NEED HELP!!! REALLY... NEED HELP!

[boyage 1]

I've been there..My fiance did not marry me also.He has a lot of alibis.They said when a man has too many alibis to marry you,it means he is just not sure of being with you.He is having second thoughts.Before,I did not listened and that's why I also overstayed my visa.I also loved that guy because he is my first love and I was used to be ''one man ,one woman''until I realized the fact that it is not happen all the time.It doesn't mean that you do it intentionally,but it's just happens.I think it's because ,we as human,before we were born and see this world,we already have a partner.God already made a plan for us.Because,I base it from my experience,I really wanted that guy so badly to be my husband,he knows that,and I also feel that he also feel the same,but I am just not 100% sure because if he does ,he should marry me without any alibis or whatever.But , you know,let us be feel pity to ourselves.We should love ourselves.Nobody can help us but it's only us.Dealing with emotional problems is hard.I been there.It will make you malnuorish.You cannot sleep well.I don't know if you feel the same way too.Because,when I was on that situation,all I do is crying most of the time.Can't eat.I lost my apetite and you will look old.Believe me.Stress can make you old and unhealthy.I don't know if you don't feel stressed with this situation.

You know,what I did to my fiance,I give him a time frame.Maybe he will not listen because he is already used to is like what happened to mine also.It is just like threatening to him and it likes it makes him feel more challenge to not to marry you.It is like,I don't care.Yes,he also said to me,everything will be fine which I know is not fine.Well,that's what I did before I left him.I gave him a time frame.Believe me it's like ,maybe 5 times until I decided to leave him.What I did in order to forget him is think what he have done which is not good for you,then, you will be brave.You will say to yourself,I am stupid...I should have not love him.But, we are human, it's not a fault.It's just like a lesson.It could be a nice part of your life history when you grow old, you can advice it to someone too who is in the same situation.I think it's because God wants us to be strong that's why he gave us some trials.he wants to measure your loyalty to HIM.Just keep praying,that's what I do every now and then.Ask him to take the cross in your shoulder.Just believe in HIM.And if this guy is really meant for you,he will marry you.And if not,look for someone else who is deserve to have you.I am also young .I am only 22 yrs old.And,being a young, there's nothing to be discourage about.Justdon't give up.Someday, you will also find the happiness like me.:-)

[JenT 0]

This post is 7 months old. Tashyta has gone back to the Ukraine.

[bangity 0]

one quick question. Do you have to do the ceremony or can you just do the marriage license?

[ladybee 0]

I'll just throw this out there too, and you can take it for what it's worth: Doesn't it seem odd to you that your fiance is so reluctant to take this situation seriously and just marry you? He didn't marry you on your first K-1. He didn't marry you on your second K-1. He has let your current marriage certificate expire.

Does this guy ever really plan to marry you, or is it possible that he is just taking advantage of you? Currently your fiance is not the person who is in trouble. You're the one in trouble, and he doesn't seem to really care.

I don't know anything about your relationship, so I won't speculate. But I have to wonder why you are tolerating such a one-sided deal.

I agree it like why buy the cow when you could get milk free

[Sylvia_n_Joseph 3]

one quick question. Do you have to do the ceremony or can you just do the marriage license?

A marriage licience is the way to record that you have been married. You get it from a state office and then take it to an approved offical who marries you. It can be in a church or at a judges office. They can say as few words or as many as everyone agrees on. The big thing is that the official signs the form and it gets back to the issuing office to be recorded. Without getting recorded you aren't married. As for the governement when they say you have 90 days to get married it means that the licience has to be signed in 90 days not that you went and got one.

[tashyta 0]

Hey everyone! I saw all your posts and thanks a lot for them!!! It's very nice!! I came back to Ukraine in June - the day of my departure was the worst in my life!But I made this step. It's still very difficult, becaus my ex still wants to have me back. He either doesn't understand that we are done or ddoesn't want to or jusr wants to keep me just in case... So far I am trying to work a lot not to think aabout that at all. So now I am doing fine and go on with my life. Thanks to everyone for help!!!

I wish happiness to everyone!!! God bless you all!