Returning to home country before marriage

[Kwagga 0]

Just a quick question to give me peace of mind.

I went to the US on a K1 visa to marry my fiance. Well to cut a really long story short, things went a bit pear shaped and he got cold feet and panic attacks about getting married as it got closer to the time.

I have now returned to my home country...can someone confirm if I have to notify USCIS or can I just let it be.

Advise would be appreciated

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

Just a quick question to give me peace of mind.

I went to the US on a K1 visa to marry my fiance. Well to cut a really long story short, things went a bit pear shaped and he got cold feet and panic attacks about getting married as it got closer to the time.

I have now returned to my home country...can someone confirm if I have to notify USCIS or can I just let it be.

Advise would be appreciated

You do not have to notify anyone. I presume you turned in your I-94 at exit? Job done.

[Kwagga 0]

Just a quick question to give me peace of mind.

I went to the US on a K1 visa to marry my fiance. Well to cut a really long story short, things went a bit pear shaped and he got cold feet and panic attacks about getting married as it got closer to the time.

I have now returned to my home country...can someone confirm if I have to notify USCIS or can I just let it be.

Advise would be appreciated

You do not have to notify anyone. I presume you turned in your I-94 at exit? Job done.

Thanks Gary, I thought as much, just wanted to make double sure.

Yip, I-94 turned in on departure.

Thanks to everyone for advise along my 9 month journey to getting my K1, you were all super fantastic, just heartbreaking that it had to turn out this way, but I guess everything happens for a reason.

Much love and happiness to you all!

[Carlawarla 1]

Just a quick question to give me peace of mind.

I went to the US on a K1 visa to marry my fiance. Well to cut a really long story short, things went a bit pear shaped and he got cold feet and panic attacks about getting married as it got closer to the time.

I have now returned to my home country...can someone confirm if I have to notify USCIS or can I just let it be.

Advise would be appreciated

You do not have to notify anyone. I presume you turned in your I-94 at exit? Job done.

Thanks Gary, I thought as much, just wanted to make double sure.

Yip, I-94 turned in on departure.

Thanks to everyone for advise along my 9 month journey to getting my K1, you were all super fantastic, just heartbreaking that it had to turn out this way, but I guess everything happens for a reason.

Much love and happiness to you all!

I'm so sorry things turned out as they did for you.

[Kurt y Dora 1]

It is a pity that all of us here (on both sides of the various borders) have to endure such long timelines to be able to get the chance to be together on a daily basis. I think that for many of us, especially those of us who have been through marrriage and divorce and DEFINITELY those men (and a few women) who lost their a$$es in divorce settlements, the 90 day period between arrival and the "deadline" is really the final test. Sure, we are all committed to getting engaged and married, but the 90 days is a final test. Having been involved in many long distance relationships, you can never be certain how your relationship is going to be on a day in, day out basis. If you and your fiance had actually spent much time in a "normal" dating situation, you might have found out you were not right for each other much sooner and certainly wouldn't have had to endure the USCIS torture test. Be glad that your fiance' had the fortitude to be able to make the tough decision to stop what he felt was not the right thing for him. In the long run it will be less painful for you. But do not lose hope that the right person is out there for you.

Good luck healing and then finding the right one for you.

[Mrs. Disney 0]

I'm sorry things didn't work out for you. Looking on the bright side, at least you won't have to go through the almost always painful divorce process. I wish the best of luck for you!

[Kwagga 0]

It is a pity that all of us here (on both sides of the various borders) have to endure such long timelines to be able to get the chance to be together on a daily basis. I think that for many of us, especially those of us who have been through marrriage and divorce and DEFINITELY those men (and a few women) who lost their a$$es in divorce settlements, the 90 day period between arrival and the "deadline" is really the final test. Sure, we are all committed to getting engaged and married, but the 90 days is a final test. Having been involved in many long distance relationships, you can never be certain how your relationship is going to be on a day in, day out basis. If you and your fiance had actually spent much time in a "normal" dating situation, you might have found out you were not right for each other much sooner and certainly wouldn't have had to endure the USCIS torture test. Be glad that your fiance' had the fortitude to be able to make the tough decision to stop what he felt was not the right thing for him. In the long run it will be less painful for you. But do not lose hope that the right person is out there for you.

Good luck healing and then finding the right one for you.

Just a correction to your statement above: I was the one that made the "tough decision" to return home, to make things easier for him. We are both still very much in love with each other and want to be together, bearing in mind we've known each other for over 10 years and have spent "normal" dating time together, but due to medical reasons, like panic and anxiety attacks when he realized the 90 days were counting down, it made life very difficult for both of us, so it was either me coming home or the risk of being deported.

[D&R 0]

It is a pity that all of us here (on both sides of the various borders) have to endure such long timelines to be able to get the chance to be together on a daily basis. I think that for many of us, especially those of us who have been through marrriage and divorce and DEFINITELY those men (and a few women) who lost their a$$es in divorce settlements, the 90 day period between arrival and the "deadline" is really the final test. Sure, we are all committed to getting engaged and married, but the 90 days is a final test. Having been involved in many long distance relationships, you can never be certain how your relationship is going to be on a day in, day out basis. If you and your fiance had actually spent much time in a "normal" dating situation, you might have found out you were not right for each other much sooner and certainly wouldn't have had to endure the USCIS torture test. Be glad that your fiance' had the fortitude to be able to make the tough decision to stop what he felt was not the right thing for him. In the long run it will be less painful for you. But do not lose hope that the right person is out there for you.

Good luck healing and then finding the right one for you.

Just a correction to your statement above: I was the one that made the "tough decision" to return home, to make things easier for him. We are both still very much in love with each other and want to be together, bearing in mind we've known each other for over 10 years and have spent "normal" dating time together, but due to medical reasons, like panic and anxiety attacks when he realized the 90 days were counting down, it made life very difficult for both of us, so it was either me coming home or the risk of being deported.

Wow! 10 years and still getting cold feet about it. Is that how long you've been dating for or just 'known' each other? Out of pure interest (and blatantly just being nosey) what happens now? I mean, if you're still together I'm imagining there's going to be a time when he says he's ready again. Do you risk going through the whole process again and spending the money etc only to have the same thing happen?

[betsay 0]

It is a pity that all of us here (on both sides of the various borders) have to endure such long timelines to be able to get the chance to be together on a daily basis. I think that for many of us, especially those of us who have been through marrriage and divorce and DEFINITELY those men (and a few women) who lost their a$$es in divorce settlements, the 90 day period between arrival and the "deadline" is really the final test. Sure, we are all committed to getting engaged and married, but the 90 days is a final test. Having been involved in many long distance relationships, you can never be certain how your relationship is going to be on a day in, day out basis. If you and your fiance had actually spent much time in a "normal" dating situation, you might have found out you were not right for each other much sooner and certainly wouldn't have had to endure the USCIS torture test. Be glad that your fiance' had the fortitude to be able to make the tough decision to stop what he felt was not the right thing for him. In the long run it will be less painful for you. But do not lose hope that the right person is out there for you.

Good luck healing and then finding the right one for you.

Just a correction to your statement above: I was the one that made the "tough decision" to return home, to make things easier for him. We are both still very much in love with each other and want to be together, bearing in mind we've known each other for over 10 years and have spent "normal" dating time together, but due to medical reasons, like panic and anxiety attacks when he realized the 90 days were counting down, it made life very difficult for both of us, so it was either me coming home or the risk of being deported.

sorry, but it doesn;t make sense to me at all

[Peace be still 6]

I have alot of respect for you doing things the right way.