10 Ways To Make Your Marriage Last 10 Years [EXPERT]

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10 Ways To Make Your Marriage Last 10 Years [EXPERT]

By Nicole Johnson posted Nov 4th 2011 4:17PM

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Ever wonder how some couples make it work for years on end? Find out here.November 3 marked my 10 year wedding anniversary to the finest man I know— my husband, Rob. He is the best aspect of my life and it's an honor to be his wife. The unconditional

love we share is effortless. The depth of our connection continues to show me our paths did not cross by happenstance; we were destined to experience life together. The trust and adoration I feel for Rob is immeasurable.

Contrary to what you may have heard,

marriage is not burdensome. When you are married to the right person, building a life with your spouse is not an arduous task. For several years, friends, colleagues, relatives, and acquaintances have asked me the secret to my marital success. I want you to know there is nothing esoteric about being in a happy, loving relationship or achieving a 10 year wedding anniversary. Moreover, if you assess your relationship in these 10 categories, as well as follow your visceral instincts, I promise you will find your way to lasting love!

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Attraction. Authentic attraction is more than chemistry and physical attraction. Assess your relationship for an intellectual attraction, an emotional attraction, and an inspirational attraction.Does your partner inspire you? The ability to inspire and be inspired by your partner will carry you through the decades. The 3 C's Of Long-Lasting Love EXPERT

2. Accountability. Do you hold yourself accountable in your relationship? Do you hold your partner accountable? Are you able to engage in discourse about obligations, concerns, or expectations? In a healthy relationship, the ability to hold your partner responsible for their actions and inaction is vital. However, you should never berate or disrespect your partner when holding them accountable ... and nagging is unproductive.

3. Communication. Effective communication is the cornerstone for every successful relationship. Are you able to communicate with your partner? Do you have similar communication styles? Are you aware of the impact of your verbal and non-verbal communication on your partner? When your partner speaks, are you truly listening? Being a good listener is a critical aspect of communication. By listening intently, you will continue to learn about your partner while creating a supportive environment for self-expression.

4. Lifestyles / Interests. Having similar lifestyles and interests will propel your relationship to prosperity. Do you and your partner share similar lifestyles? Having opposing values or cultural ideals could prove to be challenging in the long-term. Sharing the same way of life enables you to connect at a deeper level. Do you and your partner appreciate the same type of activities and interests? By spending more time together, your connection will grow. You don't have to enjoy all of your activities together, but it's nice to experience certain interests as a couple.

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[calibob 73]

10 , 1 year overseas contracts????? JK!!

Bob

[Girl from Celebes 588]

10 , 1 year overseas contracts????? JK!!

Bob

Oh no, it can't be true, Bob!

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10 Ways To Make Your Marriage Last 10 Years [EXPERT]

November 3 marked my 10 year wedding anniversary to the finest man I know— my husband, Rob.

My first marriage lasted 17 years. I've now been happily remarried for 2 and counting.

I can assure you that when you are married 17 years, they are not all horrible, you simply can't last that long if they are all bad.

At the 10 year mark of my first marriage I could have written words very much like the above, how my wife was the finest woman I'd ever known.

Suffice it to say that at some time after 10 years and well before 17 years, things went off the rails. Probably around the 12, 13 year mark.

The last 4 or 5 years were pretty awful - the fights and arguments, the eventual separation, the legal battles, the relief of the divorce.

I'm sure my experience is not typical. Most marriages do break up much earlier than 10 years, and if you make it to a 10 year anniversary chances are pretty good you can go all the way. But I know from personal experience that it's not always so.

[Girl from Celebes 588]

My first marriage lasted 17 years. I've now been happily remarried for 2 and counting.

I can assure you that when you are married 17 years, they are not all horrible, you simply can't last that long if they are all bad.

At the 10 year mark of my first marriage I could have written words very much like the above, how my wife was the finest woman I'd ever known.

Suffice it to say that at some time after 10 years and well before 17 years, things went off the rails. Probably around the 12, 13 year mark.

The last 4 or 5 years were pretty awful - the fights and arguments, the eventual separation, the legal battles, the relief of the divorce.

I'm sure my experience is not typical. Most marriages do break up much earlier than 10 years, and if you make it to a 10 year anniversary chances are pretty good you can go all the way. But I know from personal experience that it's not always so.

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Edited November 10, 2011 by Girl from Celebes

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Most marriages do break up much earlier than 10 years, and if you make it to a 10 year anniversary chances are pretty good you can go all the way. But I know from personal experience that it's not always so.

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