nycgirl

I'm the only one bashing this thread? Okaaaaaay Jenny girl. I have broad shoulders. I'll bear that burden.

Pease bear in mind that while everyone here has an opinion, there is one VERY IMPORTANT person who does not have a say here. And that's Valsu's wife.

While it would be arrogant and presumptuous of me to think that I can speak for her, I certainly don't have to buy into his story. He clearly outlined his persona in the very first thread, and while he HAS CHANGED (hallelueah!!!) and protests the very reference back to that thread, it is still within my rights to express my opinion about his behavior. MY OPINION.

If someone wants unconditional suport, I suggest that they turn to their church, their closest friends, or maybe PM members who have "suffered" the same fate.

He came here seeking a podium to trash his imigrant wife, promote his savior (Jeff Owens), and seek unconditional support for his situation. Sorry, he's not geting it from me.

banned?

What value??

Money problems are not a good excuse?

If you can't afford it, you can't afford it. Plain and simple.

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Money problems need to be sorted out before you get married.

If you can't afford it, then you don't have a right to get an alien fiance here and marry her and subject her to this uncertainity about her future here.

It seems plain and simple to you because you are not out of status, illegal and in jail right now.

What could have been more important than to make sure that your wife had a legal status in this country?

Private School!!! Of course. Doesn't every child deserve private school before the legal status of their beloved? Somebody seems to think so!

And besides, does it really matter who's reading the thread? I LOVE to be intriguing, so if I thought this was intriguing, then IT'S ME!!! IT'S ME!!!!

Hmmmm... Anyone paying attention to the user log? (if that is what it is called). Notice anything intreuging? Changing from anonymous to member name?

Are you referring to me??? Oh yes, very intriguing indeed!!!!!! I am at work and need to log out every once in a while! Ok, inspecta???

My dear Val. You chose to post the details of your life on a pubic forum. As such, you open yourself up to criticism, support, empathy or whatever other responses your posts conjure up. Those posts just happen to fill me with doubt as to your honesty and intentions. Many others doubt your story, but I am the only one you attack... Hysterical.

I also find it funny to me..... that you previously posted that your wife would NEVER read these threads ( I believe that you mentioned 8 billion people blah blah blah), and now you are saying that she is savvy to these sites and will definitely be reading these? Oy. What a way to shoot yourself in the foot!

Well, if you are reading this, miss,......... be strong, !!!!

hey,hey,hey - watch those first time remarks! The first time my wife and I met in person it was to get married. We're doing good though

Sorry!!! At first I thought I read "in prison" and then I realize you said in person!!

I'm sure he'd give them to you. He doesn't need them anymore!!!!

(wants to help and bids 4 cents for the marriage counseling CD's)

When do the witty responses begin?? I'm waaaaaaaaaaaaiting.

Couple questions: You filed initial papers for your wife (fiance visa) after knowing her for 3 weeks, correct?? Looking back, do you think that was wise?

When you "worked out all your problems" during the prison visit, did you happen to bring up the fact that she called you a "slave driver" to her sister? Is that resolved?

How do you plan to pay the attorney?

No, I knew her much longer than three weeks. Not sure where you're getting that from.

Yeap, resolved all of our major issues. She told me she just said a lot of things in anger. Something we both had been guilty of.

Well, I was going to ask you to pay for her attorney, but decided to start selling everything in our home on eBay, etc, instead, and try to come up with the monies with what we have first. The attorney gave me payment arrangements as well.

Time goes on, and I’ve written her poems, and even a song. She would sing to me from time to time as well, and wrote me some poems too. Our relationship built up very intensely and things begin heating up, so I decided I couldn’t wait any longer—I made a trip to the Philippines to meet this amazing woman for the first time.

The night I arrived, we flew into each other’s arms with a kiss, right in the middle of the road at the airport. We spent the most amazing 3.5 weeks together after that, and then suffered the incredible torture of me returning home to the States. Once I arrived, I went to work rapidly on her K1-Fiancée Visa petition, and did a ton of work putting it together myself (I got a compliment on the quality of it and the concise organization at the interview ïŠ ). We got no RFE’s, thank God, and I flew back to the Philippines again to be with her during the interview. We spent another 3.5 amazing weeks together after the successful interview, and then we flew back to the States together side by side. We were so excited during the whole interview process, and very confident as well since we went into it together.

mmmmmmmm.......okay, mr. witty???????

When do the witty responses begin?? I'm waaaaaaaaaaaaiting.

Couple questions: You filed initial papers for your wife (fiance visa) after knowing her for 3 weeks, correct?? Looking back, do you think that was wise?

When you "worked out all your problems" during the prison visit, did you happen to bring up the fact that she called you a "slave driver" to her sister? Is that resolved?

How do you plan to pay the attorney?

No, I knew her much longer than three weeks. Not sure where you're getting that from.

Yeap, resolved all of our major issues. She told me she just said a lot of things in anger. Something we both had been guilty of.

Well, I was going to ask you to pay for her attorney, but decided to start selling everything in our home on eBay, etc, instead, and try to come up with the monies with what we have first. The attorney gave me payment arrangements as well.

With regards to money.........Sure, have HER contact me. I would be happy to help her.

Your original post states that the FIRST TIME you met, you spent three weeks and a half together, and then you flew home and filed her paperwork right away. I'm not talking about Internet contact. That doesn't count. If it did, you and I would practically be engaged by now!!!!!

And you are very witty indeed!!!!

Do you think his wife is having a merry christmas? Do you think that she's in peace sitting and rotting in prison?????

As objectionable as anyone may find my comments, I suppose the venom comes as a direct result of my sympathy for this woman.

Although it is locked, you can still read the original thread. I encourage you all to do so. If you have empathy and support for this man, then we are seeing very different things!!

Also, please quote me correctly. I did not say I was "having fun with certain replies." I said, "I will not respond to every "attack," but who knows which ones I may go out of my way to have fun with."

I agree it is pointless, but it's certainly not childish to respond to the flamers with wittiness.

When do the witty responses begin?? I'm waaaaaaaaaaaaiting.

Couple questions: You filed initial papers for your wife (fiance visa) after knowing her for 3 weeks, correct?? Looking back, do you think that was wise?

When you "worked out all your problems" during the prison visit, did you happen to bring up the fact that she called you a "slave driver" to her sister? Is that resolved?

How do you plan to pay the attorney?

Okay, you win. I will leave this highly entertaining thread! I wish you a fantastic life (bearing in mind that "fantasy" is the root word of fantastic)!!!!

Nycgirl you bitter @ the world?? didnt get that from your post. Just realistic good planning and the others looking out for woman. Not all of us live inside our own obsessive head.

Not bitter at all!! In fact I wanted to tame it back a little. Don't want to be seen as THE CRAZY ONE on the this thread. That title is reserved for someone else.

Sorry if some of you don't like my comments and/or delivery. But in my opinion (and of course its only my opinion) this story is a fraud. I'm calling like I see it, and that's the whole point of an open forum. For those of you that are wholeheartedly supporting and advising the OP, that's your prerogative.

My problem with the OP started with the TITLE of the first thread. This is the woman he supposed LOVES with all his heart and would do ANYTHING for, right???? and in the title of the thread, he basically calls her a VISA FRAUD. What kind of love is that? And who would want to chase after (hunt down) a wife that you claim to all is a Visa Fraud?

The whole story is very suspect. His behavior is borderline abusive (and we're only hearing HIS side of the story) and his facts are questionable AT BEST. I posed this question regarding his finances and NEVER got an answer: Why couldn't he take out a home equity loan, or a loan against his 401K. I refuse to believe that an ADULT with two young children would be in a situation that you can't scrape up $1500. I'll bet he would find the money if his children were sick and needed medical attention. There was no priority put on his wife's situation. Plain and simple.

I suggest you quit twisting around things I say, and let others learn from some of these lessons. After going through these things firsthand, I'll certainly be able to help someone else in a similar crisis in the future.

Life is nothing more than a learning experience, and of course, once we figure it out, we die.

You have no lessons to "teach" people here. People should follow the laws, and carry out their responsibilities as the husband or wife of an immigrant, and they will be fine.

and by the way..............stop answering me and get a life. Can't you see that I was testing your priorities????????? You FAILED!!!! Get off the Freaking internet and deal with your problems!!!!

Ok, mods, shut this #### down!!!!

I think it's plain sad they should endure such a horrible situation along with true criminals. Men and women who have paperwork flaws should be held in a much more accomodating facility than that.

My point is that immigrants are treated like scum by these places, and it's not right on any level.

Just remember my friend, that it is your actions (or lack thereof) that placed her in such a horrible situation, being treated like scum. Congratulations!!! You've finally broken her........... at last this once proud woman is being forced to crawl back to her abuser for help. Bravo!!!

One more question, smart ###....is it ICE detention or Jail? Because if its ICE detention, surely there aren't hardened criminal in there with your precious MAID oops, I mean WIFE.

You should be ashamed to even speak of GOD.

Sheesh ####### is all this #######?

The most awesome story ever told. That's what it is!

Indeed. Emphasis on STORY

as in "made up"

Really......this is my last comment...........and please, despite my sarcasm and suspision, can you answer this seriously? HOW did you meet all those innocent victims in prison? All those MEN and WOMEN? Are you telling me that Men and Women are being housed together? Just please answer that question and lets end this charade.

Well, praise the Lord!

I finally got to see my prodical wife face to face today for almost 2 hours, and it was amazing. She was amazing!

Sorry, just ONE MORE thing...............did you mean to say "Prodigal Wife"? Cause there's no such word as Prodical. So if you meant "prodigal"......... are you aware that PRODIGAL means "wastefully or recklessly extravagant"

Is that what you meant to say about wifey??? WOW.

I finally got to see my prodical wife face to face today for almost 2 hours, and it was amazing. She was amazing!

The guards at the facility are extremely nice and accommodating, and let us spend much more time than we were initially allowed since there were no other visitors.

One more thing.......If there were "no other visitors" as you state, you would have had no opportunity to meet OTHER INMATES. Visiting section of EVERY PRISON is in an area separated from GP (general pop.), and the only inmates that have access to the visiting area are inmates WITH VISITORS.

You are a fake. In one way or another.

You won't like my answer, but I spoke with the actual Border Patrol Officer who arrested my wife.

He made some very challenging statements, and said that the previous approval processes are run by the department of state. He said, "they (the DoS) don't truly know how we (Border Patrol) operate, and he said he doesn't care what stages in the process anyone is. If they find someone in possession of an out of status visa/passport, they are going to arrest them immediately and place them in prison the same way they did my wife. Whether they get themselves out of prison is their problem."

When I was at the prison visiting my wife, the guards told me that many of the people in the facility were actually legal--many just caught without papers, or such--most just "out of status" as they call it. One mexican lady was even voluntarily leaving the country back to Mexico, and 25 miles from the border, her bus was pulled over and raided by border patrol, and they carried her back to prison--where she's been for 3 months now awaiting a deportation hearing--even though she had a ticket back to Mexico and was leaving voluntarily.

After learning about everything outside of what USCIS tells us, I will advise you this:

NO! DO NOT SPEND ANY MOMENT PROCRASTINATING! Plead with your friends! Go give them some money, print the forms for them, do whatever you can to get their process going right away.

The ####### that goes on in our country makes me want to find another country to live in, seriously.

Especially after meeting so many innocent men and women in that prison. Poor people caged up like animals just because of paperwork flaws. Some of them even had walking chains--how sad.

Ok, lets cut right to the chase......can we seriously believe a word you say? First of all, having had a loved one in the prison system, I can tell that you are FLAT OUT lying.

NO ONE, I REPEAT NO ONE gets to speak to the "officer who arrested your wife" about the case. It simply doesn't happen. No officer of the law would EVER speak with you about a pending case, especially one in which you are the defendant's husband. That statement is laughable.

Next, NO PRISON GUARDS in this country would dare speak about the guilt or innocence of inmates. They would lose their jobs. Having been a visitor to more than one prison in my life, I can tell you that the demeaner of prison guards (while on duty) is pretty standard. IT IS NOT one of chattiness and feeling sorry for the inmates. Unless of course, you happen to meet them off duty (like you coincidentally met those shelter workers!!!). Another tall tale.

And finally, how the hell did you meet "SO MANY INNOCENT MEN AND WOMEN in THAT PRISON" When I visited my friend, I had limited time, and I certainly wasn't moving around from table to table, meeting all the "innocent" inmates. I was concentrating on the person closest to me, AND ONLY THEM. So in the limited visiting time at the prison, you managed to solve ALL the problems of your marriage, charm the pants off the guards and get them to admit the innocence of most of the inmates, AND Meet all of those great innocent people too!!!! WOW, amazing. Your story stinks to HIGH HELL

Guys and Gals, I think this is a sham poster, this Valsu and someone just pulling all our legs. Later!

God is a very big part of some people's lives and your comment is an attempt to undermined what others value.

god is a cognitive construct that people substitute for self actualisation in order to keep their lives under control.

unfortunately, this construct often fails, for example, everything we have read the OP say about his life, which is in a total shambles.

god won't take care of you, buddy. it's time to "man up" or go under.

Exactly. No one can be THIS demented. Its just an elaborate advertisement for Pastor Jeff Owens, another quack!!!