I am so SAD!!!

[~happyndinlove~ 540]

thanks for reading! i am so HAPPY now coz my husband and i are back and loving each other again.

im happy for you... ...just ignore those ones who doesn't know any better but criticize others.

good luck and may god bless you and your family!

[Gumbolette 58]

I know all of us here has our own past. Past that we shouldn't need to keep holding on. But as I read your story sister, I focused on the word you said, "Small thing". If its just a small thing, you can still patch things up while its not yet that huge. Arguing over something which is part of your husband's past is quite immature. Because you should have known him by now and have accepted him since you marry him. If he happen to not tell you that the bag you are using is his ex's, so how bout throw it away since that was your agreement right?

Do not let small things play a role leading you and your husband into a more crooked way.

Hope things get better soon.

[jom 4]

A late advice:

Grow up , let go of childish and immature behaviour, be secure where you are in your man's life to avoid the same argument in the future

[lonelywife 0]

wow! im getting beat up! i dont blame you if you are all focus on the "small and past things" that being said. yes, it was the caused of the fight but not bcoz we had an "agreement" that was not being followed or not bcoz i hate those "things from the past". im not narrow minded and im matured enough to understand and accept such things without no hesitation whatsoever. small stuffs like that are nothing! it was a miscommunication that brought us to a big fight. what are you gonna feel/do if you are just expressing yourself in a nice way and calmly to your partner and yet all of a sudden he become defensive and angry? in a way that you would feel he is hiding something?

anyway, i dont have to explain everything. i heard different comments and reactions from you guys that 99% of those are bad and judgemental. but its alright. no big deal at all. i still appreciate though all your times and efforts of reading and responding.

now, we are back loving and very much happy again, we fixed and resolved the problem, fast and easy. coz i/we dont hold on to the past but holding on to the present and just looking for a brighter and lovelier future together. as what MATURED and GROWN UP woman/man do.

God Bless you all.

Edited August 27, 2009 by lonelywife

[arch and cel 0]

i came with a little hope that some of the people here can give me some comfort and relax my mind but i was wrong! i've got criticized and condemned instead by people that i dont know and vice versa. but i dont blame you all. you all have the right in this world to voice out your opinion towards me. i just wished you look and ask yourself for a second..."what if i was in her shoes?" before you judge one especially when you dont know whats the story behind. nonetheless, i dont have any regrets in posting in here even though i got threwn insults and hurtful words from a judgemental people.

for those who gave their advices, thank you very much. and for all who judged me, thank you as well. i didn't expect that you guys will understand me but i also did not expect for any accusation from any one of you! next time, look at yourselves first before you judge others. just my opinion too!

thanks for reading! i am so HAPPY now coz my husband and i are back and loving each other again.

God Bless you ALL!

Thanks God your back in each other arms again!

arch & cel

[Chantel 0]

you need to be mature more in your situation, the past is past its part of him, you need to accept it, even he has different gal than you same thing will happen his past will be his past if you know what I mean, in my situation my hubby's ex had some little things here yet like table, dishes her ring even and sort of like that but I don't care, what matter is your present and he did marry you and if you're happy with him it doesn't affect you at all....you need to focus more on your relationship now how you can make it stronger and not little things that would make you part ways

[Ban Hammer 14,188]

some of you need to be nicer..........i see a few items in this thread that could get mod attention.

[Don José 2]

some of you need to be nicer..........i see a few items in this thread that could get mod attention.

You write in the same lousy manner, Charles. No capital letters. I guess she could be you!

[Don José 2]

scotty, sasha and luckymom, thank you very much for your kind words...i am so sad right now! i love my husband so much and i could not believe we are in this horrible situation now...we fought over a small thing, thing that i never know from his past...know what i mean? guys, i hope i could hear some advice from you. whether im right or wrong, i hate every thing that came from my hubby's past...and he knows/understand that...ex: dishes, i dont care whether they're expensive, i want to get rid of them. anyway, we threw everything and others gave to cthe charity, but there are some things that left in our house, like bag...and bcoz of this we had a big fight....bcoz we agreed that anything from the past have to be thrown away and yet i found out that the bag that we are using is from him and the ex.?

guys, what advise could you give me?

thanks!

Put everything in the house and burn it down..

Atta boy, Haole!

[-B&T- 1]

Next time calm down and Hold your horses.Past is past, what matters most is the present.I would say that you're already off to a bad start.

[Ban Hammer 14,188]

some of you need to be nicer..........i see a few items in this thread that could get mod attention.

You write in the same lousy manner, Charles. No capital letters. I guess she could be you!

[Jasman0717 9]

Some times it is very difficult to learn and understand the cultures involved. Claudeth and I have been married for over 4 years now and we are still stuggling with the differences. The important thing is to maintain a cool head and try to discuss the misunderstandings and find a way to compromise. Good luck

[eros_EX_Plumber 0]

wow! im getting beat up! i dont blame you if you are all focus on the "small and past things" that being said. yes, it was the caused of the fight but not bcoz we had an "agreement" that was not being followed or not bcoz i hate those "things from the past". im not narrow minded and im matured enough to understand and accept such things without no hesitation whatsoever. small stuffs like that are nothing! it was a miscommunication that brought us to a big fight. what are you gonna feel/do if you are just expressing yourself in a nice way and calmly to your partner and yet all of a sudden he become defensive and angry? in a way that you would feel he is hiding something?

anyway, i dont have to explain everything. i heard different comments and reactions from you guys that 99% of those are bad and judgemental. but its alright. no big deal at all. i still appreciate though all your times and efforts of reading and responding.

now, we are back loving and very much happy again, we fixed and resolved the problem, fast and easy. coz i/we dont hold on to the past but holding on to the present and just looking for a brighter and lovelier future together. as what MATURED and GROWN UP woman/man do.

God Bless you all.

We are all happy to hear that everything worked out....

But as you can see you spent more time explaining yourself later then the short posting you posted initially....

"I respectfully suggest" that you may want to cool down, especially after a fight... before posting anything on line for 2 simple reason....

1. You may be able work out the issues before anybody may will be able to give a good suggestion....or pity

2. You do not run into possibility of being mis-understood, your writing being taken out of context...and thus feeding the rumor mills

Best Wishes...Truly

[happywifeymom 4]

im just new here...we are close to get our visa in a weeks now...but my husband and i had a big fight over a small thing but seems that wer are heading in a separate ways....I AM SO SAD

I am sorry you are in that situation now. I know the visa thing is very stressful but i do believe that if yuo love your husband you will accept him for who he is and who he was even his past.

That" bag "thing is not a big deal..just accept it and move on. The house that we bought after we got married was their old house( hubby and his ex) and there was never an issue about it).

Prayers can move mountains and the only way to answer your problems. Good luck.