...

Well I'm sure she appreciates THAT being broadcast to the nations....

[JODO 2]

hotornot.com is a good site for making the time go by and getting a good laugh

OMG, I can't believe you told him to go there!!

Sounds to me like your bored too, cause I know I'm bored, and I'm doing the same thing.

[Leney 0]

Level 70 Night Elf Hunter...been there done that lol, guess what...got bored

Pfft 70 Undead Priestess I'll peekay you!