How do you split your finances?

[Welshcookie 17]

Umm.... If I wasn't seeking other people's opinions, I wouldn't have posted. That's what this forum was all about, or so I thought... looking for advice, sharing experiences, supporting each other.

The first response to this question asked why I couldn't share this with my SO? Where, in my original post, had I even IMPLIED that I hadn't? Someone else chose to comment on the splitting of retirement during divorce, taking this thread in a totally different direction than my original question. All I was trying to do was explain my circumstances thinking that some others might be able to relate and provide relevant feedback... It's easy to become defensive when one feels as if others are making assumptions without knowing the facts.

I've seen several threads where this has happened... someone posts an innocent question, or asks for advice, and instead gets judged for the direction they're taking. I'm not going to give any examples because this thread has gone far enough, but that was the basis behind my comment about 'judgmental people'.

Many thanks to those who kept the integrity of the question intact and answered accordingly. I appreciate your sharing your personal thoughts.

Jen

Threads more than often do go off on a tangent......ppl will discuss points others make not just the OPs. Just because one person starts a thread doesn't mean they get to say what shape it will take on....actually I don't personally think this thread has gone far off topic at all....

[Fandango 1,440]

Umm.... If I wasn't seeking other people's opinions, I wouldn't have posted. That's what this forum was all about, or so I thought... looking for advice, sharing experiences, supporting each other.

The first response to this question asked why I couldn't share this with my SO? Where, in my original post, had I even IMPLIED that I hadn't? Someone else chose to comment on the splitting of retirement during divorce, taking this thread in a totally different direction than my original question. All I was trying to do was explain my circumstances thinking that some others might be able to relate and provide relevant feedback... It's easy to become defensive when one feels as if others are making assumptions without knowing the facts.

I've seen several threads where this has happened... someone posts an innocent question, or asks for advice, and instead gets judged for the direction they're taking. I'm not going to give any examples because this thread has gone far enough, but that was the basis behind my comment about 'judgmental people'.

Many thanks to those who kept the integrity of the question intact and answered accordingly. I appreciate your sharing your personal thoughts.

Jen

Threads more than often do go off on a tangent......ppl will discuss points others make not just the OPs. Just because one person starts a thread doesn't mean they get to say what shape it will take on....actually I don't personally think this thread has gone far off topic at all....

I couldn't have said it better myself.

[*Robert* 2]

Umm.... If I wasn't seeking other people's opinions, I wouldn't have posted. That's what this forum was all about, or so I thought... looking for advice, sharing experiences, supporting each other.

The first response to this question asked why I couldn't share this with my SO? Where, in my original post, had I even IMPLIED that I hadn't? Someone else chose to comment on the splitting of retirement during divorce, taking this thread in a totally different direction than my original question. All I was trying to do was explain my circumstances thinking that some others might be able to relate and provide relevant feedback... It's easy to become defensive when one feels as if others are making assumptions without knowing the facts.

I've seen several threads where this has happened... someone posts an innocent question, or asks for advice, and instead gets judged for the direction they're taking. I'm not going to give any examples because this thread has gone far enough, but that was the basis behind my comment about 'judgmental people'.

Many thanks to those who kept the integrity of the question intact and answered accordingly. I appreciate your sharing your personal thoughts.

Jen

Threads more than often do go off on a tangent......ppl will discuss points others make not just the OPs. Just because one person starts a thread doesn't mean they get to say what shape it will take on....actually I don't personally think this thread has gone far off topic at all....

I couldn't have said it better myself.

I think our adopted thread "Am I Overeacting??" is a perfect example!!!

[LenJayUS 0]

For us, looks like we'll be doing the seperate account thing... well, at least she'll ahve her own accounts. My accounts I'm going to add her two... I'm like others here, I think when you marry, everything should be combined... but she doens't want to do it that way and I'm trying my best to... adapt :-) NO idea how bills and stuff will work, I think we'll be living off of my income and what not... and she'll use her money for big things (she won't be working, at least for awhile).

It's hard to get my head round why she wants to do things this way, some of that (probably) most of that is simple because it's not what I'm used to. My whole family, and my first marriage, was a joint venture across the board. Sometimes it does make me wonder things that I slap myself for later though.