My friends wants the divorce but....

[imailin 0]

Yes, she can divorce, the only thing is when she asks for citizenship it could come up why she divorced so soon after the green card, in which case she would have to bring wiht her to the interview things that support that her marriage was bona fide or why she divorced. But this is the only thing that could remotely turn into an issue, otherwise she is free to go at any time.... I would probably wait at least three - six months before making the divorce final though, if she can stand that much....

Looks like a marriage for getting the green card. Oh well. Pretty soon they will start giving out 5 yr GC. Looks like most of the posts on this forum are from people who immediately fell out of love or had bad spouses after their 2 yr GC arrives.

Well, I do not share your opinion... of course not only because she is a close friend of mine but also because I have seen her suffering for the last 9 to 10 months or so.... I certainly hope nobody has to go through was she is going through... Hopefully you never have to deal with a spouse that all he/she does is drugs, alcohol and watch TV. That collects unemployment for over 5 months already and has no intentions of looking for one. That the only person that brings bread to your table is you.... I certainly do not wish this for anyone… to have to deal with an alcoholic everyday who has had already 5 to 6 court citations in the last year regarding alcohol and drug issues and his wife had to take him out of jail once already.... I just hope you never had to go through this and if you do let me know cause I would say just the same you posted in this forum: “you just married this person for the green card" let just see how that fells! Let’s do not judge people here... let just get advice.

I am not being judgemental. You urself said in your post that she is sticking it out for the GC. Out of curiousity your friend did not know the person prior to marriage?

Why are all these people making life for the rest of us difficult. Meaning the people who take their time to get married to the right person. As opposed to the people who just jump into marriage. This forum is filled with people who are constantly writing about one thing. They had all the the love but as soon as they came here, they find the spouse is a drunkard or whatever. This forum is also filled with people (check K1) section who are so in love and they have only met each other once.

You can call me whatever. The fact remains that there is a growing number of marriages that are breaking up prior to the removal conditions. With the anti immigration environment prevailing the country, very soon people will start complaining and USCIS will tighten their rules.

I was not going to answer you, but I can’t deal with it!!! So here it is: First of all you got it all wrong.... (Read and answer later) MY FRIEND WAS ALREADY APPROVED!!!!!!! She is not waiting for the conditions to be removed!!!! Quoting you: "The fact remains that there is a growing number of marriages that are breaking up prior to the removal conditions" .... SO..... Second.... Good luck and God bless your poor wife.... You must be "perfect" you do not have errors or commit the wrong decisions... as well you live in wonderland where everything is perfect... remember and don’t let it catch you by surprise : people change!!!! You never get to know a person... even you spouse!!!! Hope you never get surprised!!!

[Barbarella UK 0]

Yes, she can divorce, the only thing is when she asks for citizenship it could come up why she divorced so soon after the green card, in which case she would have to bring wiht her to the interview things that support that her marriage was bona fide or why she divorced. But this is the only thing that could remotely turn into an issue, otherwise she is free to go at any time.... I would probably wait at least three - six months before making the divorce final though, if she can stand that much....

Looks like a marriage for getting the green card. Oh well. Pretty soon they will start giving out 5 yr GC. Looks like most of the posts on this forum are from people who immediately fell out of love or had bad spouses after their 2 yr GC arrives.

Hmmmmmmmmm. Jumping to conclusions I think.

She already has her 10 year GC - didn't you read the post properly?

Sheraz, I hope none of your extensive list of immigrating relatives ever have any relationship problems.

Edited July 17, 2008 by Barbarella UK

[*Robert* 2]

I was not going to answer you, but I can't deal with it!!! So here it is: First of all you got it all wrong.... (Read and answer later) MY FRIEND WAS ALREADY APPROVED!!!!!!! She is not waiting for the conditions to be removed!!!! Quoting you: "The fact remains that there is a growing number of marriages that are breaking up prior to the removal conditions" .... SO..... Second.... Good luck and God bless your poor wife.... You must be "perfect" you do not have errors or commit the wrong decisions... as well you live in wonderland where everything is perfect... remember and don't let it catch you by surprise : people change!!!! You never get to know a person... even you spouse!!!! Hope you never get surprised!!!

Hmmmmmmmmm. Jumping to conclusions I think.

She already has her 10 year GC - didn't you read the post properly?

Sheraz, I hope none of your extensive list of immigrating relatives ever have any relationship problems.

There's always someone who thinks they're the next Dr. Phil, a wannabe USCIS officer, or even worse... better than everyone else.

Gotta love people who jump to conclusions...

[playnice 0]

Yes, she can divorce, the only thing is when she asks for citizenship it could come up why she divorced so soon after the green card, in which case she would have to bring wiht her to the interview things that support that her marriage was bona fide or why she divorced. But this is the only thing that could remotely turn into an issue, otherwise she is free to go at any time.... I would probably wait at least three - six months before making the divorce final though, if she can stand that much....

Looks like a marriage for getting the green card. Oh well. Pretty soon they will start giving out 5 yr GC. Looks like most of the posts on this forum are from people who immediately fell out of love or had bad spouses after their 2 yr GC arrives.

Well, I do not share your opinion... of course not only because she is a close friend of mine but also because I have seen her suffering for the last 9 to 10 months or so.... I certainly hope nobody has to go through was she is going through... Hopefully you never have to deal with a spouse that all he/she does is drugs, alcohol and watch TV. That collects unemployment for over 5 months already and has no intentions of looking for one. That the only person that brings bread to your table is you.... I certainly do not wish this for anyone… to have to deal with an alcoholic everyday who has had already 5 to 6 court citations in the last year regarding alcohol and drug issues and his wife had to take him out of jail once already.... I just hope you never had to go through this and if you do let me know cause I would say just the same you posted in this forum: “you just married this person for the green card" let just see how that fells! Let’s do not judge people here... let just get advice.

I am not being judgemental. You urself said in your post that she is sticking it out for the GC. Out of curiousity your friend did not know the person prior to marriage?

Why are all these people making life for the rest of us difficult. Meaning the people who take their time to get married to the right person. As opposed to the people who just jump into marriage. This forum is filled with people who are constantly writing about one thing. They had all the the love but as soon as they came here, they find the spouse is a drunkard or whatever. This forum is also filled with people (check K1) section who are so in love and they have only met each other once.

You can call me whatever. The fact remains that there is a growing number of marriages that are breaking up prior to the removal conditions. With the anti immigration environment prevailing the country, very soon people will start complaining and USCIS will tighten their rules.

[playnice 0]

its certainly beginning to look like many are in it for the gc....if it was going on that long ...you would think her health and happiness would have

mattered ....sorry but looks suspiciously like a green card marriage....and i am sure immigration will sort it out one way or another...

and this guy must have been drinking and doing drugs and had no job when she married him.....was this not a red flag..especially the part with

no job for 5 years.....

[imailin 0]

its certainly beginning to look like many are in it for the gc....if it was going on that long ...you would think her health and happiness would have

mattered ....sorry but looks suspiciously like a green card marriage....and i am sure immigration will sort it out one way or another...

and this guy must have been drinking and doing drugs and had no job when she married him.....was this not a red flag..especially the part with

no job for 5 years.....

sorry but you are NOT correct... her husband was a loving husband until last year... don’t you know that people change????? OMG! I hate when you ask a question and people just assumed and talk what they like!!! If you are not going to answer what is asked just do not answer at all!!!!!! He got fired last year and he became lazy and lazier every day and he started to hung out with bad influence friends.... Hope this never happens to you

[playnice 0]

its certainly beginning to look like many are in it for the gc....if it was going on that long ...you would think her health and happiness would have

mattered ....sorry but looks suspiciously like a green card marriage....and i am sure immigration will sort it out one way or another...

and this guy must have been drinking and doing drugs and had no job when she married him.....was this not a red flag..especially the part with

no job for 5 years.....

sorry but you are NOT correct... her husband was a loving husband until last year... don’t you know that people change????? OMG! I hate when you ask a question and people just assumed and talk what they like!!! If you are not going to answer what is asked just do not answer at all!!!!!! He got fired last year and he became lazy and lazier every day and he started to hung out with bad influence friends.... Hope this never happens to you

[playnice 0]

sorry typo there....5 years.....was actually 5 months.....not judging your friend....but do agree with the previous post about "suddenly the usc spouse

turned monster" this whole k1 process is emotionally draining....just hard to believe that there are so many "bad" usc petitioners actually this

abusive to wade thru this process and legally stick their neck out to bring their "loved ones" here to treat them so badly......

[sjoefl01 1]

This doesn't sound like an immigration issue. It sounds like a moral issue to me.

1. I was looking at your recent posts. What a curious group of unhappy immigrant friends you have. Is it just a coincidence that you have run across such a group of people in such dire straights? Your questions seem always be about protecting benifits after divorce.

2. Your friends husband would not qualify for unemployment compensation if he was fired for cause.

3. If you are really a friend you should suggest to your friend that she get her advice from Alanon. They are more qualified to help with problems involving alcoholism and drug dependency. There is a lot of help available for this guy if he truly has a problem and he desires a better way of life. If she really loved or (loves) this guy she should try to help him instead of just leaving him with his problem.

4. It sounds to me like it is likely that his job loss, legal problems, and marriage problems are all a consequence of his drug/ alcohol problem. If she can help him fix that then she has a good marriage again. You should steer them to Alanon and Alcoholics Anonomous. Your advice, however well intentioned, may be exacerbating their marital problems. I doubt that you are qualified to help with decisions that involve such serious consequences. I don't think you want this on your conscience.

[soulprovider915 4]

Yes, she can divorce, the only thing is when she asks for citizenship it could come up why she divorced so soon after the green card, in which case she would have to bring wiht her to the interview things that support that her marriage was bona fide or why she divorced. But this is the only thing that could remotely turn into an issue, otherwise she is free to go at any time.... I would probably wait at least three - six months before making the divorce final though, if she can stand that much....

Looks like a marriage for getting the green card. Oh well. Pretty soon they will start giving out 5 yr GC. Looks like most of the posts on this forum are from people who immediately fell out of love or had bad spouses after their 2 yr GC arrives.

What a stupid comment. Who are you to judge somebody in that way. Learn some manners!

[NickD 202]

When my wife was having her citizen interview last Thursday, her officer said she needed more proof that she was still married to me. Wife responded, my husband is in the waiting room, you can meet him personally. She said no, just wants a stupid piece of paper with a 2008 date and both our names on it. So my wife finds a bank deposit with a 2008 date on it with both our names on it that satisfies the officer.

So if you are concerned about immigration, just find a stupid piece of paper with a near current date and both of their names on it.

In regards to marriage abuse, even neglect or ignoring a spouse is considered abuse let alone pounding the ####### out of your spouse. Social workers love that kind of stuff, so if your friend is in any kind of fear whatsoever, just advise her to contact her local social service department. They do all kinds of stuff, police reports, counselling, protection, even mental evaluation of the offending spouse. You want good advice, this is good advice. No sense in getting into the details, only causes fights and always two sides to every story, only one is posted here.

[sheraz 0]

sorry typo there....5 years.....was actually 5 months.....not judging your friend....but do agree with the previous post about "suddenly the usc spouse

turned monster" this whole k1 process is emotionally draining....just hard to believe that there are so many "bad" usc petitioners actually this

abusive to wade thru this process and legally stick their neck out to bring their "loved ones" here to treat them so badly......

Exactly the point I was making.

This doesn't sound like an immigration issue. It sounds like a moral issue to me.

1. I was looking at your recent posts. What a curious group of unhappy immigrant friends you have. Is it just a coincidence that you have run across such a group of people in such dire straights? Your questions seem always be about protecting benifits after divorce.

2. Your friends husband would not qualify for unemployment compensation if he was fired for cause.

3. If you are really a friend you should suggest to your friend that she get her advice from Alanon. They are more qualified to help with problems involving alcoholism and drug dependency. There is a lot of help available for this guy if he truly has a problem and he desires a better way of life. If she really loved or (loves) this guy she should try to help him instead of just leaving him with his problem.

4. It sounds to me like it is likely that his job loss, legal problems, and marriage problems are all a consequence of his drug/ alcohol problem. If she can help him fix that then she has a good marriage again. You should steer them to Alanon and Alcoholics Anonomous. Your advice, however well intentioned, may be exacerbating their marital problems. I doubt that you are qualified to help with decisions that involve such serious consequences. I don't think you want this on your conscience.

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