candn

I feel we're too hard on each other... Those of us who attempt to offer our thoughts and sometimes, we offer bad advise.. Let's keep this in perspective.. We aren't lawyers, but keep in mind that even lawyers offer bad and even illegal advise with the intention of lining thier pocket books and not so much to help others.. The majority of people on this forum have only sincere intentions to help.. We often are jumped on by other VJ'rs but nevertheless, the intentions are sincere..
I disagree with the way this whole issue was handled by katheryn, her response may have been a little too harsh. It is good the moderators point out when bad advice is given.. It may have been better handled a diferent way..
Dont Forget, This is a Free Forum that all can participate.. Unless VJ want's to restrict everyone from offering advice unless we meet some sort of prequalification, we just have to expect that some responses will be bad advise... However, people can and do benefit from VJ in a HUGE way.. I won't be the only once who'll say this, but for me, there is no possible way I would have gotten as far as I've gotten without the help of all of you.. I am extremely grateful for this forum... But I do realize, sometimes, I might get some bad information, so I need to review other resources as well.. I beleive my situation is typical across most others on this forum...
Loto, Please take this for what its worth, I appreciate you starting this thread, because, I think some have lost perspective, so this thread is a opportunity to discuss that..
I consider everyone here as a friend, that doesn't mean that I dont have a life, it's just is a testiment of the good people I've met though various discussions and the motives each of us have here are simply to help each other thought this process..
Kenny

In reading your story, you should be ashamed of yourself, and just go home. You mention that you husband sponsored “your” 4 year old son via the K2 process, but you seemed to have this major problem that he still takes car of his deceased ex's, child. That seems very cold and selfish to me.
It seems most of his so called “lies” are related to his trying to help the step daughter, and you seem to be very upset that he does, so I guess he thinks he needs to hide those details from you.
If I was your husband, under the same situation, I would tell you that is what I am doing, and that would be the end of the subject, maybe he has not bought you a ticket home yet, because he hopes you will grow up someday, and realize how childish your being. Maybe he has not process you AOS yet, is because why throw more money at a possible losing situation.
They say there is always two sides to every story, but in your case you seemed to be telling both sides very well, and you should be ashamed of your self, for not understanding his situation.

Here go again. Read this carefully: That is never going to happen... Although I think you could be just joking, I rather that and not you to be a real person who believe such thing is possible.

I think the site is becoming a battalion of hypocrites, Lotto has been very helpful to this site regardless of how correct he might have been or not, he does not deserve to be treated this way in the forums. If that's the way things are conducted in here and especially by the supposedly "moderators" I too do not want to be here.
The most reasonable thing to do would have to show Lotto in a conclusive matter how he erred in his advices if he did indeed!! I don't think his initial intent was to advise anyone to commit fraud, he was actually offering options. I have absolutely no interest in taking side here, I read the exchanges in the other thread and I still think it was unjust and unfair to treat him or anyone the way he was treated. Can anyone prove that his intentions was to advise of committing immigration fraud? [rhetorical question] hummm strange people in here for sure. I regret that he's leaving the forums I'd have hoped he would stay however if you go, all my best Lotto!!!! if you find an alternative please let's us know!
I see many in here believe they know more than anyone else and wouldn't accept anyone challenging their knowledges. What's the point of having a forum in the first place???
I don't want your replies or comments to this! KEEP IT TO YOURSELF for those of you who do NOT agree with me. Not interested in hearing your bla bla bla!!!
Good bye Lotto...if you decide to stay welcome back friend!!

Now you do get the stupid award. You just dont know when to quit.
You married her out of sympathy not love. You feel nothing but sorrow. You have a dim view of Thailand & its people. " These darkies" ? Did you think you could lead her out of that terrible country where she lived all her life & show her the promised land. Moses in America. Bloom? Only to die when reality sank in & she realised you are a racist amongst other things.
You expected a different place to sleep & eat would turn her into what your view of a good wife should be? Of course she doesnt want to leave the USA as long as she doesnt have to deal with you other than support. Who blew it? You or was it her. You went out to save the savages from themselves. You signed up for the event. She didnt come to the USA looking for you.
You mean that you were suprised to learn of the culture in Thailand. The poverty? The 4,000 year history of the country escaped you?
Fair? It isnt a baseball game. What to do? Simple. Cut her loose & let her find her own way just as she was doing when you decided to ignore the facts & intervien.
Loves you so much? Sure when she thinks the free ride is over. What did you expect her to do? You will be lucky if she gets on that plane.

The question then will be how will you keep your spouse to be from being a public charge in America and complete the Affidavit of Support when you can't afford a few fees? I am not saying that it isn't hideously expensive, but the government is going to think if you can't spring for the the $455 then you can hardly support someone else.

If you work with legal documents you should know that details are important.
SuicideBlonde (not the OP, but the OP's fiance) said they planned to get married, have the foreign spouse go back to Europe, and then apply for the K3. That indicates no intent to AOS immediately after the marriage.
Additionally, propagating incorrect information, whatever the context, is a bad idea. It's not illegal or fraud to enter as a visitor and get married. Period. It's only illegal to enter with immigrant intent on a non-immigrant visa, and apply for AOS. People should be corrected when they give incorrect information so that it doesn't result in misinformation being passed around. The threads here are not only for the benefit of the OP, but for all readers, who may be in different situations.