Relationship proof

[Twisted K 2]

Hey guys, my husband wants to know if he can send me money. He doesn't want it to look bad to the embassy since we were previously denied the K1 visa. How did you all show a combining of financial resources, or is it really necessary? We are the beneficiary's on each other's accounts, but we are wondering how it is with sending actual money. i told him not to send me any money, but knowing him, and the kind of man he is, he will send anyways, he just doesn't want me to send the receipt as evidence if it is going to look bad. what is your advice on the subject?

i can't add him as a joint bank account, nor do i have any credit cards. what else could we use?

[Bern. 3]

Use Paypal. If need be. But I wouldn't worry about it because you're applying for a K-1. All you need for K-1 is, proof that you're met within the last 2 years and proof of an on going relationship. Tickets from your trips, pictures, phone records, IM records, e-mails, any of that should be fine. I wouldn't include anything with finances.

[Twisted K 2]

Thanks. This time, I am applying for the CR-1. Our K1 was denied in November. We just recently got married on May 12. Sorry, I haven't updated my timeline. Was waiting until we re-apply.

[lgg 2]

HI there...

would you mind telling us why you were denied your K-1? This is the sort of information that's invaluable in helping us all out!

Thanks so much...

best of luck with your Cr-1...

LGG

Thanks. This time, I am applying for the CR-1. Our K1 was denied in November. We just recently got married on May 12. Sorry, I haven't updated my timeline. Was waiting until we re-apply.

[Bern. 3]

I believe they got a 221g form or something because of an engagement ceremony never happened.

But since you are married, and he's never lived in the US, they don't expect you to have a house together, or have the same bank account. Be sure to send your marriage certificate and tons of pictures from the wedding as well as meetings before the wedding if you can. All my husband and I sent was pictures, pictures, pictures, and some e-mails spawning over 3 years as proof of on-going relationship.

So far, no problems x_x

[trinket 30]

Sending money in some cases can look "bad". as if beneficiary is trying to buy you out for the green card. That said, it also depends upon how much money is he sending, purpose (say you get sick or some kind of emergency) and how frequently.

My husband was sending me money while I was in India but it was like $100 a month or sometimes $500 or so to buy a gift and we did foolishly sent those western union receipts while filing initial i-130, it never caused any problem but during the interview, CO did ask me if my husband sent me money or not and I was truthful about it. And I guess it was a plus thing for us since we were married for 4 years at the time of interview.

Your husband can send you money, its all upon you to show it as a proof or not. I would say, don't show them as proof for now, but do let him take the receipts or bank wiring papers during the interview and keep it as a last option of proof.

In the mean time, write postal letters, send greeting cards to each other to build evidence. You can add him in your life insurance if possible and he can do the same.

I really hope it works out for you guys this time around

[queuedup 1]

Agree with Trinket. Try and avoid using sending money as proof because it can be viewed negatively.

The stronger pieces of evidence are Photos (Engagement, Wedding, Honeymoon, and with Friends and Family), Phone Logs, Chat transcripts, cards and letters that been mailed, receipts of gifts sent to one another, evidence of visits to one another, and affadavits from friends and family who were at the wedding ceremony and can attest to the relationship.

During my wife's interview the IO asked to see Wedding Pictures and went through 350 of them, and that was all the proof we needed.

Good Luck!!

[Moosker 7]

If he mails you a cheque/money order/pay pal, etc., there is really no way for USCIS to know that he "paid you", so I wouldn't worry about that! It is understandable that now that you're married you share money right? So don't worry about it. Just be careful sending cash in the mail, money order would be safest, and like Ber & Ter said do paypal if you're computer savvy, it's super easy!

[Twisted K 2]

Thanks everyone for your help. It wasn't going to be much money, as far as I know. He was just worried about me paying for the application fees, etc. Yes, our K1 was denied for the lack of engagement ceremony info. Feel free to read any of those topics. We just wanted to move on with our lives, which is why we opted for the wedding instead. Our petition was expired in December anyways. We made sure, this time around to document everything, we went into the K1 pretty blindly. Hired an attorney, who ended up just being a paper pusher. Have over 1500 pictures between Feb and May's trips. Not printing them all, of course, just wanted to make sure we have plenty of back up

I appreciate everyone's input, and will be sending more questions in the future, i am sure. Can't wait to get the ball rolling again

[Arun+Catie 1]

With out I-130 packet, we sent in only the wedding photos and photos of me meeting his family, in addition to emails, chats and phone records before we were married, and for a month after our marriage...plus the wedding certificate and court registration, and all the other legal docs the USCIS requires. Oh, and my mom and aunt gave two affidavits concerning our "bona fide" marriage, too.

By the way - the pics we had covered ONLY one week...the week we got married....because he and I first met in person two days before we got married

Don't worry about joint accounts and stuff like that...photos and communication records will suffice.

Catie

Edited June 1, 2009 by Arun+Catie