Beauty by Tsuki

This is going to be my last post in this topic, but I want to reemphasize that our country is a homophobic country and any narrative to frame it less is misleading and it could be potentially dangerous for the LGBT people who actually live in Indonesia because international pressure could subside with that framing. Just because LGBT people doesn't get death penalty for being LGBT doesn't mean it's not a homophobic country. Living in hiding, constant fear of being raided while out and about and only can do it at the death of a night, no protection from the government, risk of being fired from work, 90% of Indonesian citizen polled felt threatened by the LGBT community, extra marital law that could target LGBT community while getting old while being single is still looked down upon, constant hate in social media for being out, self hate that still rampant amongst LGBT people, every LGBT rights group should operate in low profile, just a few months ago ASEAN LGBT Advocacy Week in Jakarta was cancelled and moved because of massive protest from the citizen including the biggest most influential religious group and the government was basically saying nothing. Oh, and of course no same sex legalization. Thank you so much for the suggestion and yes, my boyfriend could come to Indonesia safely and won't be stoned, but that doesn't mean there's no limitation and what little freedom he has would only be because his foreign citizenship (and he looks foreign), but I would not put him through that, also we're both not in abundance of money and when every decision is a make or break, we couldn't afford to buy our way through the law if something happens.

Thank so much for all the suggestions, definitely would think about it further. I have to admit money is also our obstacle because we have a limited amount of it, so every decision feels like make or break. Also, I live near Jakarta and I don't notice any kind of gay communities there, we are oppressed and signs of queerness in the public would only invite public backlash and even criminal prosecution. If there's one it's definitely at night and very hush hush and to picture it as big I feel like is a misnomer. Besides, once again, I'm closeted (in the meantime) and to venture there with the risk of being raided is not for me.

I met my current boyfriend a few months ago through online games. We're both at our early 30s and like each other that we decided to be serious about our relationship, but agree that it'd be better to meet irl first. It's only natural that I'm the one who visit him in the US because I come from Indonesia, which is a homophobic country and I'm planning to do it by applying for tourist visa. Besides, if we are getting serious, of course I'm the one who's going to go there. Additional info: he has a steady job with tight schedule, I'm currently unemployed and almost finish my education, he resides in New Mexico, I have more than 10k$ in my savings, I'm currently living with my parents so no property in my name although one of my parent's car is in my name, I've been to Singapore and Saudi Arabia (muslim pilgrimage which I did because I am closeted) in the past 7 years, have a plan to go to Singapore again in December (not guaranteed yet). We are talking about meeting in either Canada or New Mexico, but would love to meet in his house instead, getting to know his family and the environment he lives in. I know my case would be hard, nevertheless I wonder what should I do to convince them that I'm going to come back to Indonesia. Thanks for the help.