Chip+Susanne

2009:
(qouted Al's post from russiandiscussionwomen.com)2011:
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(also Al's post on russiandiscussionwomen.com)It's funny how story changes, isn't it?
(both Al's posts on russiandiscussionwomen.com):You don't stay together because you "promised", you stay together because you want to be together.
Creepy.

These are Al's opinions (just in one message) of the members of a discussion group.This is what he says about a woman to whom he regularly professed his love?

Just to make sure you understand, I called your post retarded, not you as a person.
And that was not trying to be true, it was accusing others for something they might not do at all. It is an insult to everyone who came to the US for the right reasons, as opposed to you. I agree with the others here who replied to you as well. Like them, I too married a person and not the country... I'm sorry for you if your life sucked (in your opinion) where you came from, but I love my home country. I came here to be with my wife, not because life would be better. Sure, Hawaii is a little paradise, but it is paradise without any of my friends or relatives. The only two person I have here are my wife and my baby daughter and if they, for example, lived in the Philippines (I'm using this as you apparently didn't like it there), then I would follow them there too if I had to.
Then to mention, like "Mrs.Finland-USA" did, the health care, education, social services and all that. It was either free or just dirt cheap in my own country compared to the US. Sure, life is great over here in the US, especially here in Hawaii, but it was also great where I came from. I had a great job with a good income, a very nice home, nice car etc etc and I have sold all of that, and I had to say goodbye to friends, family, memories and so on, to go into the unknown. While I will not go into too much details, I lived the life over there and gave that all up to be with my wife. Eventually I arrived here with two suitcases, and two small boxes that I had shipped earlier, full of personal belongings. Other than that I had nothing anymore, while I basically had it all. Do you really think I would have given all of that up just to move to another country where I had to start on the bottom again while I was already on the top over there? Do you think I would do such a thing if I thought she didn't love me? As a matter of fact, the simple fact that my wife did not speak my language (while I do speak English) and the hard immigration laws in my country (since a LOT of people want to go there) were the biggest reasons why we chose to live in the US instead (we did look at options to live in my country at first). And believe me, if I ever break up with my wife, which I certainly do not hope for, then I would not stay here but I would fly back to my old country on one of the first available flights (where I would have to start all over once again). It might be hard for you to understand, but not everyone is disappointed in how life was in their own country, and certainly not everyone comes to the US just to be able to live in the US. You must really have the wrong priorities.
If you tried to be 'true' with what you said in your post, you wouldn't even be in the US through marriage as you apparently are using your spouse for a different goal than just to be with him/her. As a matter of fact, if you stand by what you posted, then this is certainly not being 'true' as it would mean that you have been lying to not only your spouse (unless he/she is in it) but also to the immigration officers. That is NOT called 'trying to be true'.
And then you thinking that anything we say here is not true, that is just a plain insult to any of us who came here for the one they love.

This must be the most retarded post I've read so far..
Let me just say that if things would not go right with my wife and me, I would be going back to my old country on the first available plane. Not everyone came to the US only so they could live here, like you might have done as one could imagine when reading your post. I, and many people alike, came here only with the intention to marry and be our beloved ones, not because we wanted to live in the US.
If you think any different, then I feel sorry for your spouse as you might be married to him/her for the wrong reasons.

CONGRATS!!!!!!!! Finally some movement this week. Hope next week they keep them coming.

Congrats to all of you Vermont filers! All of this is making this board a much happier place. I wish y'all the best the rest of the way!

Congratulations everyone! So nice to see some movement!
And remember,

Geez Louise
We don't. We man up, quit whining, and wait it out like everbody else.

I cried too so much last time when I had to leave him (in November after Thanksgiving). He still kept it together but as soon as he got to the car he cried really loud
Soon we will be with our loved ones and don't have to say goodbye anymore!!

AI, your last response did nothing but prove my point of having choice. YOU are making choices that you subsequently have to live with. That's the bottom line.
There is waiting in everything we do and should YOU decide to continue with the US immigration process I can guarantee this won't be the last time where "waiting" presents itself.
I won't continue to go back and forth with you as I CHOOSE to do something more constructive and rewarding with my time... continue to prepare (for the life I will have with my fiancé) as I WAIT.

Funny thing about the "quote feature", when quoting someone it usually means you are commenting on exactly what the person has said, not on imaginary words. Nowhere in my post did I say VSC was a choice. I said we chose to engage in this [b]process[/b]. We ALL individually made the choice to have our loved ones here with us. So that means we take the good with the bad.
As far as the Microsoft comment, I'll just pretend that you have not heard of a Mac. (Again with the choices, see how that works)?

I don't expect popularity points here but we ALL made a choice and that choice was to engage in this process. As adults we have been exposed to "the system" more than once so this whole thing should not be a surprise. It's the way of this country we live in. Accept it or be miserable for the rest of your life.
What good is it to CONSTANTLY complain about how VSC is ruining your lives? It's healthy to vent every now and then but when it becomes the ONLY thing you do, bitterness begins to sour you. You are no longer the person your fiancé(e) fell in love with once that happens. Why give someone or something that kind of power over you? It is a choice YOU make. Shoot, for every other choice that's taken away from me in this process, I'd much rather grab hold of what I can control myself.
No I am not the least bit happy that I have been waiting over 5 months but in the grand scheme of things this is but a minuscule amount of time. For THAT I rejoice.

I cried too so much last time when I had to leave him (in November after Thanksgiving). He still kept it together but as soon as he got to the car he cried really loud
Soon we will be with our loved ones and don't have to say goodbye anymore!!

I just pressed it too

Actually there is a +1 button down in the right hand corner. It doesn't do a whole lot but if enough people "+1" a post, it gets a star next to it and a label that says "popular" or something like that.