help needed !!!!!!!!

[Lonelywithouthim 5]

The only point I am going to touch with this statement is that it's the same for him going there for a culture shock as it is for you to come here. If you can do it, he should be able to.

2nd that!!!!!

[Brad & Kat 2]

It sounds like a tough situation, and what you say about him not being able to go back to the US and you feeling responsible for him if he moved to the UK is understandable. You could end up resentful towards him if things don't work out, and it sounds like you already aren't happy with how he has handled things.

If he was dishonest with you about his US citizenship to start with, it's hard to tell if he's going to continue lying about other things; you're the one who's going to have to make the decision, but I'd think long and hard about continuing this before you invest too much of your life in the relationship. The basic foundation of an intimate relationship is usually trust, so I'd work on that before thinking about who lives where.

[CarolAnn&Eddy 12]

It really sounds like you are in a difficult position. I would agree with him trying to move to be with you. Not really sure how I would handle not knowing about his legal status in the US, until it came time to try and petition you. As I think back, my fiance never asked me about my citizenship in the US, nor did I ask him about his in Canada. It never came up and I guess we both just assumed. Which brings me to the point of asking, did he lie to you about his legal status or did it just never come up? Possibly he didn't think it mattered and thought you would be able to come over to the US on your own accord. Of course, no one really knows what he was thinking. If it was just never brought, don't be so hard on yourself or him about it. You seem as though you really do love him and want to be with him, therefore, it is time to look at different avenues to allow the two of you to be together. I sense a lot of hurt in your posts over the fact that you feel he "lied" to you. It may be a simple fact of ignorance on his part of not thinking his status here made a difference for the 2 of you to be together. Please don't take this as a negative, rather to give you some hope and comfort that you can't get through this if you choose to.

Good luck in which ever avenue you decide to take as the ultimate decision is yours.

[TigerFlower 61]

I'm sorry you are feeling pain. Try to view this as if you were in the same country. If you both lived in the same place, would you still want to be with him after the lying? That is the question to answer. Put aside who goes where for now. Do you want to be with this person?

[djricky4 67]

im really sorry to hear that. moving to the uk is the best options you all have right now

[Loida and Ed 11]

you have mail

[Robert&Karen 264]

If he was dishonest with you about his US citizenship to start with, it's hard to tell if he's going to continue lying about other things; you're the one who's going to have to make the decision, but I'd think long and hard about continuing this before you invest too much of your life in the relationship. The basic foundation of an intimate relationship is usually trust, so I'd work on that before thinking about who lives where.

This.

Edited August 17, 2012 by Robert&Karen