ezzie

Moral of the story - if you have a spouse from any country who is a good person, then you should thank your lucky stars, rather than the way he/she was raised. There is good and bad in any culture. And culture does not make character. That comes from the person within, no matter where they were born.

I think our parents will be offended if our husbands will thank their lucky stars, rather than the way we were raised.

Just saying..

Congratulations

Sounds like like most interviews are very straightforward at USEM. That's what we expect. Of course, we are one of the ones who are expecting to get a 221g because our HK Police Clearance won't be there in time...but just to hear those magic words you heard will make us very, very happy.

Dont expect a 221g! You'll never know, it might not even be asked. Stay positive, we will be rooting for you. God bless you, my dear. Im pretty sure you will also hear the magic words.

ezzie

ahhhhh so i understand that you want facts provided by the phillipine govt.????????

what makes you think they will ever tell the truth???

most govt. officials in the phils say only what they are paid to say!!!!!!

this i have seen and experienced

much more reliable than any philippine agency statistic

Well, I asked because you gave a figure based on experience, and could be misleading, and of course not more reliable, as if you've seen everything in the Philippines. Filipinas like us, can't even exactly say, and we grew up here, that's why I had to ask.

This is a forum where people interact and share valuable information. I took it upon me to post responsibly as I deem it unfair to dispense erroneous and misleading information. If you differ with my postings I encourage you to address it constructively instead of implying that I am misleading my fellow Filipinos. It will be appreciated if you straighten something with facts than with censorious remarks.

Thank you.

Very well said.

I don't think it matters, Fili or Kano, gotta be careful and alert always. Word to the wise....if you don't do your homework before you travel to another country...you make yourself a victim even before you get there.

I second that. Be alert, pay attention all the time, and know what you could possibly encounter- even in first world. It's just different scams in different countries.

Thanks, guys! I wish you all the best.

BTW, I was trying to listen ( you can actually hear it if you seriously pay attention to it)to other interviews for fiance/fiancee/spousal visa ( cuz ours is IR2), and they were routinely asking the same questions. How did you meet, when was the last time he/she visited, how do you communicate, show me your pictures together, what does he do for a living, what do you intend to do when you get to the US..Basically everyone made it in Manila, except for one who was requested to submit another document. Maybe they should just record their questions, as it's all the same. LOL. But that's good for us.

Good luck, guys!!

And Lidia, we are among the few left of the TSC blackhole batch. Go get it, gurl!!

ezzie

When you love your child their age matter little compared to everything else involved in the parent-child relationship.

Very right. Even the worries and anxieties are hard to shake off when it comes to them. I'm just so glad that the father consented, and we just had a compromise which is good for the child, and not that what is good for us. At the end of the day, it's the child's well-being that matters.

Being the first in our batch, we are now pleased to deliver the good news. Yes, we passed it! Cheers to all of us, and may we all be reunited with our families back home!

ezzie

Not to get to personal but is he a good father, I mean does he have a good relationship with the child?

If he's afraid that he'll lose his child by consenting to the move then I don't know what you can do to ease that fear.

From his point of view I'd imagine he knows how difficult it would be for him to travel to the US to see the child and regardless of how amicable things are between the two of you he really doesn't have any assurance that you'll bring or send the child back regularly to visit him. Even if you promised and he had it in writing how could he enforce it if you decided not to keep up your end?

By some miracle, and just 4 hours before my son's interview sched, I now have the affidavit allowing the child to immigrate. It's past 3am in Manila, and my ex-husband's lawyer came to the house and handed it to me. He said the Dad hasn't been sleeping..and he was just with him. And Bob, you were right about the father's fear; but my son is 17 now and he was finally leaving the decision to my son.

i read this information from the Phillipine Star Newspaper while in general santos.

i cannot produce a web link or anything for my quotes.

as much as i hate to say this about any human race but, poverty forces women to do unthinkable things.

this i have witnessed for myself.

Okay. I've just seen you've already answered my previous question. Please post stuff that can be verified, and not draw sweeping conclusions just because you've seen or witnessed it.

thanks.

.

80% of the children being born in the phils is currently by unwed mothers.

Really??? Where did you get this data? Is this based on fact?

Good morning from Manila, VJ fam! The 1st of July is our sched, and that's tomorrow. Please say a little prayer for us..I hope everything goes well, and I wish to bring good news. Good luck everyone!

It hurts my ear whenever my husband says "Where's the keys?"...And I always repeat in my head that it should be- Where ARE the keys. I used to correct him, but he says"Nah, ours is easier to say".

One time he noticed I made a face, and he followed it up with- "Well over here, babe, that's how we say it. It may be grammatically wrong, but that's how we grew up saying. If you say it like you say it, people will think you're weird (jokingly). We don't use textbook English."

I still say- WHERE ARE THE KEYS?

I love this thread!

In PI, we say- EAT ALL YOU CAN ( literal translation- Kainin mo lahat ng gusto mo; Filipinos use the verb first in the sentence most of the time). In the US as you all know- ALL YOU CAN EAT.

Boy, was it scary driving in the US after years of driving in the anything-goes mayhem of Manila traffic. It was unnerving trying to follow traffic rules for a change!

I know..This was my one major change. Been in and out of the US, but the relatives were the ones driving. It looked so easy, knowing I could easily navigate the jungles of Manila. But when it was my first time, my then fiancee and now husband kept getting mad at me for all my wrong moves. It's hard to teach an old dog ( hey, I am not yet old though) new tricks! But because we are Filipinos, we can adapt easily.

I became a disciplined driver, but I am now back in Manila; kept having a heart attack with the way my sister was driving from the airport. But then I drove here on my second day, and I was back to how I was. Now my sister is telling me not to drive here anymore.

I read that in Yahoo news, but I didn't see that the nurse was from the Philippines.

Thank God, someone recognized the hard work of one of our kababayans..

"I feel like my cervix is swollen"- literal translation

Cervix is a part of the uterus, the one that dilates during childbirth. The uterus is the "matris". The uterus is the organ that is the "womb".

The cervix is found at the end of the vaginal canal, looks like "lips", when seen with a vaginal speculum.

Stay positive. Good news is on its way!

As for annulment, I dont see the need for it. Perhaps my ex should be the one contemplating on that as he's the one living in the Philippines.

It is good news especially for those that don't know about this and in a similar situation as I am.

Definitely good news for those in the dark with regards to the same situation.

Does that cover adultery also? I ask this because they are 2 different things. I it does but you might still want to go through the Annulment process in the Philippines. If that's true then it's good news for anyone it that situation.

It's too bad that your ex won't sign the papers for your child, has he given you a reason why? As a father I can understand a man being afraid to loose his child. I know I would never agree to my ex-wife moving my daughters to another country permanently but then again I'm also the kind of father who has had custody of my daughters since the divorce.

No, he refuses to talk to me about it, even for a compromise. Perhaps he has the same reason as you do. But I am also a parent, and I am not forcing my child to come with me. If I can't take him at this time, then I would have to wait, as others suggested.

Ezzie,

You do realize that if you ever return to the Philippines you're in a bad spot, right?

You can't get your divorced recognized because the marriage was between two Filipino citizens in the Philippines. You need an Annulment and even then the Philippines won't recognize your current marriage. Of course this isn't a problem for you in the US but if you ever return to the Philippines before you naturalize it can cause problems for you there.

For example there was just an episode of Locked-up Abroad where a Philippine woman was arrested for adultery because she was pregnant by her British boyfriend and her abusive Ex (but still legally married) husband found out.

Hi Bob..I was in the US when I filed the divorce and my ex signed it. In the Philippines, we are still legally married. There are so many intricacies in Annulment because of the hypocrisy in the system, but that's another story.

I don't ever want to be locked up!

hi guys, im 3 months pregnant and with my husband working for the both of us right now we cant afford the insurance his job offers. It's too much and he we're on a very tight budget. My interview with uscis is next month. Is there anyway i can get any help? Charity care maybe at a hospital? I know no insurance will cover me because i'm labeled as a pre existing condition. Please help, thanks

If you happen to be in CA, they have Medi-Cal. You will be taken cared of. God bless you and your baby.

You're welcome,mine is already recognized here and it took me 10 months to finalized in court plus a month NSO processing.

You first hehehe... yours is on july 1 ryt? in my case i don't know whereabouts of my ex .

Lucky you, you have finality...

OT: Hey, I like your "love journey"..made me sing...

I just may add ,yes there is no divorce here but you can file recognition of foreign divorce .

Now this is something new to me..Thank you so much for this information.

Will keep you posted on what happened...BTW, when is your interview?

Ooops, I just saw you have yours July 8...

Ezzie, were you married to the child's father?

Unfortunately, I am actually still married to him under Philippine law. I divorced him in the US, and it was granted. Since there is no divorce in the Philippines, I am still legally married to him in the Philippines, since we did not file for annulment. Anyone who is, or had the same case a mine would know, that annulment is such a big issue here, with all the hypocrisy. With the divorce, we have joint custody.

With regards to the affidavit, I have just talked to someone here on VJ who recently had the interview with her daughter, and she did not have the consent. I am awaiting news from her re: her departure and at the POE.

I know prayers and a positive attitude is not enough, but that's all I have at the moment.

I am thinking, if the father comes to the airport and my son cannot board, I will wait till he turns 18. We would have to redo the medical, but i would have 3 days leeway between his 18th birthday and the expiration of his visa for him to come over to US.

Any thoughts...?