Jonara

Not to be a Debbie Downer here but it's relative. You're in her turf, she is comfortable, she's within the confines of familiar environment. A big plus is her USC bf is around so everything is peachy... a familiar home, friends and bf around. Hauling her to the USA is yet another test. People change depending on where you position them. Enjoy your period of courtship and kumbayaing. But expect more challenges. Nothing in love and marriage is that cut and dry.

You are one lucky person... it's gotta be an oversight at the POE. Normally they will question you to pieces for coming back 3 weeks later. A lot of people get sent back for grounds of being an intending immigrant. You can't adjust status while on VWP by the way. It's written all over the place that's not permissible.

I share your joy. I just got email notification that mine has been approved. I'm happy.

Wow didn't know there were so many people supporting the USCIS on here. Everyone must appreciate their waits no? Maybe USCIS should raise fees further and reduce staff to increase the time you wait further...you know to increase your support for the organization.

YES I ABSOLUTELY AGREE WITH YOU.

-Knight

My point is that he is simply venting about the situation he's in. If you actually look back at his first post you'll find he also spoke of his K1 not just the AP.

I'm just a little surprised at all of the "if you don't like it then leave comments" from a group of people who are supposed to be supportive given this is an immigration website. There are probably two to three venting threads on this forum a week and normally the poster gets positive reassuring comments. I'm somewhat dismayed at the negativity he's received and can only assume its because they are both here in the US already and are considered in the "extremely lucky category" (even though we all get there in the end). Had he posted this within a few months of filing and they were still separated my guess is the comments would have been kinder.

I know there is a lot of bitterness on this site because of this process and honestly I think many of the posters here have directed their bitterness at this person.

Right on mate! I'm with you on this. Not just the negativity that is surprising... it's also the replies that state the obvious.

http://info.sos.state.tx.us/pls/pub/readta...ch=15&rl=91

I saw that too..but even Germany isn't on there...

Sure it is:

© Other Countries Honoring Agreements. The following countries, with the exception of Mexico, have ratified neither of the preceding agreements. They will, however, honor the provisions of those agreements:

(1) Mexico;

(2) Switzerland;

(3) Germany.

Hey check this one out:

http://info.sos.state.tx.us/pls/pub/readta...ch=15&rl=91

It doesn't look like Ukraine has the reciprocity.

My fiancee is coming the the United States in 2 weeks, Texas law says a person from another country is allowed to drive with her driver's license from her home country for up to a year if the United States and that country have reciprocity. Does anyone know where to find out if the United States and Ukraine have reciprocity for Driver's Licenses? I've spent an hour googling this and haven't found the list.

Thanks!

Call your local DMV if you haven't done so or call the police station (the latter I did). I had to verify this for my fiance. He also came prepared with an International Driver's license just in case.

Yes we understand it's a Hotel California deal. I can't speak for OP but I sense that a mere simple AOS-in-progress should be enough to allow re-entry. The fact that we go down the K-1 route implies the intent to start life in the U.S. Sudden death in the family is one reason you may have to be out. Is AP even a candidate for accelarated processing? By the time you finish the AP and biometrics form, the funeral will be over.

And dang I'm still waiting for my NO2. Ulkkkk... ok sorry this is out of topic.

I see where he's coming from though. K1 approved, got married within 90 days and AOS in progress; there is no reason why you can't go about your life or pursue your passions. As far as I'm concerned, requirements have been met so why be stagnant while waiting for the next process to complete? AOS is not a quick process either. We are talking about another 3-6 months guys. Not to mention that's a $300+ fee. In essence you are paying quite a bit for freedom. You wanna travel, you pay and you wait. You wanna work, you still pay and you still wait. Does that really makes sense everyone? I think not but it is what it is like you all implied but the OP is not wrong for expressing his opinion.

Hope everyone is having a smooth journey.

My husband posted an ad on craigslist for sexual encounters with men and another personal ad to look for women (where he put his relationship status as "divorced"). He is not aware of I saw the ads and denied all of these. This is not the first incident that has ever happened in our relationship/ marriage. And I found myself becoming increasing intolerant towards this particular behavior. I do not know what to do anymore

What would you do if you were me?

Hey hang in there ok. I think everyone here has some great advise. Follow them closely and cover yourself. The marriage is in good fate but your husband loves to play. Patience would mean doing something else to better and to establish yourself so you can walk away from that marriage when the time comes. In the meantime also, please take care of your mental health and I hope this will not destroy your confidence totally.

Hi all

Hoping you can clear up for us some confusion about by when we have to get married. Our K-1 is valid until Oct. 30th.

Our religious ceremony is scheduled for Oct 4th.

Our families would be very upset if we got married before, but we've seen posts saying that you can't really wait that long because of the AOS paperwork.

As long as we send the AOS before oct. 30th, will we still be "in status" or is it that we have to have received the EAD before the 30th of October if we want to be in status.

thanks in advance,

sara & ludo

Hi, I don't think you're cutting it too close. You need to submit a marriage certificate after your wedding. If you'll have that in time to submit your AOS application, you should be fine.

I think it's a timing issue. By the time USCIS responded to their petition, the relationship has ended. She might have gotten their notification and wonder why it's still in the works. The petitioner should either withdraw that or just ignore it...it will be closed eventually due to lack of action.

Here's the link to the K1 Guide:

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...mp;page=k1guide

Hey guys,

Dani and I just got our NOA2 notice today, (the day before my birthday!) while I am visiting her here in FL. Our I-129f was approved in 146 days.

We'd like to keep this moving along as fast as possible of course, after this trip I likely won't be able to see her again until I get the Visa so it will be a long stretch. (I know not nearly as long as some of the members on here!) We're hoping to possibly be together before Christmas, is this realistic? Any tips/suggestions on what we should start getting prepared for what comes next would be appreciated.

Thanks!

Todd & Dani

I think it is possible by Christimas. Judging from the timelines here, it takes about another 2-3 months after NO2 to POE. Congratulations. You can reference the K-1 timelines posted in this site too, it has a checklist of things to be prepared for. You also need to wait for the instruction letter from USCIS and it tells you what is needed. Good for you mate. If you follow all the stuff closely, you and your fiance will be reunited by Xmas. We are still waiting here. :-(

I know most of the peoople here are looking for information, but I'm assuming many of you have been through some family barriers in the midst of getting married.

I just really could use some support right now through everything that has been going on with the VISA process, wedding plans, work, etc. without the person that I love, I think we all know that is so stressful in itself. Then comes the family's opinions & friends that have never met your fiance, who just don't know how to handle the situation. I feel like sometime I fight for our relationship more than live it.

Right now my family is asking that we move the wedding back until June 2011, because they want us to experience more of life together & of course they want time to get to know him more. It's a legimate concern, but on Danny's part he has been doing everything he possible could do to try & form relationships with my family through webcams, emails, phone calls. His english isn't fluent but over & over he tries to talk with them & they finally decided to come down with me in March to meet him & his family face to face.

I understand that time will always tell & bring more security to the relationship or more confirmation, but Danny & I already have enought confirmation & security about getting married & for once I want to do something that is truly from my heart, but my family's opinions definitely do affect me. I want nothing more than for my parents & sister to enjoy & participate in my wedding planning with a pure heart & pure excitement & I wish for nothing other than on the day of my wedding that there would be no doubts in anyone's mind & my father would be completely confident to hand me over to the man of my dreams.

I just don't know how to make my family feel secure if they haven't met him yet...any thoughts?

Sounds like you have a very tight clan so what each and everyone does affect the other. I think this now becomes a question of breaking that custom and how you will manage to detach emotionally. You can't control their views and emotions about certain things but you can for yourself. Great idea that you will introduce them to him and his family but be prepared for what comes after next. What if they still say push the wedding out? You have to be mentally prepared to be challenged again and figure out the right balance. I don't want to say ignore your family but take a stand and do what you really want. Their family of course has your best interest at heart but so have you.

Don't fight it. The universe has its way of aligning where things should be.

I came to America Fall 2007 to spend a High School Year and left the states Summer 2008.

I went back to the States Winter 09 and had problems getting in the country (they did not tell my why. they just kept asking

a) did you start school late B) did you overstay c) did you leave early d) did you change schools?)

While I was in the US (Visa Waiver) a college told me I could just apply for a change of status, get my F1 in the States and start going to school there.

(I would have gone back in March and applied for a F1 in my homecountry)

So I applied and -of course- got it denied, since I did not even qualify for a change of status.

I went back after 139 days (USCIS had told me to stay til the decision) and applied for a F1 visa in G.

They denied it.

Reasons were the high-school-year.overstay (which never happened!!!!), the second overstay (which was not an overstay, USCIS told me to stay!) and just not enough ties.

Now me and my fiancè are planning on getting married and we are wondering if my "past" could affect the CR1 and what we can do to avoid probelms?

That's right. Under VWP, you are not allowed to change status while in the States. You have to apply for a real visa from your country of domicile. Did you try to challenge the first reason? What visa were you using to attend high school in the US?

Did they also impose a ban for you to come back to the US in the near future?

We got the visa aproved!! but my fiancee got lay off of his work. I was planning to be there as that weekend afther that bad news, this has been change all our plans. Wehave been waiting to be together one year and 9 months, the things are getting cold, we are both tired about this whole situation. My question is Do you know if we can apply for that visa k1 ( again) later on the future and it woundnt be a problem if I got it on the fist time and never used it?

The visa is good for 6 months. Going through the K-1 process would cost time and money again. What exactly is he worried about if you use the visa now?

I think it depends on the age group too. There is a big difference between a 21 year old marrying a 32 year old AND a 31 year old marrying a 42 year old person. Same age gaps but different age group. The latter is perceivable as more in control of life and also more than likely would have a good conversation flow. I don't see a problem for the latter to form a sustainable relationship. The former is a bit sketchy, has a bit of a learning curve and adjustment period, a long one if I may say. I stay away from that during my "dating" years. The conversations are not the same and frankly I don't want to raise a little-big kid.

My hubby and I Eloped the first time I visited. His people know and are happy for us but most of my fam and friends don't know yet. We met on-line and had a quick courtship. Needless to say, we don't have very much 'Bona Fida'. Do we really need it? If so what are some other things we can use as evidence. I hope were not screwed.

You will be "screwed" if you don't have a lot of evidence of you guys having a bonafide marriage. Nigeria is one of the highest fraud countries in the immigration system.

You have to do better than the scammers and the scammers are good!

The bona fides are the essential evidence for the petition. You only need it for your petition to be successful.

As the intending immigrant is from the #1 fraud country for family based visas you have your work cut out for you.

Where do I find that s#%t list? I am curious now what countries are considered fraud country for fbv's.

Hi everyone,

I just got engaged to my Brazilian girlfriend and I'm new to this forum, looking for answers.

We are debating getting married here via a K1 fiance visa, or getting married in Brazil via a K3.

My question is if the following is possible:

My fiance wants to take an English course at a university here in the US from January-March 2010. She will either need a student visa, or we will get married in Brazil and October and try to bring her here in January as my wife. Is this possible in the 3 month period? Or, is it legal for her to travel to the US as a student WHILE she is waiting for the K3 visa?

Thanks!

Drew

Definitely not as easy as you thought. To get a student visa, she first needs to contact an accredited university to grant her admission. The process can take a year. And it has to be a full time course and not just a certificate course. Once she's granted admission by the school, they will issue her a paperwork that she can present to U.S. Embassy to apply for the student visa. That's another process and she needs to show proof of domicile in Brazil, intent to come back after her school and ultimately show some dough to the government that will indicate she can support herself while being a student in US.

K3 is not quick either. K3 people on VJ have been waiting for a long time to be reunited with their spouses.

I like #1..figure flattering.

Hello all

Very new here. My first post. I am relieved to see all of the JP people on here. That is what I wanted to do, but I have been feeling like ICE wants

all sorts of "proof" of a marriage being planned. Caterers, church everything.

Am I understanding correctly that none of you JP marriage folks submitted anything related to a marriage being planned? Did you say in

your letter that you were going to the JP?

thanks

Tsaria

I am not yet a JP person but I have seen in some posts here that COs tend to ask what your plans are for the wedding, stuff like that. So I wasn't sure if wedding plans are subject to "AHA!" too. That's what triggered my paranoia and asked around here.

Am I the only different one here? Big wedding planned...sorry but you only get married once. You have to have the pictures and the big event to remember the date or you will regret it. If you know his/her arrival date then there is no reason why you can't start planning a nice wedding and have your family and friends there.

I think that's like a wish for everyone. I would love to have a fairy tale wedding with my baba but he's not into the whole let's-drink-and-be-merry thingie and I frankly don't want to spend the dough lavishly in an economy so uncertain. It will be a while for us to get to the romantic wedding part...sounds like everyone here would like to have a part deux at some point.

BTW - if you're the USC, how did you manage to fly to Cuba? Are we not banned or forbidden to go there?

The subtitle of your thread's subject line says "within 90 months," which would put everyone a bit out of status, si man.

LOOOOLLLLLLLLLLL... oh God... my bad!

I so want to get married now after reading everyone's plans. It would be nice to have a clue of when I will be getting married... it looks like it's not gonna be at the beach. If I ever get my NO2, we're talking about winter wedding...brrrr and I'm in New England by the way.

Oh good to know. Thanks all for sharing your plans (ok don't forget to invite me, I'll PM you my address...lol).

Since we're talking about weddings here, perhaps you should check out this youtube video. It's insane. I've always imagined my wedding march to be different but this one tops it!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1-q-fsYQPZw...feature=related