While waiting for your step/daughter/son

[Tahoma 2,298]

In today's episode of The Drama in My Mind...

I have a BIG problem. I cannot stop thinking about the kid. I am confused.

I am so confused about all this

It is a rhetorical question you have posted of course. Am I too good of a guy?

He seems to have you figured out.

Stay tuned...

[sunandmoon 450]

Angel keeps on popping in, are we ever going to hear from her?

[PhilAmTx 14]

my fiance did the same thing to my 6 y/o child... he bought and still buying him stuff... his room now are fully furnished ... all are new.. the color are my sons favorite color..stuffs are my sons favorite.. everything is ready for my son... he didn't do anything for our bedroom because he wants me to do it when i get there... like he wants our bedroom will have my personal touch and he wanna make sure everything is perfect for me.. and i love the idea... the living room has plenty pictures of me and my son...i love it.. i feel so loved and im touched for him to do such sweet things.. it was the sweetest thing....i guess you worry nothing about that.. your wife to be would feel blessed and it was great thinking that you accept and love her son as your own..that's what i feel ,so much love..and my son feel comfortable with him because he love my son as his own...

[Tahoma 2,298]

Angel keeps on popping in, are we ever going to hear from her?

I'm surprised Angelforever07 hasn't posted on this thread since she and Junior are such good friends.

[jrmejia 31]

my fiance did the same thing to my 6 y/o child... he bought and still buying him stuff... his room now are fully furnished ... all are new.. the color are my sons favorite color..stuffs are my sons favorite.. everything is ready for my son... he didn't do anything for our bedroom because he wants me to do it when i get there... like he wants our bedroom will have my personal touch and he wanna make sure everything is perfect for me.. and i love the idea... the living room has plenty pictures of me and my son...i love it.. i feel so loved and im touched for him to do such sweet things.. it was the sweetest thing....i guess you worry nothing about that.. your wife to be would feel blessed and it was great thinking that you accept and love her son as your own..that's what i feel ,so much love..and my son feel comfortable with him because he love my son as his own...

I hope you staying here is pleasant and you will not need to go thru the depression, boredom, homesickness that many go/went through.

I can feel the real love between your fiance, you, and your 6yr old.

Love is everything, when there is love, nothing else matter!

I hope other read this post.

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I'm surprised Angelforever07 hasn't posted on this thread since she and Junior are such good friends.

I just hope you don't get me in trouble with my fiancee. I am giving her the password of my VJ id. I hope she does not think I have another girlfriend.

[jrmejia 31]

It was suggested you had a sockpuppet saying so, and that's why I am asking. No big deal, just trying to see the timeframe and establish some kind of foundation for your interactions to date with him.

Again, not a big deal but the time frame expected would help alongside information like if you have met at all yet and what kind of time exposure, what things you did, what the issues were if any - there's no information here. If you were more devoted to him than the coming wife and have never met him, then is that "dangerous" like you ask - well it is a bit delusional. If you have spent a lot of time with him already and are best buddies then that is not bizarre, no.

Some have said you are not for real. I haven't. But that would certainly be decisive. Pictures. I'm proud of my wife, you know so yeah I show pictures.

Let's say the kid burned his school down and robbed a bank by kindergarten as example #1. Example #2 is the kid tested 163 IQ and is already a concert violinist. Going to med school for sure, etc. You are pretending information doesn't matter. Being coy about what kind of interaction you have had if any.

Ribs are doing good though so I'll be back after I turn them over.

Wise man sayeth do not go where every other man die.

1. Did I meet the kid before? kind of a silly question if you are following me. If I went to meet her family will that Imply I met the kid? The answer is yes, I met the kid. Why do you think I am so attached to him?

2. Do I know anything about the kid? Well,I know his likes and I keep my eyes on his school progress. Like in which subjects he is doing well and what subject he is lacking. So far the kid is doing very well in Science and Math. In English he is doing so so. I am actually pushing her to get some kind of tutoring to help him improve his English. She tells me he is a bit lazy when it comes to learning English but for math and science he has so much energy and he puts so much attention to it. She just showed me all the medals he got in pre-k.

Anyway, I took a day off to stay home and now my Bloomberg streamer is not working. Forget about Bloomberg on the radio I get bad reception. No, I do not have xm/siris sat radio at home.

I enjoy reading reading your post.

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[PhilAmTx 14]

I hope you staying here is pleasant and you will not need to go thru the depression, boredom, homesickness that many go/went through.

I can feel the real love between your fiance, you, and your 6yr old.

Love is everything, when there is love, nothing else matter!

I hope other read this post.

*warning*

I just hope you don't get me in trouble with my fiancee. I am giving her the password of my VJ id. I hope she does not think I have another girlfriend.

I hope you staying here is pleasant and you will not need to go thru the depression, boredom, homesickness that many go/went through.

I can feel the real love between your fiance, you, and your 6yr old.

Love is everything, when there is love, nothing else matter!

I hope other read this post.

*warning*

I just hope you don't get me in trouble with my fiancee. I am giving her the password of my VJ id. I hope she does not think I have another girlfriend.

my life is my son and my husband to be...i dont think i would feel homesickness ,boredom and depression... as long as my son is with me and my hubby always there..in US WITH THEM "I'M HOME" maybe will missing my friends and family but having my own home and own family would be the best gift ever from heaven.. i know there would be a lot of adjustment but we will work on it.. supporting each other,helping each other and continue loving each other... my son will give our home a life... soon... hopefully very very soon... and we are all excited.... good luck to you ..and obviously you love your wife and son.. for that i appreciate you... that is very impressive ... only few will do...

Edited June 6, 2011 by acrossthemiles

[jrmejia 31]

my life is my son and my husband to be...i dont think i would feel homesickness ,boredom and depression... as long as my son is with me and my hubby always there..in US WITH THEM "I'M HOME" maybe will missing my friends and family but having my own home and own family would be the best gift ever from heaven.. i know there would be a lot of adjustment but we will work on it.. supporting each other,helping each other and continue loving each other... my son will give our home a life... soon... hopefully very very soon... and we are all excited.... good luck to you ..and obviously you love your wife and son.. for that i appreciate you... that is very impressive ... only few will do...

Salamat po for your reply. Actually you solved a mystery that I wanted to solve.

The below quote from you solved a puzzle of a question I posted.

my life is my son and my husband to be...i dont think i would feel homesickness ,boredom and depression... as long as my son is with me and my hubby always there..in US WITH THEM "I'M HOME"

You and your husband are into a very lovely relationship

Now the question is? why other feel so depressed, boredom, and homesick? Can we say because of lack of romanticism between them?

boys and girls!: http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/311144-court-less-relationship/

*warning* <-- good luck is the residue of good planning.

Edited June 6, 2011 by jrmejia

[B_J 2,752]

Now the question is? why other feel so depressed, boredom, and homesick? Can we say because of lack of romanticism between them?

boys and girls!: http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/311144-court-less-relationship/

*warning* <-- good luck is the residue of good planning.

Nice job of reading. I notice you only quote the part you like. You left out this part. Just like everyone else tried to tell you; she will be happy to be here but she will miss her friends and family. Do you understand, child?

maybe will missing my friends and family but having my own home and own family would be the best gift ever from heaven.

[jrmejia 31]

Nice job of reading. I notice you only quote the part you like. You left out this part. Just like everyone else tried to tell you; she will be happy to be here but she will miss her friends and family. Do you understand, child?

Thanks that you mentioned it. Stay tune please!!!

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Edited June 6, 2011 by jrmejia

[B_J 2,752]

Nice job of reading.

Thanks that you mentioned it. Stay tune please!!!

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Sarcasm. Look it up.

[Krikit 1,166]

Please stop the insults or you will no longer be able to participate. Thank you.

[Vi-Jay 218]

I have a BIG problem. I cannot stop thinking about the kid. I am confused. Sometimes I do not know if I am waiting for M'e or her kid.

When I go to the malls, I do not think much about her. I think about the kid. If I see anything cute, I want to get it for him. I already started to buy him things for when he comes. I am attaching a pictures of some of the toys I already bought him. Everything in his upcoming bedroom is new. From Bed, WALL-LCD TV for his game box, desk, PC, TO spider man underwear. I mean everything!

I am also getting him a college fund and things like that. What is wrong or right with me. Why am I loving this kid this much. Is this dangerous?

I am so confused about all this

Have you considered sharing your "BIG" problem with a family counselor or Psychiatrist? (No, I'm not being sarcastic or attempting to bait. I am dead serious.)

[jrmejia 31]

Have you considered sharing your "BIG" problem with a family counselor or Psychiatrist? (No, I'm not being sarcastic or attempting to bait. I am dead serious.)

Since you asked I reply:

No need to see neither one. I do not think my question was improper to ask. Maybe I meant, I am afraid because I am loving too much a kid who is not my biological son? You need to be in the situation in order to understand. I know many step fathers say it is not an issue, but assuming few years from now the kid wants to go back with his biological father, will I be hurt?

[Vi-Jay 218]

No need to see neither one.

That's a double negative.

I do not think my question was improper to ask.

Who said your question was "improper"?

I am afraid because I am loving too much a kid who is not my biological son?

Depends on the circumstances but, if you are "afraid", then I suggest you get some expert guidance. Just an .

You need to be in the situation in order to understand.

You don't know me. Why do you assume I am incapable of understanding "the situation"?

Was that a sneaky way of calling me stupid?

will I be hurt?

That's a rhetorical question right?

Edited June 6, 2011 by Vi-Jay