Jonara

This is not the kind of question that has to be given much thought. It's like being asked what your name is. The moment you decide to marry someone, you pretty much have an idea in your head why you want to marry him and that's your true answer.

Good luck.

Laptops are common items in everyone's carry on bags these days. It's not a big deal. Let them scan it if they ask, if they don't then consider your welcome-to-america moment..well..peachy.

I'm filling out the I-129F form and on Part B question 7 it asks for Other Names Used. My fiancé has 3 middle names. Should I put those here, or should I put those names on an attached sheet and count them as middle names under question 1?

Thanks for your help!!

My fiance has no middle name at all. So I had to leave it blank and I've been wondering if that will be questioned too "ahhh RFE...you did not put his middle name..kaboom, blast. papow". Imagine all those little things that make us go bananas.

You sound very hopeful and positive anyway. Here I am about to enter my 4th month and getting antsy looking for some direction. There's NONE. In the meantime, my phone bill is skyrocketing and sleepless nights missing my beau. There's a light at the end of the tunnel... (well at least I keep telling myself that).

May you stay strong...it won't be long.

Sorry, I thought you applied for a CR-1 - which is where I got the 5 months from. But Nicoxcx is right, the processing dates are November 2008. Don't go too much by what they post on there.

Even so, calling is useless. All they will tell you is that you fall within "normal processing times".

Good luck.

Je sais! Merci bcp everyone!

Hate to be the bearer of negativity but in theory yes age is just a number but it will always be questionable whether you're applying for a visa or you happen to fall in love with older man/woman or for whatever reason. The society will always scorn on that and tend to wonder what forces of nature that drive 2 people with wide age gap to want to be together. Wouldn't you blink an eye if you have an 18 year old daughter who happens to fall in love with your next door neighbor who is 50 years old? I would and even if the man is a decent man, good natured, I will still say "What the heck?".

Separation is ok as long as we know for sure that in a few months we will be reunited. But that's not our reality. My life at this point depends on the govt. Quite hard to take... Not too long ago, I simply rely on the govt (local at least) to pick up the trash on Tuesdays. Ehhh? Now the stake is higher and my future is in their hands. [Mea culpa for being a joker... but I'm really dying inside. It is hard to be away from the love of your life].

Just keep singing this if I were you: "Imagine there's no countries" -J. Lennon

You can call USCIS for an update but unless you fall outside their 'processing times' which is now listed as 5 months, they cannot really do anything for you. We frequently call the USCIS help line the 'misinformation line' for a reason.

I am sorry it is taking so long. Chin up, there is an end to this beautiful journey!

Good luck

Hi "canadian wife"

Where did you see that it's now 5 months? Is it for I-129F? I checked out earlier and it's listed as "November 25, 2008"...which tells me that they are not meeting their target timeline(s). Thanks for your kind words.

Hello everyone,

I would like to thank everyone for being so helpful here on VJ.

I have been keeping an eye out on processing time in VSC based on the NO1 dates that most of us have recorded here. Do you think it is reasonable to follow up by say first or second week of July if I don't hear or receive NO2? By then it would have been 4 months since I filed and rather than being left in limbo, I'd like to get to the bottom of it.

Any thoughts?

Argh Love is pain!

My deepest condolences to her husband and her family. It is heartbreaking to hear such news.

tell u what redoing anything at that place makes me very afraid........but hey if it helps them find my case and deal with it i can wait 90 days lol

sara

I'd rather deal with a crappy website than deal with a long haul wait to get cases done. When you look at their current processing timeframes, it shows that they process H1B or any employment related visa faster than family related visa. What that tells me is it is more important to get work done than reuniting with your families. Pfff a website improvement is supposed to make things better? I'd have to revisit that in the next few month.

I did file a police report..and I just found this site today..I was trying to do this all on my own and it was really stressing me out. Today is one of those emotional I miss my baby days LOL I appriciate all replies. One thing we are really nervous trying to do this the right way so much to do it sometimes overwhelms me infact when i read on the next step theres so much i start to panic and i keep saying no just do this part and worry about the next part later. Im about to go to work..my last question is my fiance , he is younger than me. We met online and for 2 years we have been talking..(calling) skype, ventrillo game chat =P anyways I am worried about the age difference..plus the face i saw a post this morning that said if its female bring male to us it gets denied. I know im worring a lot and i havent even put in the packet yet. But..u dont know what a relief it is to find this site..so far already Its relieved my fears and helped me know how to put everything together Im about to head to work but Im so glad to have found u all I feel a bit better

Oh dear... are you kidding me? If I was not working during the day, then I'd probably have my very own "Oscarville" moment. It is really tough to be separated like that and being in the dark for sometime and waiting is also painful. We are on the same boat. Met my fiance online too, he is 5 years younger than me but I'm also in my early 30's (uhm considerably decent as my mom used to say). But again DON'T WORRY too much about those things and focus on the paperwork, get them right and submit asap. When you panic, you will more than likely to make mistakes in your paperwork. Good luck to all of us. I'm waiting here, almost growing cobwebs already... think positive and deal with setbacks as they come.

Happy Wednesday.

Harry and I are just now getting started on our k-1 pettition. I am in the USA and he is in Mauritius. Im really nervous about all of it as we have some special circumstantces to our case. ( I think anyways) Im just waiting on his letter of intent... I would have had him do it here when he was visiting but...I thought for some reason it had to be postmarked.. anyways he is doing that and sending it tomorrow and then I will be able to send out the package. My question/worry at this moment is.. I dont have a lot of photos of us. I pulled some off my camera but the day I took Harry to the airport I was in a really bad car accident and my camera was stolen from my car by the towing company. I was more upset about the pictures than I was the accident. Anyways I guess im really nervous about all of this as I think how much I want Harry here and I miss him so badly. Any encouragement? Suggestions

Hi there,

Provide whatever photos have at this point. Tons of photos are not the only proof of ongoing relationship. If you have phone bills, plane tickets, letters, you may provide those too. I know photos help a lot. Maybe you should file a police report that indicates you had a car accident and your camera has been stolen or something in case they ask for more photos. I'm just throwing it out there but I wouldn't worry if I were you.

First, HE is the US Citizen (my friend), and she is the outsider - Canada..... They have been dating for 2 years. She came on Tourist a couple months back and got married. Now they are happily living together...I just dont know if AOS was completed successfuly or not.

Oh and why I want to rat him out, you ask? Because its a matter of principle...why should we have to have to wait, and why should they be able to get away with it?

What they did is not illegal. They still have to go through immigration process but they will not encounter any major issues.

Just be happy for them since they are happily living together now. By the way, your NO2 should be forthcoming...I can smell it! Good luck.

For God's sake, people are entitled to change their minds! A K-1 petitioner has 90 days to marry or to decide that s/he wants to go back home. So, although it is a visa to allow enough time to marry, it is also a time to figure out if this is what s/he wants, especially if s/he has never been in the USA or any other foreign country, for that matter.

If you have never lived in a foreign country, you have no basis to judge somebody in such situation. Living in a new culture/country is very hard to do and not everybody has the character to survive in such scenario.

At the same time, please do not be so quick to accuse people of fraud just for asking a question. You do not know what conditions she will have to return to Brazil to, so we cannot fault her for looking at a way to "improving" her life. Let us focus on answering the questions (as it was clearly done) and stop passing judgment, especially if you are not fully aware of the circumstances.

Having said that, when she went to the consulate to get her visa she agreed to the rules of the visa: either she marries (the petitioner) or forgets about the whole thing. K-1 petitioners must be clear of that.

Such a philosophical dilemma. Generally people who are about to get married may change their minds, it's normal. But coming in as K-1, the whole concept of marriage becomes annoyingly transactional and you have to play by the rules. The fact that there is a long wait to even obtain that visa is good enough time to figure out what you want to do with your life. The 90 day period should not be viewed as "contemplating" time. 90 days is not even enough to plan a wedding (assuming that you'd like to play safe and make sure the fiance gets here first as opposed to planning way ahead) let alone add a "self-reflection" moment.

I've been slightly bothered by some forum topics around fraud in this site lately (lol I'm not accusing "fraud" in this particular thread by the way). But people who just messed around with the system ruins it for others who have good intentions. I've been depressed by being separated from my fiance. I see a lot of quotes here about the beauty of waiting and that's inspiring but at the end of the day.. WAITING SUCKS ANYWAY! I haven't prayed in years but I've started lately. LOVE IS PAIN!

The best way to fix this is to start the ordeal now. You obviously know what is coming to you at this point based on the feedback from our fellow VJ members. Anticipate the worst (I'd say) and plan how to make your marriage work in anticipation of this nightmare. You can't hide forever unless you plan on staying idle in the U.S. for the rest of your life. That's not a very sustainable option either. This is a tough one to break because the rules are written all over the place.

May the force be with you...

Something to think about, if you are curious, is to do a FOIA request (Freedom Of Information Act) on your CBP record.

Request the date you were not allowed to enter the US. You can see what CBP entered into your file. PM me and I can send you links and a template letter.

Cindy and I were traveling together when she was denied entry.

I just received my records from CBP regarding that event yesterday. It took me two requests and a follow-up to get the data, because I believe once they realized what was entered into my file, they did not want to release it.

In our case, CBP lied about the event (to cover their ####). I won’t go into detail because is personal, but they stated we did and said things we did not. I believe this is why our petition is being held up. I am in the process of filing formal complaints again CBP for violation of rights and liberties. I may end up filing a federal suit against them too.

You may be surprised what corrupt and uneducated federal officers claim you did and what they enter about you, especially when they thing its information you won’t ever read.

Hi, can you tell me where to get this FOIA? I am curious now what they could possibly put in my fiance's record. He stayed with me last year for 90 days on VWP. He returned 6 weeks later not really knowing that he can't use the program again just like that. He was treated like he's a terrorist, even accusing him of being an intending immigrant who will milk the system and ME. Mind you, he's from France and they have a better social system there! Living apart has been really difficult for both of us. We are in love and the emotional pain of being apart is too much. No to mention the financial side of things: the phone calls, trips to France (I visited him 2x since he got removed last fall). It is frustrating knowing that my future lies in the hands of these people. Their time frames when cashing your check is faster than the speed of light but you are kept guessing for sometime. I am glad to know though that some people who went thru the same ordeal as my fiance managed to reunite with their love ones.

CBP truly needs a reform. I can't begin to describe the ignorance of these officers. The thought of one of them accusing a French man of planning to milk the US system is totally below the belt.

Illinois does not have a Proof of Singleness. You can get a certified divorce decree, but only if he had been previously married and then divorced. If he was never married, then there is nothing official he can produce. If you are not married, everyone assumes then you are single. It is one or the other.

I guess he could get a statement from his mother!

LOL..sorry I was reading the thread and couldn't laugh about your last statement. I agree... there is no official document that proves you are single. It is probably something you need to come up with via simple letter and have it notarized.