husband,'s daugther

[Astig11 1]

I need some advice to all VJ members here..arrived here in united states a few weeks ago seems everything was fine i liked the people they are very friendly,in short i dont have any problem with the people and culture here,but there,s a problem my husband daughter well she said she cant accept me as a wife of their dad she didnt say it infront of my face just from text msg,husband ex wife never been accepted by them the ex wife of my hubby is a profesional she was a nurse,an american,not too far in my husband,s age but they treated her the same.is the right thing for us to move out here and look for a far place to live,they bothered us with phone calls accusing me different things like i am just a scammer,talking against about me to the relatives of my husband or to her friends...what im going to do.?in my mind if she will come to the house to yell or insult me i will call the police is this right?i am getting pissed with her...i want to smack her face if she will come to the house....i dont care if she is my husband,s daughter...pls need advice guys.....

[ladyg 10]

I need some advice to all VJ members here..arrived here in united states a few weeks ago seems everything was fine i liked the people they are very friendly,in short i dont have any problem with the people and culture here,but there,s a problem my husband daughter well she said she cant accept me as a wife of their dad she didnt say it infront of my face just from text msg,husband ex wife never been accepted by them the ex wife of my hubby is a profesional she was a nurse,an american,not too far in my husband,s age but they treated her the same.is the right thing for us to move out here and look for a far place to live,they bothered us with phone calls accusing me different things like i am just a scammer,talking against about me to the relatives of my husband or to her friends...what im going to do.?in my mind if she will come to the house to yell or insult me i will call the police is this right?i am getting pissed with her...i want to smack her face if she will come to the house....i dont care if she is my husband,s daughter...pls need advice guys.....

That sound to be a difficult situation.Have you talked to your husband about how you feel ,what does he say?You guys need to sit down and talk.How old are the kid/kids maybe they will grow out of it and oneday accept that their dad aint going to be with thier mother again .WARNING PLEASE DONT smack her no matter how much she insults you or do otherwise.This is america you will be arrested,here they dont play .I know in my country you can smack a neighbor's child but cant be arrested.I suggest you talk to your husband and let him handle his child/children.All the best

[Jojo92122 1,925]

I need some advice to all VJ members here..arrived here in united states a few weeks ago seems everything was fine i liked the people they are very friendly,in short i dont have any problem with the people and culture here,but there,s a problem my husband daughter well she said she cant accept me as a wife of their dad she didnt say it infront of my face just from text msg,husband ex wife never been accepted by them the ex wife of my hubby is a profesional she was a nurse,an american,not too far in my husband,s age but they treated her the same.is the right thing for us to move out here and look for a far place to live,they bothered us with phone calls accusing me different things like i am just a scammer,talking against about me to the relatives of my husband or to her friends...what im going to do.?in my mind if she will come to the house to yell or insult me i will call the police is this right?i am getting pissed with her...i want to smack her face if she will come to the house....i dont care if she is my husband,s daughter...pls need advice guys.....

This is a family issue and not an immigration issue.

It's up to you and your husband as to how you will handle things. Your husband should have a talk with his daughter.

If she comes to your home, you can ask her to leave. If she refuses to leave, you can call the police. DO NOT SMACK HER. THIS WOULD BE A VERY STUPID THING. DO NOT TOUCH HER. DON'T PUSH. DON'T ACCIDENTALLY CLOSE A DOOR ON HER FOOT. ETC. JUST CALL THE POLICE AND LOCK YOURSELF IN A SAFE ROOM. YOU DO NOT WANT HER TO CLAIM YOU STARTED THE PHYSICAL VIOLENCE.

If you touch her or smack her, you will regret it. First, she can have you arrested for battery. Second, an arrest could be a problem when it comes time to remove the condition on your green card or for you to naturalize.

P.S. How old is your husband's daughter? If she is under 18, then you may not even be able to ask her to leave. As a minor child under her father's care, she has a right to be in the house when he has custody of her.

Edited October 22, 2011 by Jojo92122

[Astig11 1]

thank you guys for the response thye are all grown up ages 45 and 47 yrs old.....yes i wont smack her she rather smack me so that i can put her in prison...

This is a family issue and not an immigration issue.

It's up to you and your husband as to how you will handle things. Your husband should have a talk with his daughter.

If she comes to your home, you can ask her to leave. If she refuses to leave, you can call the police. DO NOT SMACK HER. THIS WOULD BE A VERY STUPID THING. DO NOT TOUCH HER. DON'T PUSH. DON'T ACCIDENTALLY CLOSE A DOOR ON HER FOOT. ETC. JUST CALL THE POLICE AND LOCK YOURSELF IN A SAFE ROOM. YOU DO NOT WANT HER TO CLAIM YOU STARTED THE PHYSICAL VIOLENCE.

If you touch her or smack her, you will regret it. First, she can have you arrested for battery. Second, an arrest could be a problem when it comes time to remove the condition on your green card or for you to naturalize.

P.S. How old is your husband's daughter? If she is under 18, then you may not even be able to ask her to leave. As a minor child under her father's care, she has a right to be in the house when he has custody of her.

Edited October 22, 2011 by Astig11

[Jojo92122 1,925]

thank you guys for the response thye are all grown up ages 45 and 47 yrs old.....yes i wont smack her she rather smack me so that i can get her in prison...

Just remember, as a US citizen, she can do whatever she wants without any immigration consequences. As a foreigner with a conditional green card, you are a guest in this country. You can lose your LPR status and be deported. You may not be able to naturalize if you lack "good moral character."

[Astig11 1]

THANK YOU FOR THE ADVICE AT LEAST NOW I KNOW WHAT TO DO WE HAVE PLANS ALSO TO SELL THE HOUSE AND MOVE OUT FROM HERE MAYBE THIS IS RIGHT THING TO DO TO AVOID HER BIG MOUTH....

Just remember, as a US citizen, she can do whatever she wants without any immigration consequences. As a foreigner with a conditional green card, you are a guest in this country. You can lose your LPR status and be deported. You may not be able to naturalize if you lack "good moral character."

[Dan & Jenni 457]

thank you guys for the response thye are all grown up ages 45 and 47 yrs old.....yes i wont smack her she rather smack me so that i can put her in prison...

i wouldnt even let them in the house or even open the door to them... have nothing to do with them whatsoever. for someone of that age to treat you that way means they have big issues and one false claim against you could leave you in serious trouble

[Astig11 1]

THANKS FOR THE ADVICE YES I WILL AVOID OR I WILL BE MORE PATIENT AS I CAN....

That sound to be a difficult situation.Have you talked to your husband about how you feel ,what does he say?You guys need to sit down and talk.How old are the kid/kids maybe they will grow out of it and oneday accept that their dad aint going to be with thier mother again .WARNING PLEASE DONT smack her no matter how much she insults you or do otherwise.This is america you will be arrested,here they dont play .I know in my country you can smack a neighbor's child but cant be arrested.I suggest you talk to your husband and let him handle his child/children.All the best

[Astig11 1]

RIGHT I AM PISSED WHEN SHE WAS TRYING TO INSIST THAT I AM A SCAMMER,,HELLO SHES OUT OF HER MIND!THEN I FELT LIKE SHE WANTS TO RUIN MY REPUTATION TO MY HUSBAND FAMILY...BEFORE I GOT MARRIED TO THEIR DAD WE KNEW FOR EACH OTHER FOR OVER 4YRS WHICH IS THEY DONT HAVE ANY IDEA ABOUT IT WHAT WE BEEN THROUGH TOGETHER..FOR ALL THOSE YEARS TOGETHER....

i wouldnt even let them in the house or even open the door to them... have nothing to do with them whatsoever. for someone of that age to treat you that way means they have big issues and one false claim against you could leave you in serious trouble

[skiptex 225]

thank you guys for the response thye are all grown up ages 45 and 47 yrs old.....yes i wont smack her she rather smack me so that i can put her in prison...

is this age of you/husband or of the children?

this is a family thing you need workout with your husband.. when my father married the STEPmonster.. i did not talk to him for 5 yrs..

so this may not be something that can be fixed.. thats between father and daughter.. she does not have to accept you.. but one should be civil..

[Astig11 1]

well i hope this things will be fix soon seems like this will not be fix because husband has a prior marriage but it was the same they dont even liked her for some reasons their mom died more than 15 yrs ago.the second marriage of my husband was the same they dont liked her and it seems like there is something wrong with the picture.

is this age of you/husband or of the children?

this is a family thing you need workout with your husband.. when my father married the STEPmonster.. i did not talk to him for 5 yrs..

so this may not be something that can be fixed.. thats between father and daughter.. she does not have to accept you.. but one should be civil..

[Astig11 1]

this is the age of his children...i dont expect them to accept me all i want is to keep their mouth shut up..of her big mouth acting like uncivilized ignorant

is this age of you/husband or of the children?

this is a family thing you need workout with your husband.. when my father married the STEPmonster.. i did not talk to him for 5 yrs..

so this may not be something that can be fixed.. thats between father and daughter.. she does not have to accept you.. but one should be civil..

Edited October 23, 2011 by Astig11

[Girl from Celebes 588]

That sound to be a difficult situation.Have you talked to your husband about how you feel ,what does he say?You guys need to sit down and talk.How old are the kid/kids maybe they will grow out of it and oneday accept that their dad aint going to be with thier mother again .WARNING PLEASE DONT smack her no matter how much she insults you or do otherwise.This is america you will be arrested,here they dont play .I know in my country you can smack a neighbor's child but cant be arrested.I suggest you talk to your husband and let him handle his child/children.All the best

In my country, a teacher went to jail because slapping on his student's face. The reason why he slapped the student, because this kid told him that his new haircut really ugly.

[babystef 8]

well this is really difficult. it is a family matter and should be discussed with your husband. just don't mind her. Dont show her that you are pissed. If you ignore her well maybe she will stop doing that to you. as long as your husband believes in you, its all that matters. do n ot do something that the stepdaughter may take it against you. just be honest with your husband and be open. let him do the action.

i am jusyt lucky that me and my step daughter were ok and she listens to me..i'll pray for ur patience..

[Astig11 1]

Right,i just dont like her big mouth. the past marriage of their dad was the same they dont even like her too,i dont know if this is because of money or what they said they want to protect their dad.

well this is really difficult. it is a family matter and should be discussed with your husband. just don't mind her. Dont show her that you are pissed. If you ignore her well maybe she will stop doing that to you. as long as your husband believes in you, its all that matters. do n ot do something that the stepdaughter may take it against you. just be honest with your husband and be open. let him do the action.

i am jusyt lucky that me and my step daughter were ok and she listens to me..i'll pray for ur patience..