is it worth to move to CT for a possible $30k job for 4 months and do another long distance relationship?

[tokyobelle 2]

hi everyone...i just need advice about this. i dunno how to go about it but my husband and i discussed about this and i still have not decided yet.

i have been approached about a job in a very known company in Bristol, CT that might pay about $30,000 (after taxes) in 4 months. there is a possibility of extension but not sure if it would reach a year. right now, i have accepted an unpaid internship here in Utah because I cannot find a job that i used to do before i came here in the US. they said they are going to pay me if i do good in the internship.

my husband wants me to consider another long distance relationship since the job in CT is temporary. we would plan about seeing each other about 3 days in every 3 weeks or something. we tried to make an estimate so it will be a little under $30,000 left for that and my apartment expenses.

one more thing to add, i don't have my driving license yet and i was told by the agent that transportation would be a little difficult. plus i am still waiting on my green card, i dunno what impact it will make to the application if we live apart for an indefinite amount of time.

[Dave&Roza 748]

hi everyone...i just need advice about this. i dunno how to go about it but my husband and i discussed about this and i still have not decided yet.

i have been approached about a job in a very known company in Bristol, CT that might pay about $30,000 (after taxes) in 4 months. there is a possibility of extension but not sure if it would reach a year. right now, i have accepted an unpaid internship here in Utah because I cannot find a job that i used to do before i came here in the US. they said they are going to pay me if i do good in the internship.

my husband wants me to consider another long distance relationship since the job in CT is temporary. we would plan about seeing each other about 3 days in every 3 weeks or something. we tried to make an estimate so it will be a little under $30,000 left for that and my apartment expenses.

one more thing to add, i don't have my driving license yet and i was told by the agent that transportation would be a little difficult. plus i am still waiting on my green card, i dunno what impact it will make to the application if we live apart for an indefinite amount of time.

Ah, one of those life curve balls that should be evaluated based on how it impacts your life and not your immigration status. Do you want to live in CT for four months to make $30K? What happens if the job goes for more than 4 months? Which spouse will move in order to be together? Do you have your EAD at least? If not, then this is not really an option until the GC arrives as you would be working illegally and THAT would have a large impact on your immigration status. You should be able to get a DL with the EAD card. Having a car in the US is as important as breathing as most cities have no or very poor public transportation.

I would base your decision on what is best for you and your husband first and then look to the effects it might have on your immigration status for ROC. Do not let the USCIS dictate how you live your life. Well documentated this will be fine as any marriage fraud would never do such a thing to avoid being put under a microscope come ROC.

Good luck on whatever you decide to do,

Dave

Edited March 23, 2012 by Dave&Roza

[K&E2009 71]

hi everyone...i just need advice about this. i dunno how to go about it but my husband and i discussed about this and i still have not decided yet.

i have been approached about a job in a very known company in Bristol, CT that might pay about $30,000 (after taxes) in 4 months. there is a possibility of extension but not sure if it would reach a year. right now, i have accepted an unpaid internship here in Utah because I cannot find a job that i used to do before i came here in the US. they said they are going to pay me if i do good in the internship.

my husband wants me to consider another long distance relationship since the job in CT is temporary. we would plan about seeing each other about 3 days in every 3 weeks or something. we tried to make an estimate so it will be a little under $30,000 left for that and my apartment expenses.

one more thing to add, i don't have my driving license yet and i was told by the agent that transportation would be a little difficult. plus i am still waiting on my green card, i dunno what impact it will make to the application if we live apart for an indefinite amount of time.

Very interested in this!

If I was you, I would be definitely considering going. 4 months is nothing, especially if you are planning on meeting up every 3 weeks.

What is you line of work, if you don't mind me asking?

Edited March 23, 2012 by Widsy97

[tokyobelle 2]

Ah, one of those life curve balls that should be evaluated based on how it impacts your life and not your immigration status. Do you want to live in CT for four months to make $30K? What happens if the job goes for more than 4 months? Which spouse will move in order to be together? Do you have your EAD at least? If not, then this is not really an option until the GC arrives as you would be working illegally and THAT would have a large impact on your immigration status. You should be able to get a DL with the EAD card. Having a car in the US is as important as breathing as most cities have no or very poor public transportation.

I would base your decision on what is best for you and your husband first and then look to the effects it might have on your immigration status for ROC. Do not let the USCIS dictate how you live your life. Well documentated this will be fine as any marriage fraud would never do such a thing to avoid being put under a microscope come ROC.

Good luck on whatever you decide to do,

Dave

I have my EAD but i just finished my driving classes so if they accept me in this job i only have around 2-3 weeks to make arrangements, get my license and get a car. we cannot really afford another car, so that's another thing to think about.

thanks for your advice though, me and my husband are still talking more. i am actually tempted to take the job for 4 months and just go back and have spare money. if it ever is gonna extend, it must be for a year before my husband could probably sacrifice losing his stable job. that's the thing...his job is more stable but it is not enough for us to really begin an addition to our family yet. whereas my job is more seasonal and contractual.

[tokyobelle 2]

Very interested in this!

If I was you, I would be definitely considering going. 4 months is nothing, especially if you are planning on meeting up every 3 weeks.

What is you line of work, if you don't mind me asking?

haha actually a lot of people are telling me to go now. i work as an Application Packager/IT. i edit software installers according to the Windows platform. right now since Windows 7 is being rolled out by companies, there's more demand for this job. but it only lasts for 4-6 months since most of the work is done by that time if they have a lot of people doing the job. it has pros since most of the people who do that job are in India, UK or Australia. the downside is they don't seem to hire people permanently for this job.

[Leatherneck 693]

Sounds like you guys could use the extra income -- the 4 months is a small price to pay for the increase in your family income. Yes I know you have other things to consider also.... what a dilemma. For sure, you'd feel good about your contribution to the household income.

[BethandBilly 86]

CT is a beautiful place, my hubby grew up not too far from Bristol, he said the money you would earn there after tax isn't bad at all to live in that part of the state. He said just be careful of what part of Bristol you live in and make sure you look at the areas before renting a place. If you get a car think about living in different towns, he said Southington is nice, can be a bit pricy but it's a nice area to live, at least for a while.

Good Luck with your decision

[tokyobelle 2]

CT is a beautiful place, my hubby grew up not too far from Bristol, he said the money you would earn there after tax isn't bad at all to live in that part of the state. He said just be careful of what part of Bristol you live in and make sure you look at the areas before renting a place. If you get a car think about living in different towns, he said Southington is nice, can be a bit pricy but it's a nice area to live, at least for a while.

Good Luck with your decision

thanks for the direct feedback! might have to ask you more if i get that job