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I agree with alot of people. I too have to admit that my process has moved alot faster than I expected but I do know that this entire process can bring on great amounts of stress. I too think I hit a point here where I just couldn't get motivated and so on and so forth. I agree that there is no shame in seeking out help professionally if that is what you feel you may need. I at some points thought about it and sometimes still do, just counseling or something. Hang in there, I know it's so redundent to hear that but we are all here for you but be sure to surround yourself with a support system at home and I hope that you will be ok.

CanGal

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Although I have not made many posts, I have been an avid lurker for a while. Every day I see many getting approved for their visas that do not have a long waiting period. Seems like I never see any old tymers getting their approvals. My question goes out to the old tymers who have been waiting for months and months for name checks, clearances, whatnot. How do you or did you handle the long time away from each other during this process? What makes you feel better? How do you get your chest to stop hurting on a daily basis? I've even had to resort to medications recently due to my body basically just freaking out on me. I break out in hives, have migranes, vomit, you name it ever since we have been in AR.

I'm really trying to learn how this system works. Still not quite understand why some visas are issued quickly and others take a year or so.

I just want to see my fiance. It's been a year now and I just want to die.

when i am sad I CRY. thats how I handle it. in this 10 1/2 months on AP/AR. I use my energys into my work and into my studies. when I have a melt down - I cry. I have developed alot of friends on here that keep me in line and the same friends also are my rock because, the listion to me whine and moan. I dont let myself get to the point where I have attacks. thats the best way to get an ulcer. I am too cute for some ulcer. :D when I hear good news I get HAPPY about it. The logic behind it is the longer the wait- the sweeter the reward. so I get happy..:) when I fall sight of that. I read a sad story and think well its not so bad after all.

as far as my marriage. I call my husband everyday dayum it. :D his voice makes it all better for me.

so I call like 2 sometimes 3 times a day. * dont ask about my phone bill you will have an attack for real" :lol:

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I have to say that this process is harder on some of us when we have such long waits. I missed my husband and it was nerve wracking with the events happening in his country (earthquakes, unrest), poor phone and electrical services at times. But we talked daily from the net one hour cam to cam, I called him daily and he called me early am each day to wake me up and wish me a good day!

Keeping the communication going and strong, sending ecards just for the heck of it helps too. We always never complained to each other over the processing and always kept the other one upbeat. If you get depressed and then share it with your SO that is so far away then it can have a negative effect on both of you. Since my husband has been home this past 6 weeks he told me he was not as brave as me. LOL if he only knew. He said I kept him going. I know I personally talked to my good friend and sounded off to her and put my energies on trying to help others or be a cheerleader here on VJ.

Get some medical help like brother Dean mentioned if you are this low now. Find something positive and try and focus on it and for me prayer helped me to get by. I had to pray daily for patience and understanding and I still do to this date. I also always pray for everyone on this site that is going thru this processing and ask them to be blessed with understanding or having them reunited with their loved ones as soon as possible.

Take care of yourself and realize that you are not alone. (F)

Mary

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Everything I respond to is from personal knowledge, research or experience and I am in no means a lawyer or do I claim to be one. Everyone should read, research and be responsible for your own journey.

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Here's how I got through the 4 year long distance relationship:

For some odd, obscure reason, my husband and I promised that we would have 80 years together. Whenever we got lonely, we'd calculate how much time was left on our clock. Ohh, we still have 78 years to spend together inshaAllah. Hmm, another 77 to go. When we looked at it that way, a few months on AR didn't seem that long :luv:

Heck, we still do this now, even though we're together :blush: It also works when you're mad at each other. Ahhh, you can't get rid of me yet, we still have 76 more years together! :bonk: You're stuck with me, mwahahahaha!

10/14/05 - married AbuS in the US lovehusband.gif

02/23/08 - Filed for removal of conditions.

Sometime in 2008 - Received 10 year GC. Almost done with USCIS for life inshaAllah! Huzzah!

12/07/08 - Adopted the fuzzy feline love of my life, my Squeaky baby th_catcrazy.gif

02/23/09 - Apply for citizenship

06/15/09 - Citizenship interview

07/15/09 - Citizenship ceremony. Alhamdulilah, the US now has another american muslim!

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online rihla - on the path of the Beloved with a fat cat as a copilot

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