Long Distance Love

[Nikki + Tomislav 7]

Hi all,

I just wanted to share with you my blog post about long distance love since it can relate to what many of you are going through or have gone through. When Tomislav and I were apart, I had a hard time talking to my friends about it because a.) they didn't really understand and b.) I could talk about it forever and that would just be way too much for them! I just wanted to write something that a lot of people in our situations can relate to so I'd like to share it with all of you and maybe you can find some comfort or advice in it.

You can find it here: http://dreamofhometonight.blogspot.com/2012/04/lucky-that-i-love-foreign-land.html

[Mr. Borkström 63]

Nicely written piece, thank you so much for sharing. I can definitely relate. Something that stands out, at least to me, is doing (supposedly) fun things but not really being there and not enjoying yourself fully because your loved one isn't there.

And also the part about you crying in the car on the way to the airport... I have known my American wife for a long time now but we've only met in person three times, for a grand total of 7 weeks. We talk daily on MSN and often on Skype. And it works. Keeps you going. But it's not the same as being together in person. And we have talked about not seeing each other in person again until my application for residency has been approved, because no matter how precious every little bit of time we get to spend together in person really is, the heartbreaking moment when you have to leave and be apart again is just too much. Last time when we were together, summer last year, the evening before my wife was flying back to the States, it was such an emotional turmoil. Being the man, I tried to suck it up and not break down, but I cracked way before my wife did and cried like a little baby at the thought of us having to be apart again. That, I think, is what hurts the most. I get teary-eyed just thinking about that heartbreaking moment.

The flip side to all this, I hope/think, is that the immense joy when we finally get to be together... When things are rough, when my patience is wearing thin, that's what I cling to. The thought that when I finally reunite with my wife is going to be the greatest day in my life.

We both constantly felt like there was a piece of us missing and we were just waiting to start real life. We were just going through the motions until we could be together again.

This. Feels sort of like life has been put on hold.

And if someone is willing to listen, it's easy to get carried away and talk about your far-away-love until the listener is totally over it.

Oh good Lord how I must bore my friends and co-workers to death! I do this all the time. I can feel myself getting carried away but sometimes, I just can't stop myself. lol

But for those in an LDR it's always a countdown until the next time you'll see each other.

I feel exactly the same. Sigh.

[Nikki + Tomislav 7]

I knew others could relate! it's so hard! I'm glad you got to read it. Hang in there...you will be together and the peace you will feel in your heart when you're together again will be amazing. Stay strong and I'm always here for you if you need to talk!

[MyLittlePony 340]

Long time for waiting but worth it till the end.

[X Factor 1,110]

Nikki thanks for sharing your story with us. Yes it is very difficult but for the right person it is worth it.

[spookyturtle 9,465]

Long time for waiting but worth it till the end.

For now, but what about 10 years down the line? That is the question.