kennym

Guys
What about her Lawyer? Nobody, not even pure blooded harvard grad should be alone in court.. How can a judge allow anything to proceed and actually rule on anything if both parties aren't properly represented..
It doesn't take a real inteligent judge to see most people lack fundamental skills to manuever thru a complicated legal system much less someone with a language barrier..
What about her lawyer? I think someone who knows their way inside the legal system, should jump in and help.. In my mind, she should have never been alone in court..
Kenny

murysa
Personally my heart goes out to you.. I am hoping you can eventually get to a peaceful place in your life.. I know men like your (ex)-husband exists, but I beleive they are not typical. And you seem like a really genuine person and you (everyone) deserve and should find, down the road, a man who treats you like the person you are..
In terms of the attorney.. without searching through all your posts, is this an appointed attorney?
Shouldn't the judge had post-poned the hearing until the attorney was present?
You shouldnt feel bad about you confidence level in a court room.. Nobody feels confident in a court-room.. They can be intimidating and usually the discussion is over my head anyway... You need to push your lawyer to participate or see what can be done to get a advocate on your behalf..
Can any experts chime in and offer her some legal advise on what she should do to get proper representation in these preceedings? If I understood properly, it doesn't seem she was represented in her last meeting with the Judge. Couldn't her lawyer appeal the ruling based on the fact that she wasn't represented and wasn't qualified to present the facts in the court-room...
Any thoughts..
Kenny
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It's a long story.. Many pages of reading..
Dificult to summarize... If you dont want to read, not sure if any of us have the time to summarize it for you..
If you're interested, start at page 1...
Start here

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Man, sometimes hearing the stupidity of our judges just makes me sooo angry..
It's great to hear from you.. and it seems you're making real progress... I am sorry when the courts don't consider the history.. just wonder about the rationale behind those kinds of descisions..
Please continue to keep us updated...

Get a Lawyer to represent you in court, you can ask that your husband bare the costs of your Lawyer fees when all judgements have been set in place, also file for retroactive child support, you can ask that your husband pay child support up until your son graduates University, make sure he helps pay for child care, health insurance for your son and help with extra curricula activities your son may take up in the future. I know you said you were in the So Cal area, unfortunately I don't know anything about their legal/court system, but consult with a Lawyer and if necessary ask them to file a motion to delay the case if you feel you do not have enough time to get the necessary paperwork etc ready for court. Protect yourself at all costs, after all you have been through you need to look after yourself and your little boy, good luck

Guys
What about her Lawyer? Nobody, not even pure blooded harvard grad should be alone in court.. How can a judge allow anything to proceed and actually rule on anything if both parties aren't properly represented..
It doesn't take a real inteligent judge to see most people lack fundamental skills to manuever thru a complicated legal system much less someone with a language barrier..
What about her lawyer? I think someone who knows their way inside the legal system, should jump in and help.. In my mind, she should have never been alone in court..
Kenny

huh?
Somebody say something to deserve that?

What I hate is to hear that a common human requirement "medical care" can be sooo complex for many of us.. Whether the person is legal, USC, illegal, LPR or a cartoon character, I've always felt Medical Care is a god given right.. It shouldn't matter how much you make dont make or whatever..
I cant answer how to make it happen, and this isn't the thread for it, but I hate that a young couple has to struggle to figure out where to get the money to have a baby.. or a diabetic needs to figure out how to pay supplies or whatever..
The problems is complex.. Doctors are way over paid, pharmecueticals are all criminals, and the entire medical industry from the Medical school down to the bed sheet manufacturer needs to be put in place when it comes to prices and costs..
I have a short story, but this is a perfect example why we all struggle with things like this..
Years ago I was in Colombia working.. I became very sick with a severe infection.. My then fiance, now wife took me to the best Clinic in Medellin, Colombia. Although, My company provided me with Insurance which covered me anyplace in the world, I still must pay before I can be re-imbursed when outside the USA..
Well, they ran all kinds of test.. MRI, CAT Scan, EEG, EKGs, ABC's and PTA's you name it, they did it to me.. I was was scared to death I was gonna get better, but they were gonna take me straight to jail after leaving the hospital because I thought the bill was gonna be in the 15-20 K range..
I was admitted for a couple of days.. The hospital was gorgeous, almost country club style.. Ooh man, was I gonna pay.. After the treatment, I went to check out and talk to the business office about my bill and shockingly enough, the whole bill was less than 400 USD..
First class doctors, facility, staff, meals, and everything that goes with it.. I was thinking my fiance, was gonna have to find help for me at the Embassy, but can you immagine? what would that have cost in the US...
Why cant we control costs to at least something that's not so insane? We don't have the best medical system, we dont have the most sympathetic medical system. we dont have doctors that care, we just seem to tolerate the system and pay through the ying-yang for mediocre service..
I hope you guys find an answer, sorry for the rant..

What I hate is to hear that a common human requirement "medical care" can be sooo complex for many of us.. Whether the person is legal, USC, illegal, LPR or a cartoon character, I've always felt Medical Care is a god given right.. It shouldn't matter how much you make dont make or whatever..
I cant answer how to make it happen, and this isn't the thread for it, but I hate that a young couple has to struggle to figure out where to get the money to have a baby.. or a diabetic needs to figure out how to pay supplies or whatever..
The problems is complex.. Doctors are way over paid, pharmecueticals are all criminals, and the entire medical industry from the Medical school down to the bed sheet manufacturer needs to be put in place when it comes to prices and costs..
I have a short story, but this is a perfect example why we all struggle with things like this..
Years ago I was in Colombia working.. I became very sick with a severe infection.. My then fiance, now wife took me to the best Clinic in Medellin, Colombia. Although, My company provided me with Insurance which covered me anyplace in the world, I still must pay before I can be re-imbursed when outside the USA..
Well, they ran all kinds of test.. MRI, CAT Scan, EEG, EKGs, ABC's and PTA's you name it, they did it to me.. I was was scared to death I was gonna get better, but they were gonna take me straight to jail after leaving the hospital because I thought the bill was gonna be in the 15-20 K range..
I was admitted for a couple of days.. The hospital was gorgeous, almost country club style.. Ooh man, was I gonna pay.. After the treatment, I went to check out and talk to the business office about my bill and shockingly enough, the whole bill was less than 400 USD..
First class doctors, facility, staff, meals, and everything that goes with it.. I was thinking my fiance, was gonna have to find help for me at the Embassy, but can you immagine? what would that have cost in the US...
Why cant we control costs to at least something that's not so insane? We don't have the best medical system, we dont have the most sympathetic medical system. we dont have doctors that care, we just seem to tolerate the system and pay through the ying-yang for mediocre service..
I hope you guys find an answer, sorry for the rant..

What I hate is to hear that a common human requirement "medical care" can be sooo complex for many of us.. Whether the person is legal, USC, illegal, LPR or a cartoon character, I've always felt Medical Care is a god given right.. It shouldn't matter how much you make dont make or whatever..
I cant answer how to make it happen, and this isn't the thread for it, but I hate that a young couple has to struggle to figure out where to get the money to have a baby.. or a diabetic needs to figure out how to pay supplies or whatever..
The problems is complex.. Doctors are way over paid, pharmecueticals are all criminals, and the entire medical industry from the Medical school down to the bed sheet manufacturer needs to be put in place when it comes to prices and costs..
I have a short story, but this is a perfect example why we all struggle with things like this..
Years ago I was in Colombia working.. I became very sick with a severe infection.. My then fiance, now wife took me to the best Clinic in Medellin, Colombia. Although, My company provided me with Insurance which covered me anyplace in the world, I still must pay before I can be re-imbursed when outside the USA..
Well, they ran all kinds of test.. MRI, CAT Scan, EEG, EKGs, ABC's and PTA's you name it, they did it to me.. I was was scared to death I was gonna get better, but they were gonna take me straight to jail after leaving the hospital because I thought the bill was gonna be in the 15-20 K range..
I was admitted for a couple of days.. The hospital was gorgeous, almost country club style.. Ooh man, was I gonna pay.. After the treatment, I went to check out and talk to the business office about my bill and shockingly enough, the whole bill was less than 400 USD..
First class doctors, facility, staff, meals, and everything that goes with it.. I was thinking my fiance, was gonna have to find help for me at the Embassy, but can you immagine? what would that have cost in the US...
Why cant we control costs to at least something that's not so insane? We don't have the best medical system, we dont have the most sympathetic medical system. we dont have doctors that care, we just seem to tolerate the system and pay through the ying-yang for mediocre service..
I hope you guys find an answer, sorry for the rant..

what is this about?

Hi everybody.
Here's some update of what happened recently
Me and my son got accepted to some very good program, so we can live in a nice place for 18 months and have some help there too.
Just few days ago we had a hearing about custody and visitations. My husband brought a lawyer and won NOT supervised visits every other weekend (overnights). I was so upset... I had all records from the hospital about him assolting the child (but didn't have chance to show it!) and the judge also had the letter from mediator who was suggesting her to continue supervised visits for the dad. But I DONT KNOW why she ignored it. So the baby had first visit last weekend, the exchange went well.. I was trying to get a cop to go with me but this person was late so it was just me and husband. He was polite.
I still don't have an attorney, I was trying to get one but they need some minute of the last court hearing, have to go get it. For some reason they didn't have the filed court order this time so I was just running circles around trying to get what they didn't have.
The most important news is my immigration attorney filed my VAWA petition and we are just waiting for acceptance!
Iv read all your last posts. Thank you for sharing your own expirience, I wish I could spend more time reading the forum. But now I have to run.

What I hate is to hear that a common human requirement "medical care" can be sooo complex for many of us.. Whether the person is legal, USC, illegal, LPR or a cartoon character, I've always felt Medical Care is a god given right.. It shouldn't matter how much you make dont make or whatever..
I cant answer how to make it happen, and this isn't the thread for it, but I hate that a young couple has to struggle to figure out where to get the money to have a baby.. or a diabetic needs to figure out how to pay supplies or whatever..
The problems is complex.. Doctors are way over paid, pharmecueticals are all criminals, and the entire medical industry from the Medical school down to the bed sheet manufacturer needs to be put in place when it comes to prices and costs..
I have a short story, but this is a perfect example why we all struggle with things like this..
Years ago I was in Colombia working.. I became very sick with a severe infection.. My then fiance, now wife took me to the best Clinic in Medellin, Colombia. Although, My company provided me with Insurance which covered me anyplace in the world, I still must pay before I can be re-imbursed when outside the USA..
Well, they ran all kinds of test.. MRI, CAT Scan, EEG, EKGs, ABC's and PTA's you name it, they did it to me.. I was was scared to death I was gonna get better, but they were gonna take me straight to jail after leaving the hospital because I thought the bill was gonna be in the 15-20 K range..
I was admitted for a couple of days.. The hospital was gorgeous, almost country club style.. Ooh man, was I gonna pay.. After the treatment, I went to check out and talk to the business office about my bill and shockingly enough, the whole bill was less than 400 USD..
First class doctors, facility, staff, meals, and everything that goes with it.. I was thinking my fiance, was gonna have to find help for me at the Embassy, but can you immagine? what would that have cost in the US...
Why cant we control costs to at least something that's not so insane? We don't have the best medical system, we dont have the most sympathetic medical system. we dont have doctors that care, we just seem to tolerate the system and pay through the ying-yang for mediocre service..
I hope you guys find an answer, sorry for the rant..

What I hate is to hear that a common human requirement "medical care" can be sooo complex for many of us.. Whether the person is legal, USC, illegal, LPR or a cartoon character, I've always felt Medical Care is a god given right.. It shouldn't matter how much you make dont make or whatever..
I cant answer how to make it happen, and this isn't the thread for it, but I hate that a young couple has to struggle to figure out where to get the money to have a baby.. or a diabetic needs to figure out how to pay supplies or whatever..
The problems is complex.. Doctors are way over paid, pharmecueticals are all criminals, and the entire medical industry from the Medical school down to the bed sheet manufacturer needs to be put in place when it comes to prices and costs..
I have a short story, but this is a perfect example why we all struggle with things like this..
Years ago I was in Colombia working.. I became very sick with a severe infection.. My then fiance, now wife took me to the best Clinic in Medellin, Colombia. Although, My company provided me with Insurance which covered me anyplace in the world, I still must pay before I can be re-imbursed when outside the USA..
Well, they ran all kinds of test.. MRI, CAT Scan, EEG, EKGs, ABC's and PTA's you name it, they did it to me.. I was was scared to death I was gonna get better, but they were gonna take me straight to jail after leaving the hospital because I thought the bill was gonna be in the 15-20 K range..
I was admitted for a couple of days.. The hospital was gorgeous, almost country club style.. Ooh man, was I gonna pay.. After the treatment, I went to check out and talk to the business office about my bill and shockingly enough, the whole bill was less than 400 USD..
First class doctors, facility, staff, meals, and everything that goes with it.. I was thinking my fiance, was gonna have to find help for me at the Embassy, but can you immagine? what would that have cost in the US...
Why cant we control costs to at least something that's not so insane? We don't have the best medical system, we dont have the most sympathetic medical system. we dont have doctors that care, we just seem to tolerate the system and pay through the ying-yang for mediocre service..
I hope you guys find an answer, sorry for the rant..

huh?
Somebody say something to deserve that?

What I hate is to hear that a common human requirement "medical care" can be sooo complex for many of us.. Whether the person is legal, USC, illegal, LPR or a cartoon character, I've always felt Medical Care is a god given right.. It shouldn't matter how much you make dont make or whatever..
I cant answer how to make it happen, and this isn't the thread for it, but I hate that a young couple has to struggle to figure out where to get the money to have a baby.. or a diabetic needs to figure out how to pay supplies or whatever..
The problems is complex.. Doctors are way over paid, pharmecueticals are all criminals, and the entire medical industry from the Medical school down to the bed sheet manufacturer needs to be put in place when it comes to prices and costs..
I have a short story, but this is a perfect example why we all struggle with things like this..
Years ago I was in Colombia working.. I became very sick with a severe infection.. My then fiance, now wife took me to the best Clinic in Medellin, Colombia. Although, My company provided me with Insurance which covered me anyplace in the world, I still must pay before I can be re-imbursed when outside the USA..
Well, they ran all kinds of test.. MRI, CAT Scan, EEG, EKGs, ABC's and PTA's you name it, they did it to me.. I was was scared to death I was gonna get better, but they were gonna take me straight to jail after leaving the hospital because I thought the bill was gonna be in the 15-20 K range..
I was admitted for a couple of days.. The hospital was gorgeous, almost country club style.. Ooh man, was I gonna pay.. After the treatment, I went to check out and talk to the business office about my bill and shockingly enough, the whole bill was less than 400 USD..
First class doctors, facility, staff, meals, and everything that goes with it.. I was thinking my fiance, was gonna have to find help for me at the Embassy, but can you immagine? what would that have cost in the US...
Why cant we control costs to at least something that's not so insane? We don't have the best medical system, we dont have the most sympathetic medical system. we dont have doctors that care, we just seem to tolerate the system and pay through the ying-yang for mediocre service..
I hope you guys find an answer, sorry for the rant..

You like scripture? Me too...
"But if any man does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. " 1 Timothy 5:8
"Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, " Ephesians 5:25
"Husbands, love your wives and do not be embittered against them. " Col 3:19
Ephesians 4:32 teaches, "forbear one another". This means to be gentle toward her. Control of temper, abstaining from physical violence and restraining a sharp tongue that makes one feel so inferior - are ways by which you can exhibit forbearance.
Not that the OP was thinking about scripture when they were making babies..
For those who need it;
Definition: embittered (Verb)
1.Cause (someone) to feel bitter or resentful.
2.Give a sharp or pungent taste or smell to.
Using scripture for only your benefit isn't fair.. You gotta apply all of it..
Marriage is a partnership... Not a slave/master relationship... I have never met any "credible" paster, priest or any clergy that feels that women are to be at the mans feet or that's it's ok to be demeaning to a woman..
But thats for those who use scripture to say women is to be subordinate to the "man" - that's simply horse doo doo..

She won't get alimony, you weren't married long enough. I suggest you speak to a lawyer and counter-sue including wanting money for legal fees and return of your rings, refund of flight to send her home etc etc. I don't know how successful you'll be but speak to your divorce attorney about what YOU are entitled to given she subjected you to fraud. What about child support? I hope you're suing her for child support.
Have you contacted ICE again to find out the status of your case against her? You said you sent evidence.. what evidence? Evidence of the cheating? Do you have anything that prove this relationship was for immigration purposes and not just that she's a sh*tty person? Do you have evidence of conversations where she states this was for immigration purposes? Anything like that?

It's already been said.. But just gotta say it again...
Why would you leave such an important document laying around?
:bonk:

It's already been said.. But just gotta say it again...
Why would you leave such an important document laying around?
:bonk:

I remember thinking these exact thoughts recently.. I wouldn't ever give relationship advise, but this is to let you know; my wife and went through some really rough times.. Some times, our fights were so bad, I figured I had made a terible mistake even though I knew my wife for a few years before we ever started dating, then dated for 2 years before starting the visa process..
The thing I am trying to say is; Cultural Adjustment and other emotional factors can make someone seem completely diferent. And we're clueless, because our conditioning as Americans makes us feel everyone is ready and anxious to come to the USA and be with rich americans.. But, that's not completely accurate..
It doesn't matter if the Beneficiary is from the USA, a dirt poor third world country, or any rich developed country, it's normal for a person (women especially) to want to be with someone who offers security and stability as well as feeling loved.. It doesn't matter where people are from.. Those are important factors to you, your wife and any normal person..
SO ask yourself before deciding you and your wife has changed;

Does she feel emotionally secure?
Does she feel supported?
Does she feel loved?
Does she feel free to chase her dreams?
Does she feel hopeful of a future with stability, security and love?
Does she feel you support her hopes and dreams?
Is there anything you are doing to make her feel insecure?
Is there anything you are doing to make her feel unsafe?
Is there anything you are doing to make her feel unappreciated?

I don't think we should ever fault anyone who enters enter into a relationship with a person for chance at a better life.. As long as love is part of it; people pursue opportunities for a better life all the time.. I personally feel that people often enter any relationship with the hopes that there is a better life in store... You can characterize however you want, but this is normal anywhere in the world...
So if you understand that, becoming a better husband is easier..

My wife and I are dealing with the same thing..
Her daughter is in Colombia, and has a very good father who she loves and he loves her.. So, we have no easy solution.. For us, my wife splits her time between Colombia and here.. 1-2 months at a time in Colombia 4-5 times per year.. Clearly it makes life very challenging.. She obviously cant work, because she isn't here long enough to settle into a job and cant work there for the same reason..
So, we do the best we can..

I remember thinking these exact thoughts recently.. I wouldn't ever give relationship advise, but this is to let you know; my wife and went through some really rough times.. Some times, our fights were so bad, I figured I had made a terible mistake even though I knew my wife for a few years before we ever started dating, then dated for 2 years before starting the visa process..
The thing I am trying to say is; Cultural Adjustment and other emotional factors can make someone seem completely diferent. And we're clueless, because our conditioning as Americans makes us feel everyone is ready and anxious to come to the USA and be with rich americans.. But, that's not completely accurate..
It doesn't matter if the Beneficiary is from the USA, a dirt poor third world country, or any rich developed country, it's normal for a person (women especially) to want to be with someone who offers security and stability as well as feeling loved.. It doesn't matter where people are from.. Those are important factors to you, your wife and any normal person..
SO ask yourself before deciding you and your wife has changed;

Does she feel emotionally secure?
Does she feel supported?
Does she feel loved?
Does she feel free to chase her dreams?
Does she feel hopeful of a future with stability, security and love?
Does she feel you support her hopes and dreams?
Is there anything you are doing to make her feel insecure?
Is there anything you are doing to make her feel unsafe?
Is there anything you are doing to make her feel unappreciated?

I don't think we should ever fault anyone who enters enter into a relationship with a person for chance at a better life.. As long as love is part of it; people pursue opportunities for a better life all the time.. I personally feel that people often enter any relationship with the hopes that there is a better life in store... You can characterize however you want, but this is normal anywhere in the world...
So if you understand that, becoming a better husband is easier..

You maybe right, but either way, it's gonna get hot. But my personal opinion, is this guy is a reject, and figured he could land a hotie for the price of a plane ticket and the cost of K1 Petition.. What he doesn't realize, Ukrainian, Colombian, or wherever. these women arent stupid, they're hopful that they'll meet a decent guy.. But too often they find the guy isn't what he pretended to be, and wise up to the game..
This comment is indicative of either a real @$$ or someone trolling... But, I have to say, hopefully is simply a stupid joke, but if this characters for real, I feel sorry for his fiancee..

You maybe right, but either way, it's gonna get hot. But my personal opinion, is this guy is a reject, and figured he could land a hotie for the price of a plane ticket and the cost of K1 Petition.. What he doesn't realize, Ukrainian, Colombian, or wherever. these women arent stupid, they're hopful that they'll meet a decent guy.. But too often they find the guy isn't what he pretended to be, and wise up to the game..
This comment is indicative of either a real @$$ or someone trolling... But, I have to say, hopefully is simply a stupid joke, but if this characters for real, I feel sorry for his fiancee..