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Do you feel like your life is on hold?

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:( I feel like my life is totally on hold. I miss my husband, I miss my home, I miss having my life with him!!

And not knowing when I´ll be able to return is really killing me. I´ve been married for a little over a year now....and we got married because we didn´t want to be apart....but now, we have to be!

I am trying to enjoy being in my country. It´s fun to spend time with family and friends, but being away has been harder than I thought. I´ve been here for two months now and he came to see me a month ago....it feels like it´s been forever already! I´m going crazy! My interview will only be set once the US Consulate receives my NL Police Certificate, which takes 4 weeks. So I have to wait until the end of the month to hear anything from them.

I know the wait is worth in the end....because I´ll finally be with him! But how do you cope? Can someone please share their story? Thanks!

Alix


N-400 (based on 3-year marriage rule)
06/05/2014 Application Sent
06/06/2014 Application Received in Phoenix

06/09/2014 Priority Date

06/11/2014 Notice Date

06/12//2014 Check Cashed
06/12/2014 Received email/text receipt confirmation from Phoenix Lockbox

06/17/2014 Biometrics Letter mailed
06/20/2014 Biometrics Letter Received

06/24/2014 Biometrics Walk-in

06/26/2014 In line for Interview

07/03/2014 Original Biometrics Appointment

07/29/2014 Yellow Letter Received

09/05/2014 Interview letter Received

10/07/2014 Interview

10/17/2014 Received email/text that oath has been scheduled

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I think we can all understand the way you are feeling. It's the waiting that is so hard and wanting to get on with your lives together.

Try to keep as busy as you can with your friends and family and just remember that every day is one day closer to you being together.

Best wishes for a speedy approval.


"THE SHORT STORY"

KURT & RAYMA (K-1 Visa)

Oct. 9/03... I-129F sent to NSC

June 10/04... K-1 Interview - APPROVED!!!!

July 31/04... Entered U.S.

Aug. 28/04... WEDDING DAY!!!!

Aug. 30/04... I-485, I-765 & I-131 sent to Seattle

Dec. 10/04... AOS Interview - APPROVED!!!!! (Passport stamped)

Sept. 9/06... I-751 sent to NSC

May 15/07... 10-Yr. PR Card arrives in the mail

Sept. 13/07... N-400 sent to NSC

Aug. 21/08... Interview - PASSED!!!!

Sept. 2/08... Oath Ceremony

Sept. 5/08... Sent in Voter Registration Card

Sept. 9/08... SSA office to change status to "U.S. citizen"

Oct. 8/08... Applied in person for U.S. Passport

Oct. 22/08... U.S. Passport received

DONE!!! DONE!!! DONE!!! DONE!!!

KAELY (K-2 Visa)

Apr. 6/05... DS-230, Part I faxed to Vancouver Consulate

May 26/05... K-2 Interview - APPROVED!!!!

Sept. 5/05... Entered U.S.

Sept. 7/05... I-485 & I-131 sent to CLB

Feb. 22/06... AOS Interview - APPROVED!!!!! (Passport NOT stamped)

Dec. 4/07... I-751 sent to NSC

May 23/08... 10-Yr. PR Card arrives in the mail

Mar. 22/11.... N-400 sent to AZ

June 27/11..... Interview - PASSED!!!

July 12/11..... Oath Ceremony

We're NOT lawyers.... just your average folks who had to find their own way!!!!! Anything we post here is simply our own opinions/suggestions/experiences and should not be taken as LAW!!!!

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Hi Alix

I met Jody online in 4 years ago on October 15th this year....He proposed to me 5 days after arriving in England from Dallas were he was working,for the 1st time...(1 month after 1st email)...I already knew he was my soul mate it was just a case of when he would ask....he proposed on one knee in the Rose garden at Warwick castle in England...romantic apart from the pouring rain!!.. we travellled back and forth until Feb 19th 2004 when we were married in the US Virgin Islands over looking the British Virgin Islands...my dream wedding..I was truly a lucky girl ...marrying my soulmate, wearing my dream dress, the sun shining down on all my friends and family..bliss.....and a honeymoon in a private villa with our own pool cut into the rocks...amazing. We went back to the UK together and 3 days later I was putting Jody back onto the plane to go back to Orlando. 3 weeks later he was back for a long weekend to celebrate at a big Caribbean themed party....then more tears again at the airport as I sent him back again....:(

Then torture as we are seperated again until Jody's visa comes through to come to the Uk..it was really quick though and by April 24th he is in UK to live and work HURRAH!!!!!...we had the most fantastic 15 months..just loving each other more and more each day...but I knew that Jody's career was suffering over here..he project manages skyscraper builds...not much call in the UK :( .so when he was headhunted back to the States I needed to let him go..we said 1 year..no more...however we are now at 14 months!!! at 11 months we decided that I would go live in the USA and hence all this started....I'm back visiting back and forwards again until its all sorted, but its really hard. I have good and bad days...the bad days involve bursting into tears on my own with no one for comfort...the good days...counting down to my next visit or Jody's next visit here....I go again Oct 19th...can't wait. I find it easier if I have a flight booked...its really hard otherwise as you feel in limbo.

These 4 years have been the most expensive and heart wrenching ever , but I'd do it all again to have Jody in my life, the most amazing man I've ever met.... :yes:

Clare


Clare

02.19.04 - Married in USVI - Jody to move to UK

04.24.04 - Jody moves to UK

08.01.05 - Jody gets headhunted back to US

08.02.06 - Clare decides to move to US..sends I-130 to Texas

08.17.06 - NOA-1 received in the mail from CSC

09.21.06 - I-129F mailed to Chigago

10.10.06 - I-129F received

11.10.06 - NOA-2 I130 approved (EMAIL) - amazing only 70 days

10.15.06 - I-129F - Touched

10.16.06 - I-129F - Touched

10.17.06 - I-129F - Email - Forwarded to CSC

10.16.06 - NOA-2 I130 received in mail from CSC

10.24.06 - I-129F - Received at CSC

10.26.06 - I-129F - Touched

11.09.06 - I-129F - Approved (email received)( 49 days WOW)

11.10.06 - NVC receives CR1 documents

11.17.06 - Receive AOS Bill and copy of DS-3032 in US

11.21.06 - Sent payment for AOS Bill

11.22.06 - Sent completed copy of DS-3032 (from US)

11.27.06 - UK copy of DS-3032 received ( already completed and sent)

01.17.07 - I864 received

01.19.07 - DS230 sent

03.12.07 - Case complete and forwarded to US Embassy London

03.28.07 - Received Interview date - May 14th

04.12.07 - Medical London

05.14.07 - Visa Interview - Visa granted

06.02.07 - POE Orlando....Breeze

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I know it's completely silly, but I put a sign on my door that read Everyday is Another Day Closer beside his picture so I could see it on my way out. I also kept reminding myself that there are women out there with husbands who are at war and who truly don't know if they will ever see him again. It always made me feel grateful that I could phone him anytime and know that barring strange events, he's there counting the days as well. Allow yourself to feel what you feel. Don't feel guilty for feeling angry or down. It is human nature. Most of all...keep yourself busy!

Hugs! You will get there!


I-751 Submitted August 2008

RFE Nov. 5, 2008 for incorrect fee

Nov. 6, 2008 Package returned to VSC with correct fee

NO COMMUNICATION FROM USCIS WHATSOEVER!

August 29, 2009 Letter of Intent to start removal proceedings

August 31, 2009 Letter and Phone with Congressman's office

Sept. 3, 2009 Infopass

Sept. 4, 2009 New I-751 submitted with another fee

Sept. 25, 2009 I-797C NOA received with 1 year extention dated Sept. 14, 2009

Oct. 2, 2009 NOA2 Biometrics Letter Appointment received

Oct. 9, 2009 Biometrics

Oct. 12, 2009 Updated on USICS website

Jan. 12, 2010 RFE

Feb. 2, 2010 RFE Returned

Feb. 4, 2010[/b ]RFE Received by USCIS

Feb. 19, 2010 EMAIL, TEXT & WEB UPDATE! CARD PRODUCTION ORDERED! Hallelujah!

Feb. 22, 2010 Second Email and text stating card production ordered.

Feb. 24, 2010 Email and Text stating Approval notice mailed.

Feb. 25, 2010 Approval letter I-797C dated 2/19/2010 received.

Feb. 27, 2010 Green Card arrived!! Envelope postmarked 2/23

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Thank you so much for sharing! I don´t feel so alone now. :blush:

MrsWhizz, congratulations on your visa! :no:

Claire, my bad days and good days are just like yours. Unfortunately Dinho and I will only be able to see each other again when the interview happens, so I am in a limbo. I cannot fly to the US and wait there (long story!). Anyways, I hope you have a lot of fun on your next trip!! :luv:

By the way, will anyone live in Arizona?

Alix :star:

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N-400 (based on 3-year marriage rule)
06/05/2014 Application Sent
06/06/2014 Application Received in Phoenix

06/09/2014 Priority Date

06/11/2014 Notice Date

06/12//2014 Check Cashed
06/12/2014 Received email/text receipt confirmation from Phoenix Lockbox

06/17/2014 Biometrics Letter mailed
06/20/2014 Biometrics Letter Received

06/24/2014 Biometrics Walk-in

06/26/2014 In line for Interview

07/03/2014 Original Biometrics Appointment

07/29/2014 Yellow Letter Received

09/05/2014 Interview letter Received

10/07/2014 Interview

10/17/2014 Received email/text that oath has been scheduled

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I met my husband in Nov. of 2003. We married in Oct. of 2004. Since then I have been with him a total of 2 months.

How do we do it? One day at a time. We have days that are up and we have days that are down. Sometimes its me and sometimes its him. Sometimes it is both of us at the same time.

The hardest part is getting back on the plane and leaving again....for who knows how much longer until I am with him again.

Our wait I think this time is finally coming to an end, and we have hopes (for the second time) that we will finally be reunited.

The one thing I do know is that if the love wasn't strong there is no way we would still be together. If we put our trust in Allah/God all works out the way it was meant to.


'Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways - Chardonnay in one hand - chocolate in the other - body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming 'WOO HOO, What a Ride'

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