Sam and Fen

We have used Western Union and the Money can be picked up at a Chinese Post Office.

Paypal is another option tough I have never used it.

There was a thread about this topic a while back and this what I remember from it.

When you are serving over seas it is technically considered US soil and your CO/Base will have to give your wife papers that she will have to use to go to the UK.

They change rules with each government change ... if s/he has multiple entry tourist visa then no issue...

Yup. Mera Bharat Mahan. They can complicate any thing and every thing.

The only constant with every Government change are the bozos at CGI-NY.

Never mind, looks like the restrictions have been lifted, so he should be fine.

http://www.indiacgny.org/pages.php?id=646

I think there is no issue if he is an Indian born US citizen

It will not be an issue only if he has a PIO or an OCI card, he can come and go as many times as he pleases. The op mentioned he has a Tourist visa so the rules surrounding entry on a Tourist visa would apply to him.

After the Terror attacks in Bombay the Indian Government put some restrictions on how frequently you can enter on a Tourist visa.

He should check with the Consualte to see what the requirements are.

No matter who you use to ship the problem will be at Chinese Customs. Your fiancee will have to pay duty on it before it will be released by them to her and she will need to know whats in the package and what the value is.

This is what happend when I shipped a phone and some other items for my then fiancee for CNY.

Take a look at wes.org

My wife has none of these problems except 6. Lucky me? Or maybe I'm in for a big surprise when she transforms on US soil.

Like elephants, Chinese women have two sets of teeth, one for show and one to chew.

Awww, I feel like giving you a hug just to make you feel better.

Reminds me of a funny story, I used to work at a small company where most of the staff was female and over time we became very very good friends. We always used to hang out at a place by the Long Island Sound.

After I left and a few years later I went to work for a start up and I took the guys down to this hang out by the Sound. Imagine my suprise when I ran into 8/10 of these girls down there. They all took turns hugging me and kissing me multile times (right in front of their husbands) as we had not seen each other for years and lost touch.

Imagine what it did to my reputation at the new work place.

Over time I have heard some common themes about Chinese Women from American men marrried to them. May be this will help the Op better understand his wife and please I do not mean to offend any one, please.

1. Clean freaks and their way is the only way how things should be cleaned. I know a guy whos wife wipes every thing with bleach once a month.

2. They never ever aplogise or say sorry about any thing, may be in their actions but never in words.

3. Chinese womans approach to marriage out side of China is what I would call pragmatic. Find a nice guy who can care for them, marry him and then fall in love with him.

4. They are only here because of you, for example, once I am 6 feet under my wife will be on the first flight back to China.

5. If you love them and care for them they will return it back to you a 100 times over.

6. They will always find something to complain about.

Here's my last 15 minutes. I just washed the dinner dishes and got bitched out. I Cleaned the crockpot. I'm not allowed to use dish soap , because its poison. She don't like the way I wash dishes, clean the floor, wash clothes, what Tupperware I use, anything. I'm literally not joking . She wanted to know what I was putting in the food. She came out on the porch to tell me a Tupperware was cracked and I shouldn't of used it. To put the food away. But a few weeks ago I said to trash it and she said no. I was told I'm lazy, dirty and messy. I stepped in a spot of water and will dirty the whole house. I cant figure out how she uses the sink. Half the dishes in each side and if they get mixed she washes them and boils some silverware. The housing thing is about her apartment in China. There's no maintenance , painting, walls or wood, or anything because there's no yards to cut, or wood, or heat, or trees, or underground pipes for water and heat, Or snow to tear things up. So no maintenance. So she don't like the housing here. The weather. Or that we have to drive everywhere. But she liked the indoor heat and hot showers all winter!!

And we are in the city. On a very nice street. But she hates it. But she just figured out that leaving the cities in the States is better. Verses staying in the city centers in China. I don't complain about anything Chinese. I married a Chinese woman. And I like her the way she is. But its not working for her.

Sorry, not much here I have not already heard from my wife.

My attitude is simple, you don't like how I do it, no problem, you do it dear, I will park my fat #### in front of the TV with a cold beer in one hand and remote in the other. Win Win.

As far as going back to China, I would wait for the GC and then buy her a return ticket with an open return date, she might need a reality check. If she comes back she wont conplain any more (at least not as much).

The first year of our marriage was not easy, we had constant arguments and to top it up my daughter was going off to College and I was on the phone with the ex a lot. There were days I wanted to chuck her out the window and I am sure she felt the same way, 4 years later there are stll times I want to chuck her out the window but then I think I would be lost with out her.

I will give credit to my wife tough, she kept her self busy walking every where she wanted to go, she even walked to the mall, which was a good 5 miles from where we lived.

I pulled some strings and got her a job at Kolhs and she eventually made some friends with Chinese women and got her self a job at a factory working the second shift.

There is a huge culture shift for them, When she started working at the factory I signed her up for direct deposit, she was pissed that she was not getting the pay check in hand that she could physically take to the bank.

Hang in there and as others have said she needs to do something, an idle mind is a devils workshop.

Ever seen the movie "Fools rush in"?

Try the Chinese Embassy/Consulate and ask them if they will issue a new passport or endorse the old Passport when the name change is done.

Congrats!

Now enjoy the last few days of your life as you know it and get ready for your training.

Chinese citizens can get a passport like document that allows them into HK for upto 7 days but if you have a confirmed plane ticket out of HK and a visa to the country of destination you do not need anything to enter HK (I beleive you have to be out of HK within 7 days, but you might want to check on that)

Reading your original post again, looks like he wont need a transit visa.

All this applies to him.

• you arrive and depart by air
• have a confirmed onward flight which leaves within 24 hours
• have the right documents for your destination (eg a visa for that country)

and from the second list this also applies.

you’re travelling to Australia, Canada, New Zealand or the USA and have a valid visa for that country.

Tecnically he has an IR1 (Green Card) and should not need a transit visa.

It really depends on the agent and what he knows about IR1 so to be sfae get a Transit visa.

Traditional MedicAid laws vary from State to State for GC holders.

As far as Obamacare is concerned you have to have had a GC for 5 years before you can qualify for MedicAid, assuming your state is expanding MedicAid under the ACA.

Adding spouses name to a passport has no effect. As long as the name on the passport matches the name on your CR1 application and marriage certificate you are good to go (read maiden name vs married name)

We can only guess as to why the scars raise a red flag.

I would get in touch with the Panel Physician and he can best tell you what exactly needs to be done since there are no records available.

Good Luck.

Thanks to all. A lot of different thoughts.

So her friend went to find her yesterday and she was not there. Her family said she is having psychological problems. Of course that could amount to anything. They told her friend that she does not want to come to the U.S. anymore and wants a divorce. This is her family talking. Who I'm not clear, her friend said her cousin.

Another tidbit to this saga is, about three months ago, she said she bought a house in Nanning, but didn't quite have enough cash so she borrowed some from her sister. The sister that she works for. She said she did it for an investment. IF this is all true, it would be a great little piece of leverage over her now.

So what I am going to do is, draft a letter, have it translated so there are no mistakes in meaning, send it addressed to her at the storehouse, (which is a proven address) explaining and reassuring and asking for an invitation letter for my new visa.

If this doesn't bear fruit, I think it's the end of the line.

Just a suggestion, If you are planning on going there surprise her so she does not have any time to think what she or her family are going to say to you. Maybe her friend can send you an invitation letter.

Good Luck.

Personally I don't think you are being scammed. If that were the case she would go threw the process and come here.

IPhone is a standard issue for Chinese women and it is not uncommon to pay a dowry for a bride in China.

There is something else going on that she is not telling you, maybe her family is against it or she is just plain scared to leave everything she knows.

I would wait a few weeks before doing anything. JMO.