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[MouadsWife 161]

I think is an insanely high price to pay to try and be with somebody you love, who you have been struggling to see for 5+ years. It is no wonder there are so many illegal immigrants here.

I despise the system and do, in fact, think it is ridiculous to ask an average American to not only pay $1464, but to also support their spouse for up to three months.

Again, I am being punished for falling in love with somebody who is not American.

We'll survive those months of wait for our AOS and EAD, and I'll make sure to save as much money as I possibly can before he gets here, but I'm pretty sure we will be eating a lot of brown rice and beans...

I for once agree with Gary.. lol Wow I never thought I'd say that! "Im sorry I couldnt resist!" Sorry.. dont mean any harm, just trying to be funny. Anyhooo getting to the subject... I agree with Gary. When I met Mouad I did not expect to fall in love. I did not know anything about Visa's or visa fees. I had alot to learn so did alot of research. I found out all I could about this, and which route is the best way to go. K1 or K3. Bottom line, fees didnt matter,.. nothing mattered to me as long as I was able to spend my life with him. I know he will not be able to work for a while once he gets here. I know I will have to support him. But is that a problem? No. Not to me. Who supports who is not an issue and should never be an issue. We do what we do for the person that we are with because we love them. Im not going to concern myself with paying for a big elaborat wedding because it doesnt matter. Just being ablt to lay my head on his shoulder at night is worth more than his being able to work, worth more than the big wedding. Heres the bigger picture... and I tell it to him all the time.... When your life is done and over, and your taking your last breath, what memories will you remember? I gaurantee that you will not remember anything financial, you wont remember that big house you saved for for 20 years, all the credit cards you maxed out to have material things, you wont remember that your car is nicer than the neighbors, and you wont remember that elaborate wedding you spent thousands on. What I will remember of Mouad is his eyes, what a deep brown they are. The way he looked at me and smiled. The times we lay together watching movies, and how he made the best eggs in the world. Its all in the little things. Dont worry about how long it will take for him to work to save for your wedding, the fees. Its all just little stuff that doesnt matter in life. I dont care how much it costs to bring him here, dont care about the visa fees, or if we ate beans and rice for the rest of our lives. That may sound naive, and maybe ignorant. But Im 41 years old, and after living the life I have lived, and learning the lessons I have learned, you learn what is most important. And its memories and moments. Im saying this with all the love I can, and I hope you get atleast a little something out of it. I dont mean any judgements. (((Hugs)))

Glad you agree with me but did you have to be so mushy?

lol... I was moved lol

[TBoneTX 48,527]

(Everyone had better be sitting down) On the issues in this thread (THIS thread! THIS thread!) I agree with Gary, too (gasp, shudder).

What I would like to know is how many completely clueless Americanos fall in love with and marry a foreigner overseas, buy airline tickets for the new spouse to return with them, and innocently expect to enter the U.S. to begin their married life. What an absolute shock it must be to be turned away... hopefully at the departure airport and not at U.S. POE.

[Gary and Alla 3,696]

(Everyone had better be sitting down) On the issues in this thread (THIS thread! THIS thread!) I agree with Gary, too (gasp, shudder).

What I would like to know is how many completely clueless Americanos fall in love with and marry a foreigner overseas, buy airline tickets for the new spouse to return with them, and innocently expect to enter the U.S. to begin their married life. What an absolute shock it must be to be turned away... hopefully at the departure airport and not at U.S. POE.

Really! I have no idea how many people think anyone from anywhere can just come and visit (or get married) y'know, go to Disney World or something. Even in my own family (Grrrrrrr) my mother thought the reason we had to "go through so much" was because Ukraine would not let her leave, because, y'know, it is the Soviet Union, well used to be!

Um...what's worse is the completely clueless Americans that correspond with foreign, hmmm, well, foreign people and after 3 emails the foreign person asks for $1100 for a plane ticket to come the the USA and...well. You know where this goes.

Russian and Ukrainian women used to get a bad rap for doing this, but I used the word foreign person as it has been found that it is usually men posing as women. Cut and paste a few photos of a hot Russian babe onto a profile and you are in the fishing business. In fact it was so common that when we finally got down to this and I was reading all this good stuff on VJ I thought surely that Kiev would be considered a high fraud consulate and it is not. Of course, I guess those kinds of frauds never go through USCIS or the consulate. Always seemed strange to me as I lived in Ukraine and most women there would cut of their arms before taking money from a stranger, but hey, there is a lot of people there and I suppose some are not completely honest. D'ya think?