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Hello all,

This is not a visa question per say, but I figured I could probably get some input here.

First off, I haven't posted here in a long while. I first joined when I got married back in 2005 to a Ghanaian citizen, who has since gotten his U.S citizenship. In 2011 I decided it was time for us to part ways. We're now separated and in the midst of a divorce, but we have a seven year old daughter between us named Lilian. Both my ex and Lil have been living in Ghana for the past three years. I recently returned about a month ago, and I'm so glad to be reunited with my little one. I also have a new love of my life, who is also Ghanaian. I'm very happy here since Ghana is my second home, and I'm with my friends and loved ones again on this side of the Atlantic.

Well originally my plan was to stay in Ghana for a year, then return to California with my daughter. But there are a few things making me reconsider that.

1. During the week Lilian stays with her grandparents. Grandma works on the University of Ghana campus, and since she's a university employee, Lilian goes to the university primary school. She's very much adjusted to Ghanaian life. I like that she's getting such a good education here and she's learning Ghanaian culture.

2. Me and my boo are very much in love, and we are seriously thinking about marriage. He's turning 30 this year, he has a business, and though there are a lot of inconvenient aspects of life in Ghana, he wants to stay here and not move to the states. He's not crazy about having to go back to school to do his bachelor's degree over again just to get a decent job. He also heres from his friends in the states that life is hard there right now. I've told him it's not as bad as they claim, but he still seems set on staying in Ghana.

3. My ex is pretty bitter at me for leaving him, though I had good reason to. He doesn't have any plans of returning to the states, and he shows no signs of wanting to compromise for our daughter's sake. Even though he rubs me like sandpaper, Lilian loves her dad, and I don't know if I could take her to live so far away from him (even if she, say, came back to visit every summer...it might not be enough). On the other hand, I have lived without her for almost three years on just phone cards and letters.

As much as I love my home state, I still have to consider the other people in my life. I love Ghana very much, but my part of me is still very much in California. What do you think? I might not have included enough detail, so I'd be happy to clarify on anything.

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Filed: AOS (apr) Country: Cyprus

Your Ghanaian BF does not wish to move to the USA but you are considering taking the child and live in CA.

You would be without your BF then and the child without her father.
Seems like it would make everyone happier for you to live in Ghana.
Easy for me to say and I don't know what I would do in your shoes until I was actually faced with that situation.
It is such a private decision, not sure we all would totally understand the whole circumstances.

I would definitely want what is best for the child and if she is attached to her father then perhaps waiting until she

is older to make her own decision would be helpful.
If you live in the US and your BF does not want to live here then what do you plan to do ?
Are you considering petitioning him anyway and hope he will like it here ?
Even in that case, it takes a long time until he would be actually approved and I would just stay in Ghana for a few more years.



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Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Ghana

Its a hard decision to make. I think at the end of the day you need to do what makes the most people happy. If you have the means/ability I would say try it out for some time (like a year) and see how you feel about it.

Good luck in whatever you do.

Mama to 2 beautiful boys (August 2011 and January 2015)

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Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Nigeria

That would be a tough call good luck in whatever decision you make.....

November 5, 2010 Interview 7am APPROVED!!!!!! (6months 4weeks 1day) THANK YOU LORD!!!!!

(look at my about me page in my profile if you want to see my entire k1 journey)

AOS Journey:

Feb.4, 2011 Mailed AOS packet

Feb. 7, 2011 Pkt delivered in Chicago

Feb. 10, 2011 Received txt and email of NOA for AOS, EAD, and AP

Feb. 11, 2011 Check cashed for AOS

Feb. 12, 2011 Touched

Feb. 14, 2011 received hard copy of NOA for AOS, EAD& AP

Feb. 18, 2011 received appt letter for biometrics

Feb. 28, 2011 biometrics appt @10am

Feb. 28, 2011 received txt/email AOS case transferred to csc

Mar 1, 2011 AOS Touched

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Mar 4, 2011 AOS Touched

Mar 28, 2011 Received txt/email saying card production has been ordered. (1month 3eeks 3days)

Mar 28, 2011 Received 2nd txt/email saying we have registered this customer permanent residence status

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Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: Ghana

Well wishes to you on this difficult decision. I have to admit though I am excited for your daughter to be learning two cultures :) . ABSOLUTELY AMAZING!!!

-Met in Ghana August 2011

-Went back to Ghana April 2012

-Went back to Ghana December 2012

-Married to the man God created just for me on January 4th, 2013.

-Filed the CR-1 in February 2013

-Petition Transfered from National Benefits Center to Texas Service Center October 2013

-Petition APPROVED January 2014 (*Took 10 Months 19 Calendar Days)

-Case Number/Invoice Identification Number Assigned February 2014 (*Took 33 Calendar Days)

-Approved Interview May 2014

-Arrival May 2014

Now, We are Prayerfully taking everything 1 day at a time. Thanking God for his blessings and grace.

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