I have been reading VJ forums for a long time now. It was the only way I could submit my K-1 application without a lawyer.
We submitted in March. The last time my fiance and I saw each other, our hearts were beyond broken to leave each other again.
That was in February. Now it is almost the end of July, and our visa application has barely moved. Every time I check the timelines
for Texas, I see that nothing has progressed at all.
Like everybody here, my loved one and I are missing each other so much. But we talked last night and we both agreed that the wait
and uncertainty are killing us. In my case, I have to say honestly that it is making me depressed.
So he proposed to me that he go to France. He was born in Belgium but lost his citizenship because his family moved out of the country
when he was 13 and in those days Belgium did not allow dual citizenship. But he is eligible to get his citizenship back, and his grandparents still
live there. However, he prefers France to work, he said.
He want to go to France, get a little settled, and then have me join him there.
I feel bad that we invested time and money in the K-1 visa and already wasted so many months of our lives with waiting and no progress.
If I go to France, I guess we will have to cancel the K-1 application and start again with a whole new type of visa. I still want us to come back
to the US, because my parents are here and they are aging.
If I go to France, he will be the one supporting us financially, Maybe I'll get a job if I can manage to do it, but I don't even speak good French.
He is fluent, since he grew up in Belgium, and he's familiar with European life.
Am I still going to prove I can support him in USA if we apply for another type of visa later? How can I do that if I have not been working in USA....what do other couples do who are living abroad.
Thank you for support. I never knew or could have imagined how awful it is to have this separation for so long. I know many of you are in the same situation. I am only staying in US because of my family, especially my parents. I don't like to leave them. For myself, I don't care where I live, but I always had a rough relationship with my parents and now I want to be there for them when they are older. I can't bear to leave them now after all the did for me.