Please Help me.

[Waiting234 18]

If you asked her to sign a letter of intent of marriage and she doesn't know what she signed, that can be fraud... I do not think the Embassy would look too kindly on it if they asked your fiancee if she intends on marrying you in the United States and she replies, "I don't know". She is applying for a K-1, which means she needs to be fully aware of the fact that she needs to marry you within 90 days of arriving to the US. This will be the consular's first question of her. I understand the element of surprise you are looking for to make her happy in her engagement, but I think she would have to be aware or she has a very high chance of being rejected at her K-1 visa interview.

I applaud the idea of doing a second proposal... You already made the first proposal in paperwork, but that doesn't mean you can't do it the right way after.

Good luck!

Edited February 17, 2013 by Waiting234

[EminTX 131]

When my husband and I agreed to be engaged--he had hummed the wedding song earlier in the day and then that evening, after thinking about it all day, I just asked him to come home with me. (I was visiting him there in his country.) This was our "proposal". From his POV, he was the "instigator" because of the song. From my POV, I was the "asker" because I actually used words. We have talked about it so that if this comes up in the interview, we can have our stories straight and not give conflicting answers.

As far as the ring goes, I know it is super popular, but honestly, I am a very practical person who has to work hard for every penny we have. I would much rather have a washing machine or furniture or a trip than a rock to wear and show off. I do love my wedding ring very much but I can't imagine why I would want 2 rings to wear. Besides, the smile on my face when I think about my husband indicates the love I feel and enjoy is more of a testament than any expensive symbol. Be sure to ask your lady what she wants--she might be like me and prefer something else. (There are lots and lots of us out there. )

[justnew 0]

Correct me if I'm wrong. I think what happened to you and your "fiance" is that you talked about getting married and having kids BUT you have not given her an engagement ring. A ring is not necessary. My fiancee gave me a promise ring promising that he will love me and no one will come after me. We were already talking about marriage then. He just made it into an engagement ring by taking out the same promise ring (since he bought it in the US and was gonna have his mom give it to me when she visits the PI) and via skype told me that hopefully in the future I will accept the ring and remember that in the future he will give me more than just another ring.

The bottom line is, a ring is a symbol. Being engaged is a mutual understanding that the two of you will get married to each other. You can tell the CO of all the times that you have talked about getting married but think hard on when was the time when you said to each other "yes I will marry you". The moment when there was a mutual understanding even it is as simple as a chat in YM as long as it was true and firm. No parties, no ring, no kneeling down needed. Just your understanding. Think when, how, and where that was and you have all the answers to your 1million question.

Also if you are still scared, tell the CO when, how, and where you made it known to the public (public like the parents or friends). Filipino culture has this "pamamanhikan" where you ask for her hand in marriage. For sure that makes it "official" since it is based in tradition.

Good luck! Hope I helped somehow.

really apreciate the help..i dont know whats is the exact date but its the time when i went home in the philippines last dec 2011 and stay there till may.it in that time frame when we planned to get a fiancee visa so we will be together.

[justnew 0]

If you asked her to sign a letter of intent of marriage and she doesn't know what she signed, that can be fraud... I do not think the Embassy would look too kindly on it if they asked your fiancee if she intends on marrying you in the United States and she replies, "I don't know". She is applying for a K-1, which means she needs to be fully aware of the fact that she needs to marry you within 90 days of arriving to the US. This will be the consular's first question of her. I understand the element of surprise you are looking for to make her happy in her engagement, but I think she would have to be aware or she has a very high chance of being rejected at her K-1 visa interview.

I applaud the idea of doing a second proposal... You already made the first proposal in paperwork, but that doesn't mean you can't do it the right way after.

Good luck!

Ofcourse she knew about the paperworks she signed and we already talked about it when i flew back in the philippines last dec2011.and before i came back here in US. we have discussed about the fiancee visa for us to be with each other.we talked about getting married here and i even told her mom our plans in the future.and told my parents too.

[Waiting234 18]

Ofcourse she knew about the paperworks she signed and we already talked about it when i flew back in the philippines last dec2011.and before i came back here in US. we have discussed about the fiancee visa for us to be with each other.we talked about getting married here and i even told her mom our plans in the future.and told my parents too.

This is great. I understand much better now. In my K-1 interview, they asked me about my wedding plans, big or small, when. They asked in front of my fiancée.

And, as I said earlier, good luck. I hope everything works out well for you.