ronjie

I am so new to this so please bare with me. What the heck is Touched? I see it every where but I have no clue.

Thank you.

you should start by posting your timeline.

that's weird. I don't understand why Brazil, it's not like there's a lot of immigrants sending money from the States to their family in brazil, like glitter lovers for example do.

maybe if they had some love for their family, they would send some cash back home to Brazil. and they could put it in a nice envelope with lots of glitter on it too !!

maybe their families work and they were always able to support themselves, they don't need their children that never helped them financially to start supporting them now.

Love doesn't need to be proved with cash. At least I don't have to buy my family's love.

its obvious people are sending money back there or this post wouldn't exist ..or didn't you get that?

it's obvious you didn't read my answer, I'm talking about loads of people sending money to Brazil, it's just not something as common to send money back to support families in Brazil as it is in other countries. I never said anyone at all send money. I sent money this year to a guy to make reservations to our vacation apartment, Charles sent me money so I could pay for the fligths and immigration expenses.

My firt response was that I found odd that they'd deny sending money to only 1 country, being that Brazil, because I don't think there's an enormous amount of money being sent to brazil.

brazil is a ways down the chain for money being sent to it, when compared to some other countries.

no sweety, I did read your Firt response. its obvious your being condecending to a certain group of people by calling them "glitter lovers". and I'm sure you could have got your point across in a nicer way. so please just have a nice day.

OMG you found a typo. I should always proofread my posts so the typo police won't be after me

I was just messing with ya.. have a good day

ok Mari, at this point we ask you to please fill in your timeline or at least start one. your questions will be answered faster and more accurate. it helps us and also lets us help you better. It is the form, and the reciept number will be on it. with that you can set up a profile on the USCIS website and track your case........

ronjie lol, i thought you don't like our language yet you know how pinoys would say it?

maribob, you heard it right.

your wrong about that !! I love your language.....it is very gwapa.

please post a timeline !!!! it helps others, and also lets us better help you.

your friend is korek

Didn't mean to start an argument here I was mostly talking in terms of this forum. My wife has been here for 6 months now. I come to this forum to read what other filipinas (like yourselves) and their SO's have to say. I come here to learn about the filipino culture, filipino specific immigration issues, and married life with a filipina from both sides. When someone speaks Tagalog here I feel completely lost and left out of something that might better mine and my wife's life here. Take this thread for example it starts off "im going back to the phils" then the next post says what I am thinking "why going back...". What comes after that is nothing but Tagalog or people like me trying to get a summary at least of whats going on. Maybe the reasons the OP is wanting to go back to the Philippines is things that I can prevent with my wife. Maybe the other filipinas are giving her good advice that I can share with my wife. Instead I don't understand anything.

I can understanding filipinas wanting to speak their native language especially when they are feeling homesick. I don't mind when my wife and I go out and say go to the filipino store thats close by and she and the people there are only speaking Tagalog. I don't want to take her language or her culture. In fact I do want to learn Tagalog and when my baby is born I want him or her to grow up speaking both languages. This forum is different however. Everyone on these forums speak English so thats what should be spoken. It is not proper forum etiquette on any forum where the base is English and a small group of people constantly speak a different language. Why doesn't someone create a "~Tagalog Thread~" where filipinas can talk to other filipinas about whatever they wish in Tagalog. The forums should be used for discussions in English. These regional forums were here for people to talk about travel, culture, food, etc of the specific region, not for people of only that region to talk in their native tongue.

your proposal for a tagalog speaking forum makes a lot of sense. and so does the rest of your post. we are told that we need to prepare and educate ourselve's about our spouce's culture and the changes she will experience when she arrives here. but when we try to learn we are blocked by a language barrier that is not nessesary. cause the peeps on the forum do speak english. I have no problem with tagalog or any other dialect. but there is a time and place for it. and I just don't think this forum is it. so as we are trying to get ready and make adjustments for our spouces arrival. maybe they should try to understand us a little also. and help us learn, so we can be more comforting to them when they arrive, by speaking english and better teaching us what to look out for.

that's weird. I don't understand why Brazil, it's not like there's a lot of immigrants sending money from the States to their family in brazil, like glitter lovers for example do.

maybe if they had some love for their family, they would send some cash back home to Brazil. and they could put it in a nice envelope with lots of glitter on it too !!

maybe their families work and they were always able to support themselves, they don't need their children that never helped them financially to start supporting them now.

Love doesn't need to be proved with cash. At least I don't have to buy my family's love.

its obvious people are sending money back there or this post wouldn't exist ..or didn't you get that?

it's obvious you didn't read my answer, I'm talking about loads of people sending money to Brazil, it's just not something as common to send money back to support families in Brazil as it is in other countries. I never said anyone at all send money. I sent money this year to a guy to make reservations to our vacation apartment, Charles sent me money so I could pay for the fligths and immigration expenses.

My firt response was that I found odd that they'd deny sending money to only 1 country, being that Brazil, because I don't think there's an enormous amount of money being sent to brazil.

brazil is a ways down the chain for money being sent to it, when compared to some other countries.

ok, if you say so, I believe you.

that's weird. I don't understand why Brazil, it's not like there's a lot of immigrants sending money from the States to their family in brazil, like glitter lovers for example do.

maybe if they had some love for their family, they would send some cash back home to Brazil. and they could put it in a nice envelope with lots of glitter on it too !!

maybe their families work and they were always able to support themselves, they don't need their children that never helped them financially to start supporting them now.

Love doesn't need to be proved with cash. At least I don't have to buy my family's love.

its obvious people are sending money back there or this post wouldn't exist ..or didn't you get that?

it's obvious you didn't read my answer, I'm talking about loads of people sending money to Brazil, it's just not something as common to send money back to support families in Brazil as it is in other countries. I never said anyone at all send money. I sent money this year to a guy to make reservations to our vacation apartment, Charles sent me money so I could pay for the fligths and immigration expenses.

My firt response was that I found odd that they'd deny sending money to only 1 country, being that Brazil, because I don't think there's an enormous amount of money being sent to brazil.

brazil is a ways down the chain for money being sent to it, when compared to some other countries.

no sweety, I did read your Firt response. its obvious your being condecending to a certain group of people by calling them "glitter lovers". and I'm sure you could have got your point across in a nicer way. so please just have a nice day.

That is really a good sign....soon u will have your approval....goodluck guyz.

Just a thought, don't you think some of the filipinas felt like alienated as well when there husband and friends speaking in a crowd with her around?

There are situations in which even when everyone is speaking the same language, some people who do not have knowledge to chat or are somehow in a position to doing more of the listening than speaking in group settings. This is just matter of fact. This issue here is being in a group setting and speaking in a language that some do not know. That alienates even more.

Lets pretend that English is not an International language...whats the difference between talking in tagalog and talking in English in front of someone who can't speak it?

Let's not change what we are talking about here for it only makes the issue more complicated. What we are talking about here is speaking in Tagalog (or writing) when others are in the audience do not speak Tagalog <-- simple as that, no need to complicate what we are talking about with "let's pretend........"

But calling it rudeness is I think unfair.

Too bad you didn't marry a chinese man who's entire family and friends speak Manderin and at family events everyone speaks Mandarin even as you are standing in a circle looking on wishing to know what everyone is talking about. I have been in situations like this and I've also been at many dinner tables and poker tables at family events where they (Filipinos) chat and laugh among themselves in Tagalog. The only time they speak English is when talking to me directly, then they revert back to Tagalog. I think it is rude. It is unwelcoming. It is thoughtless.

It's a case to case basis I say. I was just trying to explain here that... in a scale of 10 is to 1 and 10 is the highest while 1 is the lowest..there will be 3% chances that we can talk to our native language in this country and that is just during the time when we are in front with Filipina friends and basically in VJ in this forum. All the rest and most of the time we will be speaking in English because we are surrounded with English speaking people.In saying this,I'm also is asking for your (USC) understanding. Please at this time give us a chance.

It depends on where you live. I live in California where 100s of thousands of Filipinos live and I know my fiancee will seek them out (that is the natural thing to do). What I will not like is for her to chat in Tagalog when I'm within listening distance, because I just might want to add to what she is talking about or laugh with her if whatever it is is funny. I've been in situations where everyone is laughing except for me, because of Tagalog.

I am confident that a filipina wife when in front of her filipina friends and speaking the native tongue and with her husband around..she will always try her very best to explain it to her husband the best she can coz yeah, we too are mindful. Personally, I am sensitive enough to make my husband feel comfortable around with my filipina friend by not translating but including him in the flow.

I am not confident for I've experienced far different. I've been to many Filipino event in and around Daly City, California and I can tell you, they don't care. Plus, why bother to "explain" what people are talking about when all that has to be done is speak in English when English only speakers are around. By the way, Daly City is big and probably 95% Filipino. It isn't unusual to see Filipinos anywhere in California.

I was with my last Filipina GF for 4 years. I know how it feels to be alienate. It wasn't that they didn't like me either, they just like speaking in Tagalog even though they can speak perfect English. What I am saying is that not everyone can be controlled, however Filipinas here and about to come to America can help their spouse feel a little better if at least she speaks in English while the rest continue to do otherwise. If she speaks in Tagalog along with the rest of them, he will eventually not want to participate in any events or parties where there are a lot of Filipinos. (I said "she" because most that are coming to America here are female.)

Take my experience to learn something instead of trying to defend yourselves and make excuses.

well you said it better than me. But that is exactly how I feel and I'm sure most husbands do or will in time

that's weird. I don't understand why Brazil, it's not like there's a lot of immigrants sending money from the States to their family in brazil, like glitter lovers for example do.

maybe if they had some love for their family, they would send some cash back home to Brazil. and they could put it in a nice envelope with lots of glitter on it too !!

maybe their families work and they were always able to support themselves, they don't need their children that never helped them financially to start supporting them now.

Love doesn't need to be proved with cash. At least I don't have to buy my family's love.

its obvious people are sending money back there or this post wouldn't exist ..or didn't you get that?

well its not going to get there in 1 day !!! they only sent it yesterday. give it 5-10 daysw and they will have it.

I think there are just some people who don't understand the value of respecting others opinions and thoughts. I keep on telling my husband that I missed home. Doesn't mean I wasn't ready for the life I am about to embrace in being with him. He used to tease me... "you sounds like your whining baby" and I just answer him.. "so what"? If that's how you call it then fine. He is really trying hard to learn my language and I am the one with no patient in teaching him. He doesn't felt left behind if I am with my Filipina friends and talking our own language ( he likes the sounds ) and just chose to smile even he doesn't understand anything. I am blessed to have him. I should say, he really has a wide range of understanding. Am I whining? SO WHAT? Gihigugma ko ikaw babe! Gimingaw ko sa akong yutang natawhan! Period!

Vida Taylor

My husband doesnt mind too if i speak bisaya or tagalog when im with my friends even he is around. He is trying to learn 3 dialects (tagalog, bisaya ilonggo). Even we are here in the USA.....we are still pinay at talagang mamiss at mami-miss natin ang pinas especially kung malapit tayo sa ating pamilya.

Good luck to him in learning Tagalog. We husbands try (I tried too), but it isn't easy without immersing one's self into a place where only that language is spoken.

For example, I could likely learn Spanish very fast in Peru where very few speak English, but even though so many speak Spanish hear in California, it isn't easy for me to learn Spanish here (I tried this too), because we revert to English, the common language between us.

Mark my words, husbands don't mind being left out of conversations at first, but in time, they will zone out, talking in Tagalog while they are close by will alienate them. I'm speaking from experience. I know how I felt.

Trust me, you will preserve your relationship far more by speaking in your spouse's language if he is anywhere remotely near you.

We husbands do understand the hardship, we are mindful so please be mindful of us by speaking in a language we understand when we are close by, because when we hear and understand what is being said, we can easily and immediately join in the conversation and laughter. We don't have to say what's so funny or what's the topic and then wait for the translation..... this interrupts the flow of the conversation and in my experience usually ends the topic for whatever reason.

Be sensitive to him. Language excludes him in a big way, he may not mind at first, but in time he'll feel alienated.

Your words are very true !! I remember when I just arrived in the PI as a guest from abroad and while driving with 6 people in the car ( the first day there, and yes, I paid for the car rental also. and we were going out to lunch, which I paid for also ). I felt very alienated. I had to keep asking to be included in the conversation. I would sooner walk around alone then be in an unfriendly enviroment like that. my wife would always remind them to speak english. after all, I was their guest. the point was. I'm good enough to rent the car and take everyone out to lunch. and they still did not include me in the conversation. some day the pinays will have something important to say. and no english only speaking person is going to listen to them.

I see your timeline and it says your Filipina wife is not here yet. When she gets here, I am sure you will truly understand how it is for her to be away from her family that she grew up with especially if it is her first time to be away from them. If you dont understand why Filipinas will be "homesick" for a long period of time then you will never understand our culture and how close we are to our families growing up.

Most of my friends here who arrived earlier than me are still homesick because when they got here, after getting married and the honeymoon, they are left by themselves in the house while the husbands work, THE WHOLE DAY. And while they are waiting for EAD and AOS, they don't have anybody to turn to but fellow Filipinas who are in the same situation. Most of them spend time cleaning the house, chatting with friends, posting here in tagalog to friends and mind you, these are all non-immigrant issues, just ordinary talking among friends. If you deprive them of these "treat" while they await for their husbands to arrive from work, isn't that cruel? We are trying to survive in a world very different from ours and the most a husband can do is be supportive. Put yourself in our shoes and maybe you will understand better.

To add, when you started seeking out a non-USC to be your lifetime partner you should have known that you will be taking her out of her country , away from her family and friends, leave work and start all over again so expect that there will be homesickness and the adjustment process will be difiicult for most of us.Each individual is unique and different in how dealing with things. If one Filipina adjusted fairly well after arriving here don't expect all Filipinas to be the same.If you want to understand the conversation going on in tagalog all you have to do is ask your wife what it means. . . not a hard thing to do huh?

And to my fellow Filipinas, if you feel like talking in Tagalog in the Philippine forum, then do so. Sometimes people just don't understand how we miss the language. After all, this is America, and FREEDOM OF SPEECH is very highly regarded.

Mabuhay po tayo!

Granted Filipinas are away from home and my fiancee is very lucky that she'll live in California where 100s of thousand of Filipinas live.

But, I think, to get over homesickness, there are other ways to do it and other places like YM and MSN messenger to name a few. Speaking/writing in Tagalog when there are English only speakers in the audience is rude, especially when those who are writing/speaking in Tagalog also know English. Some say "but we are talking to each other." This doesn't cut it on a public forum, but it does on YM and MSN.

There really isn't any excuse for being so rude.

Unfortunately, I had a Filipina GF about 6 years ago who already lived in the USA for a long time and so did her family and at every family event, they would speak exclusively in Tagalog so no wonder I zoned out at those events. It was as if to say "F%%$#% him!"

**********So, if you want your partner to zone out, really disconnect from you, speak in Tagalog, but just remember that you are to blame, because you could easily fix it by included him or her in the conversation by speaking in English. As they say in the RP .... "up to you." Cling to the excuses or respect those around you by speaking and writing in a language that the majority understand. *********

Im confident that my husband wont get disconnected from me if I continue speaking to my friends in our language even if he is there because he is the one who encourages me. He knows Im happy when I talk to my friends in our dialect and he is happy Im happy. He understands. I don't talk to my friends everyday. I don't see them everyday so 90% I am talking English and if I spend 10% of my time talking in tagalog, I believe it is fair. He has not once complained to me about that and I respect him more. He knows, its fun talk and he trusts me that I dont talk behind his back. He knows that if I have a complain about him, I will tell him first.

When USC husbands and fiances go to the Philippines to visit we don't tell them ,hey learn our language because you are in the Philippines and majority of the people around you speak tagalog and not English, instead our families and everybodyelse speak english, even broken english, for their sake.

My husband is slowly learning my language not because he feels an outcast but because he wants to talk to me in my language . He likes the sound and I love listening to him pronounce it. It is cute. Marriage is meeting halfway and my husband doing this makes me love him more and more because he understands.

We usually have gatherings with other VJ couples and it is always with the husbands.Usually the first phase would be the men talking to each other while the women update each other by talking in our language . When everyone is in one table or area we do speak english for our men to understand and of course to join in the conversation. We are not stupid to continue speaking in our language when everyone is there. It works for us. I have a circle of filipina friends whose husbands don't mind us talking in our dialect

Anyway, I am tired of explaining myself why we can't help talking in our language. I will end here but thanks to this thread and the numerous "rants" because it made me realize how lucky I am to be married to someone who really understands my needs.

Godbless and peace eveyone.

I thought you were done with the PETTY TALK? you can't help but rant. and I see you have no problem with English when you are ranting!!!

ya got what ya asked for. now suck it up and quit your whining

YOU NEED BOTH...

Wifey

We are in Northern California too. Sacramento. My hubby calls me Inday too .

We're in Sacramento too!

On a side note I wish people would speak English more on here. I remember back when I was still preparing her for the interview and stuff I would read some topics that i thought would be helpful but everyone was speaking Tagalog. Its not just Filipinos that read this stuff.

I've complained about this too, but they always trivialize it in their response to my complaint. I'd make the site so that if a certain percentage of words didn't make it passed the spell checker, it wouldn't post.

I consider it rude to write in Tagalog on a website about immigrating to the United States of America.

I also consider it rude to speak in Tagalog when English only speakers are around, but they do this too. And they have excuses for this as well, but those excuses do not help me or allow me to join in the conversation.

when they speak in their own langauge, I guess they forget they have a spouse on this site too !! we are suppose to help them adjust to their new life here, and understand that they may be homesick. and help them through it. but we are constantly disrespected as spouses by being left out of the conversation. some people don't want help adjusting, they just want to whine and seek attention. How would they feel if we took them to a party or family gathering and left them alone to socialize and fend for themself. I guess the only way they will learn is when someone does it to them. this statement is only directed at the people who are rude and act like this.

I see your timeline and it says your Filipina wife is not here yet. When she gets here, I am sure you will truly understand how it is for her to be away from her family that she grew up with especially if it is her first time to be away from them. If you dont understand why Filipinas will be "homesick" for a long period of time then you will never understand our culture and how close we are to our families growing up.

Most of my friends here who arrived earlier than me are still homesick because when they got here, after getting married and the honeymoon, they are left by themselves in the house while the husbands work, THE WHOLE DAY. And while they are waiting for EAD and AOS, they don't have anybody to turn to but fellow Filipinas who are in the same situation. Most of them spend time cleaning the house, chatting with friends, posting here in tagalog to friends and mind you, these are all non-immigrant issues, just ordinary talking among friends. If you deprive them of these "treat" while they await for their husbands to arrive from work, isn't that cruel? We are trying to survive in a world very different from ours and the most a husband can do is be supportive. Put yourself in our shoes and maybe you will understand better.

To add, when you started seeking out a non-USC to be your lifetime partner you should have known that you will be taking her out of her country , away from her family and friends, leave work and start all over again so expect that there will be homesickness and the adjustment process will be difiicult for most of us.Each individual is unique and different in how dealing with things. If one Filipina adjusted fairly well after arriving here don't expect all Filipinas to be the same.If you want to understand the conversation going on in tagalog all you have to do is ask your wife what it means. . . not a hard thing to do huh?

And to my fellow Filipinas, if you feel like talking in Tagalog in the Philippine forum, then do so. Sometimes people just don't understand how we miss the language. After all, this is America, and FREEDOM OF SPEECH is very highly regarded.

Mabuhay po tayo!

there ya go whining again !! there are millions of people around the world that leave home for jobs and military reasons. not just filipinas. and I never searched for a foreign wife. we found each other on an american site for single parents.. nobody is depriving anyone of any treats here. if you need to chat in your language then do it on msn or yahoo instant messenger. I still hear poor, poor me. I am so far from home. YOU know that when you get involved in an international relationship. you must be careful what you ask for. for you just may get it !!!!!!

I am not whining and I have no problems coming here.I have been all over the world before relocating to USA so homesickness is not a big thing to me. I am speaking in behalf of my fellow Filipinas who are not in the same situation and find it hard to adjust a new life away from home. Anyway, you seem to not really understand what Im saying and I am not one who engages in petty talk. Goodluck to you, especially your wife. I hope when she "whines" about how she misses home, you won't say what you are saying now.

Godbless

If you can't let go of some of the past, you will have a very hard time with the future !!

We are in Northern California too. Sacramento. My hubby calls me Inday too .

We're in Sacramento too!

On a side note I wish people would speak English more on here. I remember back when I was still preparing her for the interview and stuff I would read some topics that i thought would be helpful but everyone was speaking Tagalog. Its not just Filipinos that read this stuff.

I've complained about this too, but they always trivialize it in their response to my complaint. I'd make the site so that if a certain percentage of words didn't make it passed the spell checker, it wouldn't post.

I consider it rude to write in Tagalog on a website about immigrating to the United States of America.

I also consider it rude to speak in Tagalog when English only speakers are around, but they do this too. And they have excuses for this as well, but those excuses do not help me or allow me to join in the conversation.

when they speak in their own langauge, I guess they forget they have a spouse on this site too !! we are suppose to help them adjust to their new life here, and understand that they may be homesick. and help them through it. but we are constantly disrespected as spouses by being left out of the conversation. some people don't want help adjusting, they just want to whine and seek attention. How would they feel if we took them to a party or family gathering and left them alone to socialize and fend for themself. I guess the only way they will learn is when someone does it to them. this statement is only directed at the people who are rude and act like this.

I see your timeline and it says your Filipina wife is not here yet. When she gets here, I am sure you will truly understand how it is for her to be away from her family that she grew up with especially if it is her first time to be away from them. If you dont understand why Filipinas will be "homesick" for a long period of time then you will never understand our culture and how close we are to our families growing up.

Most of my friends here who arrived earlier than me are still homesick because when they got here, after getting married and the honeymoon, they are left by themselves in the house while the husbands work, THE WHOLE DAY. And while they are waiting for EAD and AOS, they don't have anybody to turn to but fellow Filipinas who are in the same situation. Most of them spend time cleaning the house, chatting with friends, posting here in tagalog to friends and mind you, these are all non-immigrant issues, just ordinary talking among friends. If you deprive them of these "treat" while they await for their husbands to arrive from work, isn't that cruel? We are trying to survive in a world very different from ours and the most a husband can do is be supportive. Put yourself in our shoes and maybe you will understand better.

To add, when you started seeking out a non-USC to be your lifetime partner you should have known that you will be taking her out of her country , away from her family and friends, leave work and start all over again so expect that there will be homesickness and the adjustment process will be difiicult for most of us.Each individual is unique and different in how dealing with things. If one Filipina adjusted fairly well after arriving here don't expect all Filipinas to be the same.If you want to understand the conversation going on in tagalog all you have to do is ask your wife what it means. . . not a hard thing to do huh?

And to my fellow Filipinas, if you feel like talking in Tagalog in the Philippine forum, then do so. Sometimes people just don't understand how we miss the language. After all, this is America, and FREEDOM OF SPEECH is very highly regarded.

Mabuhay po tayo!

We are in Northern California too. Sacramento. My hubby calls me Inday too .

We're in Sacramento too!

On a side note I wish people would speak English more on here. I remember back when I was still preparing her for the interview and stuff I would read some topics that i thought would be helpful but everyone was speaking Tagalog. Its not just Filipinos that read this stuff.

I've complained about this too, but they always trivialize it in their response to my complaint. I'd make the site so that if a certain percentage of words didn't make it passed the spell checker, it wouldn't post.

I consider it rude to write in Tagalog on a website about immigrating to the United States of America.

I also consider it rude to speak in Tagalog when English only speakers are around, but they do this too. And they have excuses for this as well, but those excuses do not help me or allow me to join in the conversation.

when they speak in their own langauge, I guess they forget they have a spouse on this site too !! we are suppose to help them adjust to their new life here, and understand that they may be homesick. and help them through it. but we are constantly disrespected as spouses by being left out of the conversation. some people don't want help adjusting, they just want to whine and seek attention. How would they feel if we took them to a party or family gathering and left them alone to socialize and fend for themself. I guess the only way they will learn is when someone does it to them. this statement is only directed at the people who are rude and act like this.

its absolutely crazy , not to mention unapretiative to finally arrive here, and then want to turn around and go back home in such a short time. Are people really that spoiled that they can't grow up and deal with the decision they made to start over in a new country. with their SO. Its getting old hearing people hiding behind the same old excuse of being homesick. yea I know its real and it exist. but like everything, it fades with time. I read about people that want to go home only a few months after they arrive or visit several times a year, back in their homeland. How on earth do you plan for a good future with your spouse. if you have no respect for money. or does everyone have an extra 5 or 10 thousand a year just to go home and see mommy. what about saving for your future or kids college.

that's weird. I don't understand why Brazil, it's not like there's a lot of immigrants sending money from the States to their family in brazil, like glitter lovers for example do.

maybe if they had some love for their family, they would send some cash back home to Brazil. and they could put it in a nice envelope with lots of glitter on it too !!

we cook and eat together (via webcam), sometimes we sleep together or celebrate a holiday or birthday together. I have taken the laptop camping with me and we enjoyed that together ( thanks to borrowed wi fi ) and a small disagreement is always good for the relationship. well actually just the part where you make up !!!

will you be staying home and watching the baby when your husband gets there or will he take care of the baby. if you plan to work and your husband will be the stay home dad, include a letter explaining that and where your future work will be.

when is everyone going to realize there is a monkey playing with the computor at USCIS. its part of his computor training for the next NASA space flight.

Listen !! he's your man. so get on a plane . fly to where he is. bust the door down. grab him and seduce him. remind him what true love feels like. then let him know that if he doesn't want that in his life, he should let you know right then and there. so you can make your self available just in case you meet the right one !!