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I sd it in another thread but i wanted to start a new one so i wouldnt hyjack the current thread

my son was diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome today, which is a mild type of autism. Im still researching this, but if ANYONE has insight or knowledge on this please please email me : hockeygir@gmail.com...im desperate right now.

His peds other concern was Joshuas OCD. Hes bad with it. example: if you give him chicken nuggest and fries and you give him the plate with the nuggest and fries on the right hand side and ketchup on the left side, he will refuse to eat it, if you flip it, he also refuses as he knows it was wrongly placed in the first place. I have to place his food correctly on the plate for him to eat. Tonight he spent 15 mins fixing things in my closet as he noticed a pair of shoes were not lined correctly.

The Asperger's syndrome part is mainly, he sings to express himself, hes 3 and still talking like hes 1, he uses 2 word sentences. when he watches tv, he stands infront of it and hops while flapping his hands. Theres more things but im so tired right now.

Im so numb, and confused, angry and i dunno.

HI, these challenges are not the end of the world. Get him some help and brush up on the resources available to you and ur son. but over time the habits that r so strong now should fade quite abit.. redirection if he focuses too long r too deep on something is nessessary from time to time, but let him do alot of things for himself, ex.. get a drink of water, or get dressed. along with alot of socializing is great. A day care with a regular style class can be of help.... I raised my son fro 2 years old with the same symptoms,he didn't speak till he was 4.. at first I was crushed, but then little at a time we got by the obstacles. he is now almost 8 years old and the improvements r nothing short of amazing. just my opinion, but, I would try to treat him as close to normal as the situation will allow. without overdoing all the help as far as doing every little thing for him like he can't accomplish things for himself. if you want a normal child , u will have to treat him normal... and routine is great, but that may add to OCD. So don't be afraid to mix it up,...the park one day, and a movie the next. and don't forget to enjoy everyday....take good care and god bless

ohh yea, the hopping with the hands flapping on the tip toes,... i use to call that my sons happy dance,..he was and still is a very happy boy, going into second grade and attends regular classes, rides a bicycle, dirtbike, quad, karate, and so much more,..he is my best friend......and just some 411,... I am the dad......

I sd it in another thread but i wanted to start a new one so i wouldnt hyjack the current thread

my son was diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome today, which is a mild type of autism. Im still researching this, but if ANYONE has insight or knowledge on this please please email me : hockeygir@gmail.com...im desperate right now.

His peds other concern was Joshuas OCD. Hes bad with it. example: if you give him chicken nuggest and fries and you give him the plate with the nuggest and fries on the right hand side and ketchup on the left side, he will refuse to eat it, if you flip it, he also refuses as he knows it was wrongly placed in the first place. I have to place his food correctly on the plate for him to eat. Tonight he spent 15 mins fixing things in my closet as he noticed a pair of shoes were not lined correctly.

The Asperger's syndrome part is mainly, he sings to express himself, hes 3 and still talking like hes 1, he uses 2 word sentences. when he watches tv, he stands infront of it and hops while flapping his hands. Theres more things but im so tired right now.

Im so numb, and confused, angry and i dunno.

HI, these challenges are not the end of the world. Get him some help and brush up on the resources available to you and ur son. but over time the habits that r so strong now should fade quite abit.. redirection if he focuses too long r too deep on something is nessessary from time to time, but let him do alot of things for himself, ex.. get a drink of water, or get dressed. along with alot of socializing is great. A day care with a regular style class can be of help.... I raised my son fro 2 years old with the same symptoms, at first I was crushed, but then little at a time we got by the obstacles. he is now almost 8 years old and the improvements r nothing short of amazing. just my opinion, but, I would try to treat him as close to normal as the situation will allow. without overdoing all the help as far as doing every little thing for him like he can't accomplish things for himself. if you want a normal child , u will have to treat him normal... and routine is great, but that may add to OCD. So don't be afraid to mix it up,...the park one day, and a movie the next. and don't forget to enjoy everyday....take good care and god bless

I believe there might be some mistake or either they have lot of applications for I130 petition. Guys also remember I130 petition is for immediate relative. your parents, spouse and children under 21 all fall under same category.

Where can I find information on what states are covered under Vermont? I know NJ is included under VSC and they have lot of filers.

I feel now I've done a big mistake by not going for K3. Is it too late look at my timeline I received NOA1 April 29th abt 1.5 months ago.

I believe u meen K1 not K3 and I don't think its too late at all. and the fee should be waived. check into it it should still save u alot of waiting

Mine was like, "Hm...ur shy girl arent u...." ya he found exactly how shy I am when I punched him for sayin that. Ya we didnt really get a long at first but now its all good.

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LOL! yes i do agree with you....that would wake him up....hehehhee....he wont probably forget for the rest of his life the day that u punched him....hehhe if he tried to look back he will just laugh...

my husband and i argue over how many kids we want...he lives in the country and he has seven brothers and sisters so he thinks its easy to have that many up here...I just want two and he wants like 5...so everyday we go back and forth and I tell him it is not that easy in USA especially in NY to have that many kids and live comfortable...He also tries to tell me how it is up here and he never been here before in his life...I am all about living comfortable and not struggling...who isn't...so we try to stay away from this topic as much as possible because we know its going to start a huge fight....and we also argue about his attitude towards getting stuff done for this visa process...he is too laid back and thinks we have some much time to do everything and I am more of the type that says if we can do it now why not get it over it...so we argue when i tell him to go get this or do that and he tells me i'll do it next month or something...we lost 9 days because i was waiting on him to get me the docs for his DS230 because he waited until last minute to do it since he didn't think we would have gotten so far with this whole process...i blame him why we are in this predicament right now that our stuff is not yet completed...if he sent it to me on time I would have probably would have gotten a case complete already...MEN...you got to love them....

OK, OK,....I am a man and I started this...lol... yes we r more use to seeing things get done at a fast pace..we see ouorselves as ambitious, others see us as pushy, and do we care?. not really as long as it gets done TODAY... NOT TOMORROW..BUT I agree there is no reason to drag this already frustrating process out..thanks for the reply

My husband has been here since January and the first two months things were cool - no arguments/quarrel. But by the third month (April) and he still hadn't received his work permit that's when the arguments began - it would seem like everyday.

He went into depression mode because he couldn't contribute to the household - I explained to him over and over that things would be okay and just to chill and relax - but he couldn't. So since he was depressed/frustrated - everything was an argument. Example - why don't you show me the bills? You're already depressed about not being able to contribute - so if you see what your wife has to pay every month - without complaint - will you stop starting arguments?

Sorry so long - just wanted to vent!

hey, its just nice to know we are with good company....remember keep ur eye on the prize

Well at least for us, its not just USCIS or NVC, its every thing.

My hubby needs a push (more than just ONE push) to get his work done. From getting a credit card for himself, to renewing his state id, to arranging his room, to calling his dad, to reminding him about his tax payment and well the usual waking him up every morning by 5:30am.

Its kind of funny how we live so apart from each other but I still rule his world and till the time he doesn't hear me yelling at him to do these things, he doesn't do it. So basically if he has anything important to do, he just lets me know once and then he knows I will after him till the work is done. WoW, I feel such a good baby sitter........opps hubster sitter

ps: glad he doesn't read visajourney

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You're so funny.....glad that he really doesn't read VJ..lol ....for sure if he does...that would probably start your arguments....hehhehe

We met in person, but our relationship didn't really *bloom* until he went back to Toronto. He apparently exported them all to a txt file being the super geek he is. I do have one that exemplified the super geekified boy he is though! It said something like:

<insert many lines of cute programming/scripting here that I cannot remember> and the funniest line I have ever read in coding:

You have hacked my systems and installed yourself!

/end

ahahahahahahahah

LaL you don't know how good that makes me feel to read that. I'm so happy to know that my man is not the lone super geek out there

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Yes I agree with you,....i find it really funny and cute....for sure if you will read this always you will really smile....and it will make ur day good...if i remember this quote i will really smile a lot...

Nick and I met on a video game so we were chatting for awhile before he actually sent me an email which simply said:

"Laura, I really like you and I'm missing you while you are at work"

I've kept every single email Nick has ever sent me on myspace and in my inbox.

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That's sounds really admiring...did you print that on a hard copy? If you ask me...if i print it ...my answer is YES...coz i want to reminisce it when we get old....hehehehe...

No. That email account got hijacked.

Just want to know, who did hijacked your email....? hehehhe does they ask for ransom? jokeeeee

hmmn. sometimes we had disagreement once a month just like this morning, we had a little misunderstanding but we immediately resolve it. wether he or I made the first move to reconcile I love him more when we had a fight..... lol but i firmly believe that i was really made for him and I praise God for blessing me with wonderful man in my life.

it seems to me that 1 quarrel a month is standard (LOL) . ENJOY THE QUARREL , COZ MAKING UP IS OHHHHH SOOOOO FUN !!!

This topic was requested by my hubby....anyway sometimes we do also disagree or quarrel for something....but we always make sure we settle it as soon as possible...how about you?

one of the things we disagree on is who will get more replys on their topic,....so please post a reply and help me win... it will be the first quarrel i ever won,...thanks Ron

Very often, especially when he is telling me how some things goes in US and he never been here, LOL....

well he will be there soon, and you can show him what u speak of,....good luck and congrats..Ron

This topic was requested by my hubby....anyway sometimes we do also disagree or quarrel for something....but we always make sure we settle it as soon as possible...how about you?

Hello everyone...to start this journey this is my husband ron wrote:

Hi, my name is Ron from singleparent.com would you like to chat?..

I met my husband in singleparent.com .... this is also a yahoo services...

I'm having a good time reading your messages here, so i decided to join also.....so enroll din me dito...hehheehe..anyway i met my husband in sinlgeparentmeet.com this is a yahoo services also...

Here's also our wedding pic... my husband here is so funny he loves to do this....lol...but its cute...