Going home before your spouse

[andlolosays 11]

Hey all,

Just want to check in before we make a decision...

I'm currently living abroad with my husband (hence the speedy USCIS process), and I at least have to leave by Apr 1 because my visa expires then. We are thinking that maybe I will go back in January or February and have him come in March or April (assuming he's approved by then). I mentioned this to a friend and she said to make sure that it wouldn't look bad if I left before him. The reason for me going back early would be so I can look for a job at home while he is still earning income here, and to start earning an income there so we can rent a place once he arrives and also then I'll be earning while he looks for a job. I don't want to leave before him if it's going to look bad, but we have these actual reasons for it, not that we don't like each other Will NVC, consulate, etc care or just see it as a normal part of the process? It could be that he's done with NVC by the time I leave anyway, but ya... I know you all understand...don't want to jinx our chances at all

Thanks!

[Zabalex 0]

Hi there!

We are currently collecting proof of domicile in the US so I stumbled upon this instruction on US embassy in Manila's website the other day:

The sponsor does not have to precede the applicant to the United States but, if he or she does not do so, he or she must at least arrive in the United States concurrently with the applicant;

So, from what I understand, it'd actually be better for you to come back to the US before your husband. Hope this helps. Good luck!

[NikLR 13,220]

You need to be back before or at the same time as your spouse. You leaving before he does, does not, in any way, look bad. It's actually a good thing to help show reestablishment of domicile.

[andlolosays 11]

Ok cool. I have proof of domicile already (bank accounts, drivers license, voting rego, a car, loans, etc.) but having a job and actively looking for a place to live definitely wouldn't hurt. But again, it could be done by the time I'd go back anyway, so extra domicile proof wouldn't even be needed. But I suppose proof of a plane ticket home would help too... Just trying to decide if being apart or possibly both being unemployed once here would be worse...seems to me financial stress is worse/longer lasting.

[OnlyHope 4]

hello,

we are in the same boat too.......my wife decided to go back and try to find another job....

good luck to you....