I wanted to share my own personal story so others may take time to think of things for themselves.
In Feb 2010 I met my husband on the internet, met him in person and spent 6 wonderful weeks with him over xmas 2010 returning back to Australia in Jan 2011. We knew we loved each other online, but the meeting for real in person was far beyond what we had both expected...it was wonderful.
In 2011, our relationship even more than before if that was possible but it was, he mentioned many times how much he wanted me as his wife and I felt the same way.
July 2012, I arrived back to visit with him again, was perfect and he asked me to marry him. I had met his friends and family that were part of his everyday life and they embraced me with friendship love and acceptance. As his eldest sister and her husband lived in Florida they had only head about me...they were up visiting under bad circumstance themselves as she had lost her youngest son the year before...so my husband and I got married on the spur of the moment and in the time frame that he had all his family there.
I went back to Australia in Sept 2012 and he posted the I-130 when I left...we were so excited....But then tragedy...My husband become ill with Legionaries pneumonia a little over 3 weeks of me getting back home...it was bad and he was admitted and placed on life support on 2nd October 2012...his family contacted me and it took me a few days to get everything in order to fly back and be with him...I arrived the evening of the 8th Oct to be with my critically ill husband....he had already died that morning whilst I was in flight for the 30 hours it takes for me to get there!
I flew back with my dad as I was a mess and stayed on in the USA till Dec 2012 to attend his funeral and attend to other matters.
Feb 2013 My sister inlaw emailed a scanned copy of our I-130 that had arrived...it was a mix of feelings yay cause thats all we wanted and a sadness because I felt there was nothing left for me in the USA without him. His sister one in particular I grew very close to...come back live we will help you, we want you here etc....I get my letter from the NVC asking for a Registered agent to be appointed in response to my husbands approval in the March 2013. I did not act on this information.
I have family, children and a life back in Australia...was more than I believed was still in the USA for me. Wasn't nothing if my husband wasn't going to be part of it. I had to return back to the USA in June 2013 to deal with my husbands estate...wasn't easy. He had wanted me to be added to his bank account etc before I returned to Australia...I had said to him NO RUSH...when I get back we will get everything in order.
Was a bad mistake on my behalf because it caused so much more drama...
Anyways getting back to the I-130. When back in June 2013 I of course was catching up with friends and loved ones of my husbands that were also an important part of my life....One friend in particular become very important and was always there for me, I wasn't driving and was dependent on others pretty much to make appointments, shop etc.
In this time I was back in the USA... A very good friend of my husbands for over 30 years, who had become a friend to me also since 2010 spent a lot of time together, we did always get along...well we ended up finding our own Love story. :) so before I was set to go back to Australia, I finally acted on the letter from the NVC and my husbands approval for the I-130.
Eddy became my registered agent and we set about finalizing what My husband had started...as it turns out My husband died October 2012, the approval came in Feb 2013...the approval happened after the death of my husband and what Eddy and I discovered was that as the APPROVAL HAPPENED AFTER MY HUSBANDS DEATH...it would be revoked by the NVC. The NVC had reverted my application to a Widows but the law was very clear from what we had seen...I hadn't returned or finished the process and been in the USA when he died.
Eddy and I discussed this and although we knew it would set us back with our on plans...he submitted a withdrawal of my late husbands I-130 as my agent and we set about our own I-129 application with the NOA1 arriving Jan 7th 2014.
So basically all this post is meant to be about is to warn other loving couples that are going through this process, with any visa...PLEASE think of the Worst case scenario...it happens!
My heart goes out to other members who have had or going through a similar scenario, regardless of visa type.