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I wouldn't even seriously date anyone that did not share similar religious views with me. That was just a dealbreaker, like someone who wanted no children or six children.

Good for you... It was more important for us to find someone who shares the same values and principles and wants to share their entire life with us than whether he/she goes to the same place to pray every sunday..

But you see, other people's religions shape their values and principles, some I just don't share with other religions and don't want to raise my children with those ideas.

If you can look past that, more power to you, but I didn't want to be bothered with it.

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I wouldn't even seriously date anyone that did not share similar religious views with me. That was just a dealbreaker, like someone who wanted no children or six children.

Good for you... It was more important for us to find someone who shares the same values and principles and wants to share their entire life with us than whether he/she goes to the same place to pray every sunday..

But you see, other people's religions shape their values and principles, some I just don't share with other religions and don't want to raise my children with those ideas.

If you can look past that, more power to you, but I didn't want to be bothered with it.

:yes: It's hard enough being married when you agree on stuff like that, let alone disagree.

I had dated people with differing opinions /faith beliefs and it was ok for a while, but soon it gets to be a huge problem because like Wacken says, religion / faith does have a huge impact on one's worldview.

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I wouldn't even seriously date anyone that did not share similar religious views with me. That was just a dealbreaker, like someone who wanted no children or six children.

Good for you... It was more important for us to find someone who shares the same values and principles and wants to share their entire life with us than whether he/she goes to the same place to pray every sunday..

But you see, other people's religions shape their values and principles, some I just don't share with other religions and don't want to raise my children with those ideas.

If you can look past that, more power to you, but I didn't want to be bothered with it.

:yes: It's hard enough being married when you agree on stuff like that, let alone disagree.

I had dated people with differing opinions /faith beliefs and it was ok for a while, but soon it gets to be a huge problem because like Wacken says, religion / faith does have a huge impact on one's worldview.

Aye. That's why I married another Agnostic/Atheist - Because I believe what I do about Christianity, there is no way I could have married one. It would have been a fight-a-day, at least.

Lady, people aren't chocolates. Do you know what they are mostly? Bastards. ####### coated bastards with ####### filling. But I don't find them half as annoying as I find naive bobble-headed optimists who walk around vomiting sunshine.
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I wouldn't even seriously date anyone that did not share similar religious views with me. That was just a dealbreaker, like someone who wanted no children or six children.

Good for you... It was more important for us to find someone who shares the same values and principles and wants to share their entire life with us than whether he/she goes to the same place to pray every sunday..

But you see, other people's religions shape their values and principles, some I just don't share with other religions and don't want to raise my children with those ideas.

If you can look past that, more power to you, but I didn't want to be bothered with it.

:yes: It's hard enough being married when you agree on stuff like that, let alone disagree.

I had dated people with differing opinions /faith beliefs and it was ok for a while, but soon it gets to be a huge problem because like Wacken says, religion / faith does have a huge impact on one's worldview.

Aye. That's why I married another Agnostic/Atheist - Because I believe what I do about Christianity, there is no way I could have married one. It would have been a fight-a-day, at least.

makes perfect sense to me!

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I wouldn't even seriously date anyone that did not share similar religious views with me. That was just a dealbreaker, like someone who wanted no children or six children.

Good for you... It was more important for us to find someone who shares the same values and principles and wants to share their entire life with us than whether he/she goes to the same place to pray every sunday..

But you see, other people's religions shape their values and principles, some I just don't share with other religions and don't want to raise my children with those ideas.

If you can look past that, more power to you, but I didn't want to be bothered with it.

:yes: It's hard enough being married when you agree on stuff like that, let alone disagree.

I had dated people with differing opinions /faith beliefs and it was ok for a while, but soon it gets to be a huge problem because like Wacken says, religion / faith does have a huge impact on one's worldview.

Aye. That's why I married another Agnostic/Atheist - Because I believe what I do about Christianity, there is no way I could have married one. It would have been a fight-a-day, at least.

I agree.

I don't consider myself an agnostic, but there is no way I could have married a holy roller. I grew up in that household and that was enough....

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Ok I thought I wouldn't have any problem .......I guess I was just one of those optimists that thought I wasn't going to have a problem with religious "differences." Please I need advice not "well you should have thought about this before you were married." well it is kinda late for that. I am not a really religious, I believe in God. I am not into organized religion. My husband found a church he likes here a lot and we went a few times. I support him ...i go with him even though personally I really dislike going. And I am not Christian and I feel like a lot of people are trying to get me to change my faith , and even in some ways I think my husband pressuring me too. I feel too much strangled. He comes from Philippines where it is Catholic/Christian, he is not used to this country where we have many religions. I think he thinks Christianity is the only good religion.I dont want to hurt him but I need to communicate with him I feel really uncomfortable. He is starting to put church before me. What can I do?

Do you know the first commandment? It goes...I am the Lord your God who brought you out of Egypt. You shall have no others before me. Your husband has to put God before you. Its a commandment.

If you are not into organized religion, then you must be into unorganized religion. There are many people that are this way. They say they believe in God, but they want to believe in a god of their own making. (breaking the second commandment "thou shall not make a graven image") Its not the true God of Abraham, Issac, and Jacob. Some people will make their god in thier mind and say...well my god just wants me to be happy and doesnt care if i lie for a good reason, or care if i disobey my spouse if i dont agree with him. People do this to feel better about God because they dont want to think they are going to hell if they break his laws.

Now i can understand your boredom in some churches though. I get bored to tears in a catholic church, but thats only because they really dont preach the true gospel or ever seen to give any insight into how the bible affect you or people in your life. They kind of just read a few passages and thats it.

But you know what the difference between Christianity and all other religions is? In every religion in the world except Christianity, you are able to "earn" your way into heaven by basically doing more good that bad. But in Christianity, you can only get to heaven with a savior. Entrance to heaven is a gift from God, that no man can earn on his own lest he brag about it. Most people think they are good enough to get to heaven on their own, but Jesus said, there is none good, not one, but God.

Check out this quick video so you can see what i mean. (its under 4min but in my opinion, it really opens your eyes)

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Ok I thought I wouldn't have any problem .......I guess I was just one of those optimists that thought I wasn't going to have a problem with religious "differences." Please I need advice not "well you should have thought about this before you were married." well it is kinda late for that. I am not a really religious, I believe in God. I am not into organized religion. My husband found a church he likes here a lot and we went a few times. I support him ...i go with him even though personally I really dislike going. And I am not Christian and I feel like a lot of people are trying to get me to change my faith , and even in some ways I think my husband pressuring me too. I feel too much strangled. He comes from Philippines where it is Catholic/Christian, he is not used to this country where we have many religions. I think he thinks Christianity is the only good religion.I dont want to hurt him but I need to communicate with him I feel really uncomfortable. He is starting to put church before me. What can I do?

Do you know the first commandment? It goes...I am the Lord your God who brought you out of Egypt. You shall have no others before me. Your husband has to put God before you. Its a commandment.

If you are not into organized religion, then you must be into unorganized religion. There are many people that are this way. They say they believe in God, but they want to believe in a god of their own making. (breaking the second commandment "thou shall not make a graven image") Its not the true God of Abraham, Issac, and Jacob. Some people will make their god in thier mind and say...well my god just wants me to be happy and doesnt care if i lie for a good reason, or care if i disobey my spouse if i dont agree with him. People do this to feel better about God because they dont want to think they are going to hell if they break his laws.

Now i can understand your boredom in some churches though. I get bored to tears in a catholic church, but thats only because they really dont preach the true gospel or ever seen to give any insight into how the bible affect you or people in your life. They kind of just read a few passages and thats it.

But you know what the difference between Christianity and all other religions is? In every religion in the world except Christianity, you are able to "earn" your way into heaven by basically doing more good that bad. But in Christianity, you can only get to heaven with a savior. Entrance to heaven is a gift from God, that no man can earn on his own lest he brag about it. Most people think they are good enough to get to heaven on their own, but Jesus said, there is none good, not one, but God.

Check out this quick video so you can see what i mean. (its under 4min but in my opinion, it really opens your eyes)

I'm detecting a serious fundie in the room......

I'm going to guess that being preached at isn't going to help the OP with her problem.

Lady, people aren't chocolates. Do you know what they are mostly? Bastards. ####### coated bastards with ####### filling. But I don't find them half as annoying as I find naive bobble-headed optimists who walk around vomiting sunshine.
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Do you know the first commandment? It goes...I am the Lord your God who brought you out of Egypt. You shall have no others before me. Your husband has to put God before you. Its a commandment.

If you are not into organized religion, then you must be into unorganized religion. There are many people that are this way. They say they believe in God, but they want to believe in a god of their own making. (breaking the second commandment "thou shall not make a graven image") Its not the true God of Abraham, Issac, and Jacob. Some people will make their god in thier mind and say...well my god just wants me to be happy and doesnt care if i lie for a good reason, or care if i disobey my spouse if i dont agree with him. People do this to feel better about God because they dont want to think they are going to hell if they break his laws.

Now i can understand your boredom in some churches though. I get bored to tears in a catholic church, but thats only because they really dont preach the true gospel or ever seen to give any insight into how the bible affect you or people in your life. They kind of just read a few passages and thats it.

But you know what the difference between Christianity and all other religions is? In every religion in the world except Christianity, you are able to "earn" your way into heaven by basically doing more good that bad. But in Christianity, you can only get to heaven with a savior. Entrance to heaven is a gift from God, that no man can earn on his own lest he brag about it. Most people think they are good enough to get to heaven on their own, but Jesus said, there is none good, not one, but God.

Check out this quick video so you can see what i mean. (its under 4min but in my opinion, it really opens your eyes)

*laughs softly* Then you have obviously NOT been at the mercy of a person who believed this way and used the bible, God, and garnered the support of others who believed this way to justify abusing his spouse. When a woman places herself in a position of complete and total submission to a man, she also opens the door for possible abuse...mental and physical. I have been in such a place and I will NOT EVER believe that God intended for a woman to be in such a situation nor will I ever place myself in that position again. I suppose you will now tell me that I have been "disobedient to God and my former husband" by leaving and divorcing the scumbag too, eh? The mere fact that you would use the words "disobey my spouse" reeks of fundamentalism.

To the OP...I hope by now you and your spouse have had time to sit down and talk seriously about this matter. This is something my spouse and I talked about before we married...and spoke about it at great lengths. I sincerely hope you two have worked out an amicable solution. :)

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Now i can understand your boredom in some churches though. I get bored to tears in a catholic church, but thats only because they really dont preach the true gospel or ever seen to give any insight into how the bible affect you or people in your life. They kind of just read a few passages and thats it.

It makes me sad upon reading this line.... if you get bored then don't go to catholic church and stop saying about that catholic and their priest ok

Catholic Priest and the churches do preach the TRUE GOSPEL OF GOD! and I believe in that!

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I appreciate your point and used to think the same way as you ,until I met someone that I loved from a different background and I was willing to work on our differences.

Maybe it is because I was brought up in a mixed religious background (mum muslim and dad catholic) .Overall in my personal experience I gained more friendships by having a change of attitude:trying to find similarities instead of concentrating on differences.

I am sure we can agree that the extreme side of your current approach would be to have in a country communities living closed within themselves and marrying within themselves ,it would be personally hard for me to live in this kind of place....

But you see, other people's religions shape their values and principles, some I just don't share with other religions and don't want to raise my children with those ideas.

If you can look past that, more power to you, but I didn't want to be bothered with it.

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Religion is always a sticky topic, even between couples. Did you and your hubby talk about this before, while you were getting to know each other? If you didn't maybe it is a good time to do now. Let him know how you feel, but don't argue or be too harsh. It's one of the best ways for both of you to find common ground. Also you need to respect that he has come from a religious background and would want to continue that here. Best of luck to you. I hope it all works out.

Life is so strange but it sure keeps you on your toes!!!

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