RUBbette Wives & Housework, si man

[Gary and Alla 3,696]

My parents used to do it, but they stopped with the development of technology.

However, I hate stupid carpets in every house here too. We are getting rid of carpets in our house some time soon.

Technology! What a concept! I will tell Alla this (Alla is probably your parents age)

Alla would not set foot in our new home until I removed the carpet and installed hardwood floors and ceramic tile. Good quality vinyl flooring would also be acceptable in places like the kitchen but she prefers ceramic tile.

[BatmanUSA 105]

I go to stores, I collect the paint cards, 2X2 carpet samples, and she looks online for furniture... We Skype and Elena chooses the paint colors, and carpet... when she started emailing me local advertisements of furniture and asking me what I think..... I just said to her to choose what she wants and I will have it all done before she gets here..... Jeez.. I didn't realize my house was is such condition... :-)

[Gary and Alla 3,696]

I go to stores, I collect the paint cards, 2X2 carpet samples, and she looks online for furniture... We Skype and Elena chooses the paint colors, and carpet... when she started emailing me local advertisements of furniture and asking me what I think..... I just said to her to choose what she wants and I will have it all done before she gets here..... Jeez.. I didn't realize my house was is such condition... :-)

We did this also and finally decidied that it would be best if she chose the colors when she arrived. I had the entire house primed white when she arrived. The first few weeks were a blur as we chose paint colors, curtain rods (Alla's Mom had made the curtains from lace material in Ukraine...very nice indeed) kitchen utensils (of course I did not have everything she needed, are you kidding?) Quite the time.

Then two years later we moved and did it all over again!

[baron555 934]

We did this also and finally decidied that it would be best if she chose the colors when she arrived. I had the entire house primed white when she arrived. The first few weeks were a blur as we chose paint colors, curtain rods (Alla's Mom had made the curtains from lace material in Ukraine...very nice indeed) kitchen utensils (of course I did not have everything she needed, are you kidding?) Quite the time.

Then two years later we moved and did it all over again!

My wife wants to either move entirely or totally remodel everything....which I saved for when she got here and can make her own "collective" decision.

[Gary and Alla 3,696]

My wife wants to either move entirely or totally remodel everything....which I saved for when she got here and can make her own "collective" decision.

We remodeled, then moved. Then remodeld again. Who says they do not get Americanized?

[Amy_and_Victor 159]

Hey guys, it's Amy. This thread is entertaining. My RUB guy and I divide the chores fairly evenly because we both work close to the same number of hours. Before he was working, he'd do most cooking (Russian noms, yay! ), and now we take turns. He also did more of the cleaning stuff before he started working. On the weekend we cook meals together and clean as we go. We both love to cook. If just one person cooks, the other person will wash all the dishes. I have noticed that I have a different system of doing dishes that I prefer. I have to rinse them all with hot water and organize them by like items before I take soap to them. I also have to stack them in the dish drainer just so.

We take turns with vacuuming and cleaning the bathroom and kitchen as well as taking out the garbage (depending on how heavy it is). We have to use a communal laundry facility since we're renting in an apartment building now, and to save money we use a laundry horse to dry everything. Anything that doesn't fit on that will hang on hangers on the shower curtain rod. I got used to hang-drying when I stayed with him in Russia, but when we find ourselves one day living in a space with our own dryer, we'll likely use it. In the mean time, I'm absolutely fine with hang drying. Using a good fabric softener will keep clothes from getting too stiff. The dryers at our apartment complex charge $1.50 for only about 40 minutes of drying time, and if you do a normal sized load they'll come out only semi-dry. I think that's a rip-off (intentionally set up by management so people will want to dry on a second cycle and spend more money - cheap bastards!), so we hang-dry unless it's one of our big comforters. He'll lug the laundry out there and haul it back and I'll hang it all up to dry and I usually put it all away once it's dried. He's really handy and mechanically inclined, so he fixes a lot of things. I tend to take on organizing projects when they come up. I'm grateful that the division of household labor is equal in our home.

Edited to add: I've had a cat since 2004, and I do all stuff related to her and don't make Vitya do anything regarding cleaning her litter box or any of that since I figure she's my cat. So technically I have a set of cat-related chores that are all mine, but he didn't adopt the cat so I figure he shouldn't have to clean up after her.

Edited January 14, 2013 by Amy_and_Victor

[TBoneTX 48,131]

Does your RUBbette wife do all of the housework, most of it, some of it, not much of it, or none of it? If not all, then what, and what's the reasoning for the division of labor? Comments, please man, si man.

Bump, after too long a dormancy, si man.

[slim 1,533]

I'm doing laundry right now. My wife - who takes a few classes at the community college and works a special event every few weeks - just can't seem to find the time to do it. There's plenty of time for her laundry to get done. Something with the space-time-continuum and the riddles of enigmas.

And don't even get me started on the 46 products in the dirty bathroom. All those products in there. You'd think at least one of them was cleaner.

[TBoneTX 48,131]

I'm doing laundry right now. My wife - who takes a few classes at the community college and works a special event every few weeks - just can't seem to find the time to do it. There's plenty of time for her laundry to get done. Something with the space-time-continuum and the riddles of enigmas.

And don't even get me started on the 46 products in the dirty bathroom. All those products in there. You'd think at least one of them was cleaner.

Slim! Du-u-u-de! The RUBforum has gone south since Kip was banned and Gary has pretty much flown the coop. I miss the fun, sigh man.

I do the laundry here as a defense mechanism. Mrs. T-B. insists on not using fabric-softener sheets and using the fancy "sensor" cycle on the dryer that (of course) leaves stuff wet. I, conversely, am a pro at selecting the exact number of minutes on the straight "timed" cycle that leaves everything quite dry yet unburnt, si man. And, of course, the fabric-softener sheets make all the difference in the quality and aroma of the output.

Whatever cleaner Mrs. T-B. uses, whether in bathroom or kitchen, stinks worse than bleach and leaves the floor sticky, ick man. The preferred method of cleaning still involves the famous rag-on-a-stick, sigh man.

[slim 1,533]

The lint trap is apparently, off limits. I sure hope our house doesn't burn down because of it. I remove a sweater each time I do laundry.

Rag on a stick has been replaced by the ultra-awesome and futuristic Swiffer I bought her for Woman's Day a few years ago. I think rag on a stick still comes out for the big jobs, but the Swiffer gets some play just because it's cool.

[TBoneTX 48,131]

The lint trap is apparently, off limits. I sure hope our house doesn't burn down because of it. I remove a sweater each time I do laundry.

Rag on a stick has been replaced by the ultra-awesome and futuristic Swiffer I bought her for Woman's Day a few years ago. I think rag on a stick still comes out for the big jobs, but the Swiffer gets some play just because it's cool.

Oh, don't even mention the lint trap, no man -- might as well try to discuss the geopolitics of Pluto's moons to get the same reaction, sigh man.

I might have to try the Swiffer, although it would end up being yet another infernal broom, rag-on-stick, or dustpan that takes over every area in which I wish to walk or function. Indeed, I've threatened near-divorce vis-a-vis the dustpans.

Is Woman's Day still being published? Mama-Mrs.-T-B. is here visiting, and just today I went to the nearby Mexican supermarket and bought a crapload of magazines, such as People (in Spanish), Cosmo (in Spanish), and TV y Novelas (a soap-opera weekly rag), si man. Both she and Mrs. T-B. tore into those as soon as they beheld them, si man.

[slim 1,533]

I got to clean the garage today. Just a bit. More of a reorganizing, but it was nice to be out there amongst all that manly stuff. She poked her head in to see what I was doing and to tell me how to do it better, but I shooed her away and finished the job. Can't wait till it cools down a bit more so I can spend more time out there doing nothing.

[TBoneTX 48,131]

Mrs. T-B. will even reorganize the garage, sigh man. All the screwdrivers are now jumbled up in the bottom of a wire basket and can NEVER be retrieved, no man, unless they're all dumped out. When I expressed dismay, she said, "But you have so MANY of them!" (Sorry, Dear, but that doesn't excuse randomizing them in a place where they can't be gotten to.)

As long as she doesn't TOUCH the motor oil, I can live with some of the rest of it, si man.

Upon preparing dishes for the dishwasher this eve, I discovered that she had again used every one of our 17,947 spoons and 375 knives in the last two days, sigh man. Of course, Mama-Mrs.-T-B. is also here, which compounds the situation.

Edited June 14, 2013 by TBoneTX

[paws057 9]

She doesn't do toilets and she does not do "man's work" Man's work is anything done with a "greasy machine" (lawn mower, chain saw, weedwhacker, etc) or anything which is "heavy lifting" or "dirty" So trash, moving furniture (she will wash the windows but you have to move the sofa out of the way) She does not "fix" anything...man's job. Light bulbs, change furnace filter, unclog toilets, broken handle on the pots and pans, hanging pictures and curtain rods...all man's work.

She does not clean her own rifle! Hoppe's number 9 is not her favortie fragrance.

Also she would accept assistance on anything but I have to be supervised because men generally cannot do these things properly because it is not in our nature and this knowledge is way above us...except for toilets

She won't clean her own rifle? Can't blame here on the smell of Hoppe's # 9 though.

I did notice when I was back there at New Years and this spring I couldn't chop anything small enough for her. I can chop just fine here in the USA but there not a chance. I did have to 'fix' a few things while I was there but that is fine and I enjoy that anyway.

[BatmanUSA 105]

says she does not like to wash dishes, but she washes the dishes instead of putting them in the dishwasher.??????