kiria&daniel

Wow, thankyou everyone for your input.
I too believe a child should have both parents in their lifes, however when one doesnt want to be apart of the childs life- why should I force it?
The soon to be ex husband/childs biological father will be able to visit her as often as he likes- I am not going to keep him from his child. I will also be coming back to the states hopefully once a year as I want to see those that have helped me out through this trying time.
I have even invited him to come to the birth of his child- his reponce "I need more time to work on myself, and focus on myself before anything else" meanwhile I see his debit transactions where his mistress lives.

To the person saying there is two sides to every story...I have asked my soon to be ex-husband if i did anything wrong...his responce "no, nothing" he was just being selfish.
I havnt been vicious in this entire process, I havnt even lashed out at the woman who participated in the affair- even though she told me to "get over it, and move back to australia"
I have been very civil as I cannot risk the health of my unborn child with me stressing.

I will be seing an immigration lawyer and a divorce lawyer this monday with the assistance of my mother and father who are flying in on sunday. My child deserves the best support system possible- the father had his chance to right his wrongs- appoligize and ask about his child. He refuses to speak of his child and is mainly concerned about who gets our dog.

Thankyou again for your input, and some of you have been SO sweet- your comments lighten up my day and remind me that people dont have to put up with these circumstances- as someone said - my soon to be ex husband could of quite easily tried to move for me and my child to australia and I would have happily helped him out if he was willing to sacrifice what I sacrificed to move here- I need my family, and need to give my child the best possible life. He didnt appreciate me moving here for him and giving up my life- which I still to this day dont regret, I moved here for him, I loved him and was happy to give up my family and carear to be with him- its amazing when you put the shoe on the other foot and see what they would sacrifice for you. We are such strong people that go through this visa process- normally the partner see's this...unfortunately mine decided that I wasnt enough.

Again I am not keeping him from her, however I will be exiting this country as I moved here for him- not for anything else, she will be born in Australia and if he wants some kind of custody- he can go through the australian courts. He has however shown no interest in doing so.

Thanks again

Wow, thankyou everyone for your input.
I too believe a child should have both parents in their lifes, however when one doesnt want to be apart of the childs life- why should I force it?
The soon to be ex husband/childs biological father will be able to visit her as often as he likes- I am not going to keep him from his child. I will also be coming back to the states hopefully once a year as I want to see those that have helped me out through this trying time.
I have even invited him to come to the birth of his child- his reponce "I need more time to work on myself, and focus on myself before anything else" meanwhile I see his debit transactions where his mistress lives.

To the person saying there is two sides to every story...I have asked my soon to be ex-husband if i did anything wrong...his responce "no, nothing" he was just being selfish.
I havnt been vicious in this entire process, I havnt even lashed out at the woman who participated in the affair- even though she told me to "get over it, and move back to australia"
I have been very civil as I cannot risk the health of my unborn child with me stressing.

I will be seing an immigration lawyer and a divorce lawyer this monday with the assistance of my mother and father who are flying in on sunday. My child deserves the best support system possible- the father had his chance to right his wrongs- appoligize and ask about his child. He refuses to speak of his child and is mainly concerned about who gets our dog.

Thankyou again for your input, and some of you have been SO sweet- your comments lighten up my day and remind me that people dont have to put up with these circumstances- as someone said - my soon to be ex husband could of quite easily tried to move for me and my child to australia and I would have happily helped him out if he was willing to sacrifice what I sacrificed to move here- I need my family, and need to give my child the best possible life. He didnt appreciate me moving here for him and giving up my life- which I still to this day dont regret, I moved here for him, I loved him and was happy to give up my family and carear to be with him- its amazing when you put the shoe on the other foot and see what they would sacrifice for you. We are such strong people that go through this visa process- normally the partner see's this...unfortunately mine decided that I wasnt enough.

Again I am not keeping him from her, however I will be exiting this country as I moved here for him- not for anything else, she will be born in Australia and if he wants some kind of custody- he can go through the australian courts. He has however shown no interest in doing so.

Thanks again

Wow, thankyou everyone for your input.
I too believe a child should have both parents in their lifes, however when one doesnt want to be apart of the childs life- why should I force it?
The soon to be ex husband/childs biological father will be able to visit her as often as he likes- I am not going to keep him from his child. I will also be coming back to the states hopefully once a year as I want to see those that have helped me out through this trying time.
I have even invited him to come to the birth of his child- his reponce "I need more time to work on myself, and focus on myself before anything else" meanwhile I see his debit transactions where his mistress lives.

To the person saying there is two sides to every story...I have asked my soon to be ex-husband if i did anything wrong...his responce "no, nothing" he was just being selfish.
I havnt been vicious in this entire process, I havnt even lashed out at the woman who participated in the affair- even though she told me to "get over it, and move back to australia"
I have been very civil as I cannot risk the health of my unborn child with me stressing.

I will be seing an immigration lawyer and a divorce lawyer this monday with the assistance of my mother and father who are flying in on sunday. My child deserves the best support system possible- the father had his chance to right his wrongs- appoligize and ask about his child. He refuses to speak of his child and is mainly concerned about who gets our dog.

Thankyou again for your input, and some of you have been SO sweet- your comments lighten up my day and remind me that people dont have to put up with these circumstances- as someone said - my soon to be ex husband could of quite easily tried to move for me and my child to australia and I would have happily helped him out if he was willing to sacrifice what I sacrificed to move here- I need my family, and need to give my child the best possible life. He didnt appreciate me moving here for him and giving up my life- which I still to this day dont regret, I moved here for him, I loved him and was happy to give up my family and carear to be with him- its amazing when you put the shoe on the other foot and see what they would sacrifice for you. We are such strong people that go through this visa process- normally the partner see's this...unfortunately mine decided that I wasnt enough.

Again I am not keeping him from her, however I will be exiting this country as I moved here for him- not for anything else, she will be born in Australia and if he wants some kind of custody- he can go through the australian courts. He has however shown no interest in doing so.

Thanks again

Wow, thankyou everyone for your input.
I too believe a child should have both parents in their lifes, however when one doesnt want to be apart of the childs life- why should I force it?
The soon to be ex husband/childs biological father will be able to visit her as often as he likes- I am not going to keep him from his child. I will also be coming back to the states hopefully once a year as I want to see those that have helped me out through this trying time.
I have even invited him to come to the birth of his child- his reponce "I need more time to work on myself, and focus on myself before anything else" meanwhile I see his debit transactions where his mistress lives.

To the person saying there is two sides to every story...I have asked my soon to be ex-husband if i did anything wrong...his responce "no, nothing" he was just being selfish.
I havnt been vicious in this entire process, I havnt even lashed out at the woman who participated in the affair- even though she told me to "get over it, and move back to australia"
I have been very civil as I cannot risk the health of my unborn child with me stressing.

I will be seing an immigration lawyer and a divorce lawyer this monday with the assistance of my mother and father who are flying in on sunday. My child deserves the best support system possible- the father had his chance to right his wrongs- appoligize and ask about his child. He refuses to speak of his child and is mainly concerned about who gets our dog.

Thankyou again for your input, and some of you have been SO sweet- your comments lighten up my day and remind me that people dont have to put up with these circumstances- as someone said - my soon to be ex husband could of quite easily tried to move for me and my child to australia and I would have happily helped him out if he was willing to sacrifice what I sacrificed to move here- I need my family, and need to give my child the best possible life. He didnt appreciate me moving here for him and giving up my life- which I still to this day dont regret, I moved here for him, I loved him and was happy to give up my family and carear to be with him- its amazing when you put the shoe on the other foot and see what they would sacrifice for you. We are such strong people that go through this visa process- normally the partner see's this...unfortunately mine decided that I wasnt enough.

Again I am not keeping him from her, however I will be exiting this country as I moved here for him- not for anything else, she will be born in Australia and if he wants some kind of custody- he can go through the australian courts. He has however shown no interest in doing so.

Thanks again

Wow, thankyou everyone for your input.
I too believe a child should have both parents in their lifes, however when one doesnt want to be apart of the childs life- why should I force it?
The soon to be ex husband/childs biological father will be able to visit her as often as he likes- I am not going to keep him from his child. I will also be coming back to the states hopefully once a year as I want to see those that have helped me out through this trying time.
I have even invited him to come to the birth of his child- his reponce "I need more time to work on myself, and focus on myself before anything else" meanwhile I see his debit transactions where his mistress lives.

To the person saying there is two sides to every story...I have asked my soon to be ex-husband if i did anything wrong...his responce "no, nothing" he was just being selfish.
I havnt been vicious in this entire process, I havnt even lashed out at the woman who participated in the affair- even though she told me to "get over it, and move back to australia"
I have been very civil as I cannot risk the health of my unborn child with me stressing.

I will be seing an immigration lawyer and a divorce lawyer this monday with the assistance of my mother and father who are flying in on sunday. My child deserves the best support system possible- the father had his chance to right his wrongs- appoligize and ask about his child. He refuses to speak of his child and is mainly concerned about who gets our dog.

Thankyou again for your input, and some of you have been SO sweet- your comments lighten up my day and remind me that people dont have to put up with these circumstances- as someone said - my soon to be ex husband could of quite easily tried to move for me and my child to australia and I would have happily helped him out if he was willing to sacrifice what I sacrificed to move here- I need my family, and need to give my child the best possible life. He didnt appreciate me moving here for him and giving up my life- which I still to this day dont regret, I moved here for him, I loved him and was happy to give up my family and carear to be with him- its amazing when you put the shoe on the other foot and see what they would sacrifice for you. We are such strong people that go through this visa process- normally the partner see's this...unfortunately mine decided that I wasnt enough.

Again I am not keeping him from her, however I will be exiting this country as I moved here for him- not for anything else, she will be born in Australia and if he wants some kind of custody- he can go through the australian courts. He has however shown no interest in doing so.

Thanks again

Thank you for your response- in regards to me driving him away- he has been cheating on me since before we were married/engaged - he shouldn't of proposed to me if he was going to be unfaithful.
I work a great job and don't rely on him for money- I paid for all of my visa process and paid to come over to live with him.
I loved this man and believed that he loved me too- it is unfortunate that my marriage is tainted with lies.
He wasn't going to tell me of this other woman- he admited he was never going to tell me- this woman told me- she also is as sick as she knew he was married and that I was pregnant.
He wants nothing to do with me- as I said in my previous comment I was willing to try save my marriage- I loved this man
However I need to go back to have a better support system. I am not doing this for revenge, he has made it clear he doesn't want to be apart of mine or my child's life- he is still seeing this woman and is becoming more and more hateful as it is coming close to my departure.
I am only questioning the visa process as I do had a job willing to take me back over here with the oppertunity of growth and promotions- and I have friends. I would never want to take a child away from their biological father- but in all reality- he has made no effort or no comments regarding being apart of her life.
I will maintain to send photos to him and his family- right now I am looking out for the safety/sanity and support that myself and child need at this time.
Thank you to everyone that has posted lovely comments- it really does get me through the day knowing there are people out there that care.

Thankyou everyone for your responces.
I am planning to move back to australia in 20 days- my flight is booked and my parents are flying over to assist me in the move.

My soon to be ex husband has been mentally abusing me for a while..... He is being HORRIBLE in this whole situation and hasnt asked once about the baby since everything has come out.
He has another biological child in this state and has NOTHING to do with her- I knew about her before the marriage and NEVER told him he couldnt see her- he is the type of person where its "out of sight- out of mind."

I do have friends here- however his family have decided to hide from this situation and wont call me or check up on me. I have tried everything- and I was even considering coming back after giving birth to my baby girl in May....
I spoke with my husband and told him that I would be willing to work on our relationship for the sake of our child if he was willing to fight for our marriage and show me he wanted to change his ways and get proffesional help. Instead he decided to make leaving the country EASY- he has threatened me, mentally abused me, left dirty womens underware in my underware drawer, is still seeing this other woman and is accusing me of trying to get him fired from his job- why would I want this if I eventually wanted child support?!?!?!?!?!

I have weighed all my options and am leaving- I will be having the child in Australia and will be filing for divorce....I will be getting something drawn up to where he understands that I am having the child in Australia- therefore not kidnapping.

My question now is not what I should do...but what will happen with my permanent residency green card? My "conditional 2 year one" expired last august and I went in for biometrics in November- everything is being processed...but what happens if i get a divorce in the mean time before recieving interview/green card????

aRGHHH

Thanks for your support xxxx MUCH LOVE

Wow, thankyou everyone for your input.
I too believe a child should have both parents in their lifes, however when one doesnt want to be apart of the childs life- why should I force it?
The soon to be ex husband/childs biological father will be able to visit her as often as he likes- I am not going to keep him from his child. I will also be coming back to the states hopefully once a year as I want to see those that have helped me out through this trying time.
I have even invited him to come to the birth of his child- his reponce "I need more time to work on myself, and focus on myself before anything else" meanwhile I see his debit transactions where his mistress lives.

To the person saying there is two sides to every story...I have asked my soon to be ex-husband if i did anything wrong...his responce "no, nothing" he was just being selfish.
I havnt been vicious in this entire process, I havnt even lashed out at the woman who participated in the affair- even though she told me to "get over it, and move back to australia"
I have been very civil as I cannot risk the health of my unborn child with me stressing.

I will be seing an immigration lawyer and a divorce lawyer this monday with the assistance of my mother and father who are flying in on sunday. My child deserves the best support system possible- the father had his chance to right his wrongs- appoligize and ask about his child. He refuses to speak of his child and is mainly concerned about who gets our dog.

Thankyou again for your input, and some of you have been SO sweet- your comments lighten up my day and remind me that people dont have to put up with these circumstances- as someone said - my soon to be ex husband could of quite easily tried to move for me and my child to australia and I would have happily helped him out if he was willing to sacrifice what I sacrificed to move here- I need my family, and need to give my child the best possible life. He didnt appreciate me moving here for him and giving up my life- which I still to this day dont regret, I moved here for him, I loved him and was happy to give up my family and carear to be with him- its amazing when you put the shoe on the other foot and see what they would sacrifice for you. We are such strong people that go through this visa process- normally the partner see's this...unfortunately mine decided that I wasnt enough.

Again I am not keeping him from her, however I will be exiting this country as I moved here for him- not for anything else, she will be born in Australia and if he wants some kind of custody- he can go through the australian courts. He has however shown no interest in doing so.

Thanks again

Thank you for your response- in regards to me driving him away- he has been cheating on me since before we were married/engaged - he shouldn't of proposed to me if he was going to be unfaithful.
I work a great job and don't rely on him for money- I paid for all of my visa process and paid to come over to live with him.
I loved this man and believed that he loved me too- it is unfortunate that my marriage is tainted with lies.
He wasn't going to tell me of this other woman- he admited he was never going to tell me- this woman told me- she also is as sick as she knew he was married and that I was pregnant.
He wants nothing to do with me- as I said in my previous comment I was willing to try save my marriage- I loved this man
However I need to go back to have a better support system. I am not doing this for revenge, he has made it clear he doesn't want to be apart of mine or my child's life- he is still seeing this woman and is becoming more and more hateful as it is coming close to my departure.
I am only questioning the visa process as I do had a job willing to take me back over here with the oppertunity of growth and promotions- and I have friends. I would never want to take a child away from their biological father- but in all reality- he has made no effort or no comments regarding being apart of her life.
I will maintain to send photos to him and his family- right now I am looking out for the safety/sanity and support that myself and child need at this time.
Thank you to everyone that has posted lovely comments- it really does get me through the day knowing there are people out there that care.

Thankyou everyone for your responces.
I am planning to move back to australia in 20 days- my flight is booked and my parents are flying over to assist me in the move.

My soon to be ex husband has been mentally abusing me for a while..... He is being HORRIBLE in this whole situation and hasnt asked once about the baby since everything has come out.
He has another biological child in this state and has NOTHING to do with her- I knew about her before the marriage and NEVER told him he couldnt see her- he is the type of person where its "out of sight- out of mind."

I do have friends here- however his family have decided to hide from this situation and wont call me or check up on me. I have tried everything- and I was even considering coming back after giving birth to my baby girl in May....
I spoke with my husband and told him that I would be willing to work on our relationship for the sake of our child if he was willing to fight for our marriage and show me he wanted to change his ways and get proffesional help. Instead he decided to make leaving the country EASY- he has threatened me, mentally abused me, left dirty womens underware in my underware drawer, is still seeing this other woman and is accusing me of trying to get him fired from his job- why would I want this if I eventually wanted child support?!?!?!?!?!

I have weighed all my options and am leaving- I will be having the child in Australia and will be filing for divorce....I will be getting something drawn up to where he understands that I am having the child in Australia- therefore not kidnapping.

My question now is not what I should do...but what will happen with my permanent residency green card? My "conditional 2 year one" expired last august and I went in for biometrics in November- everything is being processed...but what happens if i get a divorce in the mean time before recieving interview/green card????

aRGHHH

Thanks for your support xxxx MUCH LOVE

Wow, thankyou everyone for your input.
I too believe a child should have both parents in their lifes, however when one doesnt want to be apart of the childs life- why should I force it?
The soon to be ex husband/childs biological father will be able to visit her as often as he likes- I am not going to keep him from his child. I will also be coming back to the states hopefully once a year as I want to see those that have helped me out through this trying time.
I have even invited him to come to the birth of his child- his reponce "I need more time to work on myself, and focus on myself before anything else" meanwhile I see his debit transactions where his mistress lives.

To the person saying there is two sides to every story...I have asked my soon to be ex-husband if i did anything wrong...his responce "no, nothing" he was just being selfish.
I havnt been vicious in this entire process, I havnt even lashed out at the woman who participated in the affair- even though she told me to "get over it, and move back to australia"
I have been very civil as I cannot risk the health of my unborn child with me stressing.

I will be seing an immigration lawyer and a divorce lawyer this monday with the assistance of my mother and father who are flying in on sunday. My child deserves the best support system possible- the father had his chance to right his wrongs- appoligize and ask about his child. He refuses to speak of his child and is mainly concerned about who gets our dog.

Thankyou again for your input, and some of you have been SO sweet- your comments lighten up my day and remind me that people dont have to put up with these circumstances- as someone said - my soon to be ex husband could of quite easily tried to move for me and my child to australia and I would have happily helped him out if he was willing to sacrifice what I sacrificed to move here- I need my family, and need to give my child the best possible life. He didnt appreciate me moving here for him and giving up my life- which I still to this day dont regret, I moved here for him, I loved him and was happy to give up my family and carear to be with him- its amazing when you put the shoe on the other foot and see what they would sacrifice for you. We are such strong people that go through this visa process- normally the partner see's this...unfortunately mine decided that I wasnt enough.

Again I am not keeping him from her, however I will be exiting this country as I moved here for him- not for anything else, she will be born in Australia and if he wants some kind of custody- he can go through the australian courts. He has however shown no interest in doing so.

Thanks again

Wow, thankyou everyone for your input.
I too believe a child should have both parents in their lifes, however when one doesnt want to be apart of the childs life- why should I force it?
The soon to be ex husband/childs biological father will be able to visit her as often as he likes- I am not going to keep him from his child. I will also be coming back to the states hopefully once a year as I want to see those that have helped me out through this trying time.
I have even invited him to come to the birth of his child- his reponce "I need more time to work on myself, and focus on myself before anything else" meanwhile I see his debit transactions where his mistress lives.

To the person saying there is two sides to every story...I have asked my soon to be ex-husband if i did anything wrong...his responce "no, nothing" he was just being selfish.
I havnt been vicious in this entire process, I havnt even lashed out at the woman who participated in the affair- even though she told me to "get over it, and move back to australia"
I have been very civil as I cannot risk the health of my unborn child with me stressing.

I will be seing an immigration lawyer and a divorce lawyer this monday with the assistance of my mother and father who are flying in on sunday. My child deserves the best support system possible- the father had his chance to right his wrongs- appoligize and ask about his child. He refuses to speak of his child and is mainly concerned about who gets our dog.

Thankyou again for your input, and some of you have been SO sweet- your comments lighten up my day and remind me that people dont have to put up with these circumstances- as someone said - my soon to be ex husband could of quite easily tried to move for me and my child to australia and I would have happily helped him out if he was willing to sacrifice what I sacrificed to move here- I need my family, and need to give my child the best possible life. He didnt appreciate me moving here for him and giving up my life- which I still to this day dont regret, I moved here for him, I loved him and was happy to give up my family and carear to be with him- its amazing when you put the shoe on the other foot and see what they would sacrifice for you. We are such strong people that go through this visa process- normally the partner see's this...unfortunately mine decided that I wasnt enough.

Again I am not keeping him from her, however I will be exiting this country as I moved here for him- not for anything else, she will be born in Australia and if he wants some kind of custody- he can go through the australian courts. He has however shown no interest in doing so.

Thanks again

Wow, thankyou everyone for your input.
I too believe a child should have both parents in their lifes, however when one doesnt want to be apart of the childs life- why should I force it?
The soon to be ex husband/childs biological father will be able to visit her as often as he likes- I am not going to keep him from his child. I will also be coming back to the states hopefully once a year as I want to see those that have helped me out through this trying time.
I have even invited him to come to the birth of his child- his reponce "I need more time to work on myself, and focus on myself before anything else" meanwhile I see his debit transactions where his mistress lives.

To the person saying there is two sides to every story...I have asked my soon to be ex-husband if i did anything wrong...his responce "no, nothing" he was just being selfish.
I havnt been vicious in this entire process, I havnt even lashed out at the woman who participated in the affair- even though she told me to "get over it, and move back to australia"
I have been very civil as I cannot risk the health of my unborn child with me stressing.

I will be seing an immigration lawyer and a divorce lawyer this monday with the assistance of my mother and father who are flying in on sunday. My child deserves the best support system possible- the father had his chance to right his wrongs- appoligize and ask about his child. He refuses to speak of his child and is mainly concerned about who gets our dog.

Thankyou again for your input, and some of you have been SO sweet- your comments lighten up my day and remind me that people dont have to put up with these circumstances- as someone said - my soon to be ex husband could of quite easily tried to move for me and my child to australia and I would have happily helped him out if he was willing to sacrifice what I sacrificed to move here- I need my family, and need to give my child the best possible life. He didnt appreciate me moving here for him and giving up my life- which I still to this day dont regret, I moved here for him, I loved him and was happy to give up my family and carear to be with him- its amazing when you put the shoe on the other foot and see what they would sacrifice for you. We are such strong people that go through this visa process- normally the partner see's this...unfortunately mine decided that I wasnt enough.

Again I am not keeping him from her, however I will be exiting this country as I moved here for him- not for anything else, she will be born in Australia and if he wants some kind of custody- he can go through the australian courts. He has however shown no interest in doing so.

Thanks again

Wow, thankyou everyone for your input.
I too believe a child should have both parents in their lifes, however when one doesnt want to be apart of the childs life- why should I force it?
The soon to be ex husband/childs biological father will be able to visit her as often as he likes- I am not going to keep him from his child. I will also be coming back to the states hopefully once a year as I want to see those that have helped me out through this trying time.
I have even invited him to come to the birth of his child- his reponce "I need more time to work on myself, and focus on myself before anything else" meanwhile I see his debit transactions where his mistress lives.

To the person saying there is two sides to every story...I have asked my soon to be ex-husband if i did anything wrong...his responce "no, nothing" he was just being selfish.
I havnt been vicious in this entire process, I havnt even lashed out at the woman who participated in the affair- even though she told me to "get over it, and move back to australia"
I have been very civil as I cannot risk the health of my unborn child with me stressing.

I will be seing an immigration lawyer and a divorce lawyer this monday with the assistance of my mother and father who are flying in on sunday. My child deserves the best support system possible- the father had his chance to right his wrongs- appoligize and ask about his child. He refuses to speak of his child and is mainly concerned about who gets our dog.

Thankyou again for your input, and some of you have been SO sweet- your comments lighten up my day and remind me that people dont have to put up with these circumstances- as someone said - my soon to be ex husband could of quite easily tried to move for me and my child to australia and I would have happily helped him out if he was willing to sacrifice what I sacrificed to move here- I need my family, and need to give my child the best possible life. He didnt appreciate me moving here for him and giving up my life- which I still to this day dont regret, I moved here for him, I loved him and was happy to give up my family and carear to be with him- its amazing when you put the shoe on the other foot and see what they would sacrifice for you. We are such strong people that go through this visa process- normally the partner see's this...unfortunately mine decided that I wasnt enough.

Again I am not keeping him from her, however I will be exiting this country as I moved here for him- not for anything else, she will be born in Australia and if he wants some kind of custody- he can go through the australian courts. He has however shown no interest in doing so.

Thanks again

Thank you for your response- in regards to me driving him away- he has been cheating on me since before we were married/engaged - he shouldn't of proposed to me if he was going to be unfaithful.
I work a great job and don't rely on him for money- I paid for all of my visa process and paid to come over to live with him.
I loved this man and believed that he loved me too- it is unfortunate that my marriage is tainted with lies.
He wasn't going to tell me of this other woman- he admited he was never going to tell me- this woman told me- she also is as sick as she knew he was married and that I was pregnant.
He wants nothing to do with me- as I said in my previous comment I was willing to try save my marriage- I loved this man
However I need to go back to have a better support system. I am not doing this for revenge, he has made it clear he doesn't want to be apart of mine or my child's life- he is still seeing this woman and is becoming more and more hateful as it is coming close to my departure.
I am only questioning the visa process as I do had a job willing to take me back over here with the oppertunity of growth and promotions- and I have friends. I would never want to take a child away from their biological father- but in all reality- he has made no effort or no comments regarding being apart of her life.
I will maintain to send photos to him and his family- right now I am looking out for the safety/sanity and support that myself and child need at this time.
Thank you to everyone that has posted lovely comments- it really does get me through the day knowing there are people out there that care.

Thank you for your response- in regards to me driving him away- he has been cheating on me since before we were married/engaged - he shouldn't of proposed to me if he was going to be unfaithful.
I work a great job and don't rely on him for money- I paid for all of my visa process and paid to come over to live with him.
I loved this man and believed that he loved me too- it is unfortunate that my marriage is tainted with lies.
He wasn't going to tell me of this other woman- he admited he was never going to tell me- this woman told me- she also is as sick as she knew he was married and that I was pregnant.
He wants nothing to do with me- as I said in my previous comment I was willing to try save my marriage- I loved this man
However I need to go back to have a better support system. I am not doing this for revenge, he has made it clear he doesn't want to be apart of mine or my child's life- he is still seeing this woman and is becoming more and more hateful as it is coming close to my departure.
I am only questioning the visa process as I do had a job willing to take me back over here with the oppertunity of growth and promotions- and I have friends. I would never want to take a child away from their biological father- but in all reality- he has made no effort or no comments regarding being apart of her life.
I will maintain to send photos to him and his family- right now I am looking out for the safety/sanity and support that myself and child need at this time.
Thank you to everyone that has posted lovely comments- it really does get me through the day knowing there are people out there that care.

Thankyou everyone for your responces.
I am planning to move back to australia in 20 days- my flight is booked and my parents are flying over to assist me in the move.

My soon to be ex husband has been mentally abusing me for a while..... He is being HORRIBLE in this whole situation and hasnt asked once about the baby since everything has come out.
He has another biological child in this state and has NOTHING to do with her- I knew about her before the marriage and NEVER told him he couldnt see her- he is the type of person where its "out of sight- out of mind."

I do have friends here- however his family have decided to hide from this situation and wont call me or check up on me. I have tried everything- and I was even considering coming back after giving birth to my baby girl in May....
I spoke with my husband and told him that I would be willing to work on our relationship for the sake of our child if he was willing to fight for our marriage and show me he wanted to change his ways and get proffesional help. Instead he decided to make leaving the country EASY- he has threatened me, mentally abused me, left dirty womens underware in my underware drawer, is still seeing this other woman and is accusing me of trying to get him fired from his job- why would I want this if I eventually wanted child support?!?!?!?!?!

I have weighed all my options and am leaving- I will be having the child in Australia and will be filing for divorce....I will be getting something drawn up to where he understands that I am having the child in Australia- therefore not kidnapping.

My question now is not what I should do...but what will happen with my permanent residency green card? My "conditional 2 year one" expired last august and I went in for biometrics in November- everything is being processed...but what happens if i get a divorce in the mean time before recieving interview/green card????

aRGHHH

Thanks for your support xxxx MUCH LOVE

Thankyou everyone for your responces.
I am planning to move back to australia in 20 days- my flight is booked and my parents are flying over to assist me in the move.

My soon to be ex husband has been mentally abusing me for a while..... He is being HORRIBLE in this whole situation and hasnt asked once about the baby since everything has come out.
He has another biological child in this state and has NOTHING to do with her- I knew about her before the marriage and NEVER told him he couldnt see her- he is the type of person where its "out of sight- out of mind."

I do have friends here- however his family have decided to hide from this situation and wont call me or check up on me. I have tried everything- and I was even considering coming back after giving birth to my baby girl in May....
I spoke with my husband and told him that I would be willing to work on our relationship for the sake of our child if he was willing to fight for our marriage and show me he wanted to change his ways and get proffesional help. Instead he decided to make leaving the country EASY- he has threatened me, mentally abused me, left dirty womens underware in my underware drawer, is still seeing this other woman and is accusing me of trying to get him fired from his job- why would I want this if I eventually wanted child support?!?!?!?!?!

I have weighed all my options and am leaving- I will be having the child in Australia and will be filing for divorce....I will be getting something drawn up to where he understands that I am having the child in Australia- therefore not kidnapping.

My question now is not what I should do...but what will happen with my permanent residency green card? My "conditional 2 year one" expired last august and I went in for biometrics in November- everything is being processed...but what happens if i get a divorce in the mean time before recieving interview/green card????

aRGHHH

Thanks for your support xxxx MUCH LOVE

Thankyou everyone for your responces.
I am planning to move back to australia in 20 days- my flight is booked and my parents are flying over to assist me in the move.

My soon to be ex husband has been mentally abusing me for a while..... He is being HORRIBLE in this whole situation and hasnt asked once about the baby since everything has come out.
He has another biological child in this state and has NOTHING to do with her- I knew about her before the marriage and NEVER told him he couldnt see her- he is the type of person where its "out of sight- out of mind."

I do have friends here- however his family have decided to hide from this situation and wont call me or check up on me. I have tried everything- and I was even considering coming back after giving birth to my baby girl in May....
I spoke with my husband and told him that I would be willing to work on our relationship for the sake of our child if he was willing to fight for our marriage and show me he wanted to change his ways and get proffesional help. Instead he decided to make leaving the country EASY- he has threatened me, mentally abused me, left dirty womens underware in my underware drawer, is still seeing this other woman and is accusing me of trying to get him fired from his job- why would I want this if I eventually wanted child support?!?!?!?!?!

I have weighed all my options and am leaving- I will be having the child in Australia and will be filing for divorce....I will be getting something drawn up to where he understands that I am having the child in Australia- therefore not kidnapping.

My question now is not what I should do...but what will happen with my permanent residency green card? My "conditional 2 year one" expired last august and I went in for biometrics in November- everything is being processed...but what happens if i get a divorce in the mean time before recieving interview/green card????

aRGHHH

Thanks for your support xxxx MUCH LOVE

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