Mother in law can't stop calling her son

[FortLaudy 10]

Well since you're a "newbie" on here, we have no idea about how immigration issues relate to your problem... is he the USC or are you? if you give us a little bit more history about you two it might help us to help you more...

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

Why don't you and your husband try some marriage counseling. VJ's can't solve these kind of issue. Other's may have their two cents of advice, but truly it seems like there are more issues than his mother calling 2-3 times aweek.

Best of luck.

MARRIAGE COUNSELING

[FortLaudy 10]

Why don't you and your husband try some marriage counseling. VJ's can't solve these kind of issue. Other's may have their two cents of advice, but truly it seems like there are more issues than his mother calling 2-3 times aweek.

Best of luck.

MARRIAGE COUNSELING

LOL... we can't solve these kinds of issues, true, but that's no what she asked for ... this is Off Topic discussion and she asked for our "insights", now I for one have not much better to do right now than to offer my "insights" since I'm waiting for my EAD so please don't chase away my entertainment! sheezzz lol

[Susita 175]

My husband calls his mommy every day after work and talks to her for 10-15 min. When he doesn't remember, I remind him.

I would want to talk to my boys a lot too if they moved away. I them and would miss them like crazy.

I think you should just lighten up a little bit. I know it's probably annoying to get a million missed calls on your phone but it's not such a big deal. Think about how you would feel if your son moved to another country.

[NickD 203]

My wife calls her mother every weekend or vice versa, and especially on holidays. I think it's wonderful. Wish I could call my mom, but she died at a very early age. Why does this upset you? Or this there something else?

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

LOL... we can't solve these kinds of issues, true, but that's no what she asked for ... this is Off Topic discussion and she asked for our "insights", now I for one have not much better to do right now than to offer my "insights" since I'm waiting for my EAD so please don't chase away my entertainment! sheezzz lol

SBI, LOL.... continue on.....

[Nina~ 431]

I know somehow it's my problem that I need to work on, but I think maybe what my husband did also affect me alot, whenever his mother calls, he will run to the room and close the door.......that makes me feel that they are talking something bad behind my back.... I've asked him don't do that.... but he is still doing it.... maybe that's the reason why I am so annoyed.

I can now understand why this bothers you so much. It would bother me too if my husband closed the door while talking to his mom. My piece of advise is to not let this become a big issue and fight about it. No one should ever be put in a situation where they feel like they have make a choice between their parents and their spouse... If you keep fighting with your husband about this, he will end up resenting you.

[FortLaudy 10]

Have you met his mother in person?

[confussedwife 0]

Yes, we've met countless times........and we got along very well..... but I began to feel annoyed when she would call and if I answered the phone, she will call back to her son after we finished the conversaton........

I think she is really lonely..... but what I am afraid is that one day the situation will get worse when she calls to her son and no one answers, she will lose her mind....right now, if the phone is not answered, she will stay up to 2:00-3:00 AM just to talk to her son.

I do think that she needs to find her life back.......not thinking that taking care of her sons is the only important thing in her life.

Thanks everyone........I feel much better now, and I will work on it (my own issue)........

[nowhereman 1]

Yes, we've met countless times........and we got along very well..... but I began to feel annoyed when she would call and if I answered the phone, she will call back to her son after we finished the conversaton........

I think she is really lonely..... but what I am afraid is that one day the situation will get worse when she calls to her son and no one answers, she will lose her mind....right now, if the phone is not answered, she will stay up to 2:00-3:00 AM just to talk to her son.

I do think that she needs to find her life back.......not thinking that taking care of her sons is the only important thing in her life.

Thanks everyone........I feel much better now, and I will work on it (my own issue)........

It's really not a big deal based on what you've said, so IMO don't dwell on it too much. I don't care to talk on the phone much & neither does my mom so I can't identify with your particular issue, but my wife does enjoy talking to her mom & I don't have any problem with it (in fact I encourage it). Good luck!

[PhiLandShiR 18]

Perhaps dear ol' Mom has a 'better woman' in mind for her dear son and these calls are just for 'letting them get to know each other'...

Hense, the closed door...

I can now understand why this bothers you so much. It would bother me too if my husband closed the door while talking to his mom. My piece of advise is to not let this become a big issue and fight about it. No one should ever be put in a situation where they feel like they have make a choice between their parents and their spouse... If you keep fighting with your husband about this, he will end up resenting you.

[Peikko 1,575]

You can't change your mother in law and how anxious she is to talk to her son at all costs, but you can change the atmosphere in your home. If your husband is taking the conversation to another room, it's because he knows it annoys you, not because he wants to ###### about you to his mom. Accept that there are some things you can't change and learn to create a happy atmosphere for your husband.

[Wyatt's Torch 45]

Two calls a week is nothing, really.

My grandmother (father's mother) was paranoid schizophrenic, and there were times where she'd call four times in a day...or every night for a week...or any variation of obsessive calling. My mother put up with it, as did my sister and I.

Obviously your MIL doesn't have the same psychological condition, but some parents just can't let their kids go as well as others. Remember that your SO has CHOSEN you, but he hasn't chosen his mother, which instills a feeling of obligation to her.

I agree with the general consensus that you should just accept it for what it is, and be grateful it's not more...

[Marilyn. 340]

I am lucky if my mom calls me once a month....

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i would try and not let it bother you.. you can't let it eat a way at you...

[msu17 0]

I think that 2X a week is totally normal. My husband isn't close to his mom and all and we still talk to her once a week for an hour. Maybe set aside a specific time to talk and ring her to tell her if you will have to miss that time. That way you will be home when she calls and it will break the multiple calls.