Help?Where we stand.Red ,yellow or green zone

[imranjenny 1]

We need your help please guide.

My interview is on 27 August in US Embassy Islamabad.

We lived together in Dubai from April 2010 to June 2010 2 months

We are living in Pakistan since June 2010 till now 2years

Married in July 2011 1 year now

1. She did not go back since when she came. We have an affidavit of sport from one of her friend and it approved by NVC. She got separated on the date she came to me in Dubai. After one year we applied for divorce and got it on 19th July 2011, Married on 21 July 2011.

I paid for her divorce fee and every thing while she was living with me and she lived with me before getting divorce. Is it negative too if Co ask any question. That who paid for divorce? And why we lived together before divorce?

2:-Does my wife (petitioner) need an appointment to appear with me in embassy on interview?

3:- does she need to show some thing that we are making arrangements to live there. Job or some thing? The friend gave us Affidavit of sport she sent a Notarized letter to NVC that we can live with her at her place. She is sending us one too same kind. ? What else they want from people who are living outside of USA.

4:- Our age difference is 11 years, she is 40. I am 29 how much it will affect our interview?

She was married twice before me and has 4 kids ages 20,19,18,17 now.

I was never married. What question they can ask.

5:-The first ticket on which she came, she sent me 600$ by western union and I paid some and she got her return ticket. But she never went back using that ticket. Is it wrong that ticket was not issued where she was living?

To pay for her air ticket is a negative thing? If they ask any question who paid for ticket.

7:-While she was in Pakistan she applied for divorcé, I paid fee to her lawyer, Is it wrong too?

8:- She covers her head by herself. I never forced her to do any thing .I love her for what she is .no matter to me she is Christian or Muslim. Muslim can marry a Christian woman, so no worries for me.

To be with me after getting separated is it wrong too? If they ask why she came to me to get separated?

She was not divorced at that time, she wanted to be separated but he did not in the beginning.

She tried to be separated from her husband and he never let her to be separated. His behavior was really bad with her. He never worked never earned any thing in the period of 6 years marriage. She paid for bills, food rent every thing. He was not on disability or any thing. He was just using her for money. She was working as much as she could. He just drunk and threatened for Alimony. When ever she tried to ask him leave from her place he never did. Then he said once that leave every thing that is here in house, TV, laptop washing microwave freezer AC I mean whole house and last checks then he will let her go. He loved money and what she earned then dropped her on airport and she came to me in Dubai and we waited till she was divorced and got married. I mean she was really treated badly and she could not do it .police can not do any thing because it was kind of personal.

Please help us.

1:-We met online on muslima.com on 02-25-2009

2:-Kept chatting every day almost for 1 year a 2 months

Then she decided to visit me and send me 800$

i added some money and baught her return ticket.

from usa to dubai and from dubai to USA with the gape of two months

She seprated from her xhusband the date she came to me in dubai on 04-12-2010

3:-Lived 2 months togather in dubai untill came to Pakistan on 06-04-2010

We had to wait for one year after seprition to apply for divorce,

After wait of one year She applied for divorce while living in Pakistan on 04-20-2011

4:-She Got divorce from exhusband,while living togather in pakistan on 07-19-2011

5:-Got married in Pakistan on 07-21-2011

6:-Sent I-130 delivered on 12-20-2011

Fee of 420$ delivered by money order 12-23-2011

7:-Got NoA1 on 01-03-2012

8:-Got 1-130 RFE about her first divorce on 01-26-2012

9:-SentI-129F and delivered on 01-23-2012

10:-Sent back on and delivered there 02-07-2012

11:-petition i-130 approved and sent to NVC on 02-13-2012

12:-petition i-129 approved and sent to nvc on 02-27-2012

13:-NVC sent letter having NVC case Number Invoice ID and beneficiary ID 03-06-2012

14:-NVC sent letter that we need to fallow

Only I-130 because I-130 also approved 03-08-2012

15:-Sent email to NVC and asked from them about our case number 03-16-2012

16:-Called NVC and gave them our emails and telephone numbers on 03-17-2012

17:-Got email responce from

NVC giving us case number and ID same like 06March on 03-21-2012

18:-Invoice for AOS generated and sent in our email on 03-27-2012

19:-Set form DS 230 to NVC by email and accepted on 03-28-2012

19:-Invoice for IV generated and sent in our email on 03-29-2012

20:-Fee paid for AOS on 04-15-2012

21:-Fee paid for IV

(Invoice was regenerated because of fee reduced 404$ to 230$ 04-25-2012

22:-Sent IV doc to NVC but got Check list of original Marriage certificate,

Police character certificate 05-17-2012

23:-Sent AOS documents but got check list

about proof of domicile of sponser 06-11-2012

24:-Sent responce to check list IV and accepted on 06-20-2012

25:-Sent proof domicile both petitioner and Sponser,case completed on 07-06-2012

26:- NVC forwerded case to Islamabad embassy,scheduled interview 08-27-2012 on 07-11-2012

27:-Booked appointment for medical for 08-07-2012 online 07-13-2012

[dwheels76 5,463]

Just at a glance I see issues aside from relgion, age difference, she's been married twice before and the 4 children. But what I see is she started an online relationship with you while she was still married and NOT separated. She only separated as you stated when she decided to come visit you. Although separated still married and going across the globe to see another man.

Pakistan is hard enough embassy. All the things you asked will you be questioned you may be. There are some big red flags here. But you will be better served when the Islamabad forum folk join in to give you the specifics of what you are facing.

All the best.

[EAbbas 213]

Just at a glance I see issues aside from relgion, age difference, she's been married twice before and the 4 children. But what I see is she started an online relationship with you while she was still married and NOT separated. She only separated as you stated when she decided to come visit you. Although separated still married and going across the globe to see another man.

Pakistan is hard enough embassy. All the things you asked will you be questioned you may be. There are some big red flags here. But you will be better served when the Islamabad forum folk join in to give you the specifics of what you are facing.

All the best.

along with what dwheels76 has said yes its strange you paid for her divorce and you should be prepared to be questioned about that but dont lie about it They know everything or have a way to find out. As long as you can provide without a doubt a good bonafide relationship it should be ok but you will be questioned so plan for direct honest answering

[sn530 27]

I suggest you get coached before you go to your interview!

reason is not to hide any facts, because facts are just facts but to respond to the question properly with an appropriate answer.

Yes I agree with the above response there is a red flags but you as an individual need to prove why your marriage is a bonafide one. I think the fact that she has been living with you in Pakistan for the past 2 years is enough proof. However the interpretation of the interviewer could be differed.

Another question is if she has kids that are under the age of 18 who is taking care of them? If your wife is actually a responsible individual wouldn’t her kids be with her rather then as you said above "drunk and abusive" ex?

Do not make clams or statements of her ex in the interview that is a sure shot to get a denial.

The purpose of the interview first off is to see if your relationship in fact is a bonafide relationship.

Second will be to assess the ability for you to be financially independent individual and not become a indemnifiable cost to the government.

I think it would be advisable that you ask the board to ask you mock interview questions and how best to address questions in the interview.

along with what dwheels76 has said yes its strange you paid for her divorce and you should be prepared to be questioned about that but dont lie about it They know everything or have a way to find out. As long as you can provide without a doubt a good bonafide relationship it should be ok but you will be questioned so plan for direct honest answering

Waoh, we think alike! lol!

[EAbbas 213]

Waoh, we think alike! lol!

LOL! yeah!!! well.. honesty is the best... you dont have to worry about what lie you told to cover it up.. you just tell the truth and dont worry about figuring it all out.. and yeah we too have red flags which im sure is why we are in AP but we told the truth we didnt lie and one day our purgatory will be over! INSHALLAH

[talean nawaz 41]

In our case, the CO did question where the money for my trips to Pakistan came from and it took me about 2 months after interview to find documentation to satisfy the request. They want to make sure that the petitioner is not receiving payment from the beneficiary's side for a visa. You may need to prove where the money came from like i did. Also, dating before a legal separation may cause a red flag. I was not legally divorced when I met my husband, but I was legally separated. Be very prepared!

[Ryan H 3,796]

Moved from IR-1/CR-1 Process & Procedures to Asia: South regional forum; topic is Pakistan specific. Duplicate thread removed.

[Naveed Hassan 10]

Be honest and tell the truth. everything will be fine.

Edited July 17, 2012 by Forever Love