New Immigrants: How many of you send money on a regular basis to your family back home?

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

Just curious

[chri'stina 190]

We send money to Sujeet's family...because my father in law's pension has been cut off temporarily for the time being by the idiot governments of Bihar and Jharkhand. Because they split into 2 states years ago (instead of just Bihar), now they are arguing who should be responsible for the pensions and both refused to pay!!! Now it's in the courts or whatever and my father in law along with probably thousands and thousands of retired men have not gotten their pension since last Sept!!!

So that means zero income for my 70yr old father in law. The pension was a few hundred a month (in India that's decent). That really boils my blood. So we send him money monthly to compensate for his loss of pension, and we've been doing it since Sept. When he retired from working with the gov't(not as an official but an engineer) they lived in Bihar, but now the actual city he retired in, is in Jharkhand. The whole issue is supposed to be cleared up soon. But you know how Indian government is. Anyway, we are sending them a couple hundred a month and so you can imagine how it hinders us saving any money here. The govt over there better get their act together!

Edited March 21, 2006 by stina&suj

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

We send money to Sujeet's family...because my father in law's pension has been cut off temporarily for the time being by the idiot governments of Bihar and Jharkhand.

My grandparents on both sides had the same problem. Getting a state government to pay the pension they promised is like pulling teeth in that country. I wish you all good luck.

[chri'stina 190]

We send money to Sujeet's family...because my father in law's pension has been cut off temporarily for the time being by the idiot governments of Bihar and Jharkhand.

My grandparents on both sides had the same problem. Getting a state government to pay the pension they promised is like pulling teeth in that country. I wish you all good luck.

Thank you! The thing to be grateful for is that his father is in India where we can at least send the couple hundred a month to help them...instead of it being somewhere else and thousands per month. That is one great thing about the US/Indian relationship...it's not as hard to send a couple hundred over there which really will pay all their bills.

[I'm Gone 60]

I was warned about women from the Philippines marrying men just so they could get here to send money back to their family, so I made it clear up front that we/I will not be supporting her family. Send a box of things we have accomlated every three or four months, but never cash.

My favorite story is that I ordered the wife's family a washing machine and I don't know if anyone has ever used it, because her brothers, sisters and parents got into a big fight over who was going to pay for the water and electricity. LOL

Edited March 21, 2006 by mdyoung

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

That is one great thing about the US/Indian relationship...it's not as hard to send a couple hundred over there which really will pay all their bills.

Yup. It's so easy for us to help them that I feel badly if we don't!

[babybunny 2]

I was warned about women from the Philippines marrying men just so they could get here to send money back to their family, so I made it clear up front that we/I will not be supporting her family. Send a box of things we have accomlated every three or four months, but never cash.

My favorite story is that I ordered the wife's family a washing machine and I don't know if anyone has ever used it, because her brothers, sisters and parents got into a big fight over who was going to pay for the water and electricity. LOL

I agee with you! I was told pakistani men, marry american women for the same thing.

I dont support sending money back to my husbands family. I dont mind sending someting from time to time.

frankly, I dont intend on making his family our second household. I wont be budgeting for them.

this has been a sore subject with me. he tells me his parents are old. #######. my parents are much older than his - I tell him tell his father get his lazy azz a job- support his mama. My parents work. he11 i dont think so. my husband was talking about us paying for his sisters wedding. oh He11 no. if I pay for anyones wedding it will be for our own kids.

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

he tells me his parents are old. #######. my parents are much older than his - I tell him tell his father get his lazy azz a job- support his mama. My parents work. he11 i dont think so. my husband was talking about us paying for his sisters wedding. oh He11 no. if I pay for anyones wedding it will be for our own kids.

In desi culture, a man is supposed to contribute handsomely towards his sisters wedding. The thought of not doing that has actually never crossed my mind. My wife, thankfully, is ok with it too.

The same is true for parents. The culture requires that the son take care of the parents. My parents have saved enough money where I don't anticipate they will be needing me much, but if they do I'll be there.

The way I figure it, as long as I do what's right, the rest will take care of itself. IM me in 50 years and I'll tell you how that theory worked out

[Welshcookie 17]

We send money to Sujeet's family...because my father in law's pension has been cut off temporarily for the time being by the idiot governments of Bihar and Jharkhand.

My grandparents on both sides had the same problem. Getting a state government to pay the pension they promised is like pulling teeth in that country. I wish you all good luck.

Thank you! The thing to be grateful for is that his father is in India where we can at least send the couple hundred a month to help them...instead of it being somewhere else and thousands per month. That is one great thing about the US/Indian relationship...it's not as hard to send a couple hundred over there which really will pay all their bills.

I think thats cool If you can afford it and it helps your SO's family why not?

[chri'stina 190]

We send money to Sujeet's family...because my father in law's pension has been cut off temporarily for the time being by the idiot governments of Bihar and Jharkhand.

My grandparents on both sides had the same problem. Getting a state government to pay the pension they promised is like pulling teeth in that country. I wish you all good luck.

Thank you! The thing to be grateful for is that his father is in India where we can at least send the couple hundred a month to help them...instead of it being somewhere else and thousands per month. That is one great thing about the US/Indian relationship...it's not as hard to send a couple hundred over there which really will pay all their bills.

I think thats cool If you can afford it and it helps your SO's family why not?

yes

Sujeet didn't come to the US and marry me just so he could send money to his family. I understand why some people are paranoid about people using them for sending money to their family since it has happened to many people. But when family needs your help, if you are able to, you should help. Helping isn't being taken advantage of, you would know the difference between actually helping and getting taken advantage of.

We didn't send money until his family needed it because of his dad's pension issues. And I feel it's our responsibility to help them since we can. Otherwise, the family would be getting hardly any monthly income. My father in law is too old to work, he's been reitred for awhile. I wouldn't say that we'd never send his family back in India money. They are our family and we should help them if we can. Also I would not be against helping to pay for one of Sujeet's sisters weddings since I know that is their culture. Sure it'd have to be reasonable with what we can contribute so that we didn't go broke here. I'd also help to pay for my own sisters wedding here in the US when she gets married one day, if I am able to. That's what family does in my opinion. I grew up in a family where sometimes it was hard to make ends meet. Not rich at all! And so we have learned that sometimes we have to help eachother.

Edited March 21, 2006 by stina&suj

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

They are our family and we should help them if we can. Also I would not be against helping to pay for one of Sujeet's sisters weddings since I know that is their culture. Sure it'd have to be reasonable with what we can contribute so that we didn't go broke here. I'd also help to pay for my own sisters wedding here in the US when she gets married one day, if I am able to. That's what family does in my opinion. I grew up in a family where sometimes it was hard to make ends meet. Not rich at all! And so we have learned that sometimes we have to help eachother.

[eau_xplain 2]

My parents are both over 70 and have retired. They say they don't need regular amounts to be sent and they do live comfortably off their pensions. But we have sent money from time to time as gifts and when an emergency comes up.

[onwa 6]

I'll answer for my husband. He sends money to his father from time to time. its not regular and its out of love, not obligation. I don't mind at all. we also helped with my husband's sister's wedding, which was a great to way to be there without actually being there.

[raphael7546 0]

I send money monthly to my little girl along with toys and other things.

[Satellite 1]

I might be presumptuous but this poll really only concerns people who married a beneficiary from the 3rd world. My presumption gets even more support when considering the poll about whose standard of living has increased or decreased in the US:

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=6293

What we have over there are people from Western Europe, Australia, and Canada complaining about their lowered standard of living. Not too many people from Russia, Philippines, or Pakistan complaining about their low quality of life and low wages in the US